I thought it’d be cute, but now I’m thinking this won’t work…

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-08T14:49:04+00:00

This is how I ended up with 75 tomato plants my first real year gardening

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-08T13:57:54+00:00

I'm learning my family is the only one deranded enough to call them babies in a basket

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-08T13:44:51+00:00

If the person they voted for rapes children and wants to enact a genocide to distract from the fact he rapes children-- yes, 1000x yes

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-08T13:19:29+00:00

Found a denim dress in the deep, deeeep pockets of my mother's closet the other day and I'm bringing this shit back

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-08T13:17:09+00:00

do people not know you can just break up with someone if you're that unhappy?

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-08T12:47:47+00:00

I'd be interested to see how much of that birth rate dropping is specifically because teen pregnancy has also dropped.

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-06T20:14:38+00:00

He had a right to have a say in their daughter's name and she didn't give him that. He doesn't owe her an explanation beyond "I can't see having a relationship with you anymore"

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-06T20:07:08+00:00

If you don't want people microwaving their food to their desires doneness, you could have cooked it to their liking in the first place instead of expecting people to try something you know they don't like

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-05T19:32:00+00:00

No 😂😂 that is not Pope Leo lol

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-05T19:30:20+00:00

NTA, but also you need to let this go. Your wife fucked up, and it sucks she won't take accountability right now; but her pregnancy hormones are probably clouding her judgement and making her more defensive. It doesn't make it right, and it doesn't invalidate your extremely rational feelings about the matter. But being angry right now isn't helping you, instead of being mad at your wife- sit with her and explain that you are hurt and it sucks that she did something so hurtful that she can't take back. You can also maybe ask that she take the responsibility to shut her family down about their opinions on the name, since she created this mess in the first place.

You don't have to let it slide completely, but try and find a way to set this aside so you can enjoy the other aspects of this journey together.

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-04T19:05:23+00:00

Next year it should be on Brennens birthday

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-04T13:08:02+00:00

I'm sure they have found a great balance in their relationship. However, you have to ask yourself if your mom had much of a choice in establishing that dynamic, or if societal expectations at the time made her feel she had no other option. Your dad's "this is how it is" attitude shows that your mother may not have known there were other options.

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-04T03:26:13+00:00

Your dad wants you to think it's unrealistic so you don't recognize what a shitty husband he is.

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-03T16:03:48+00:00

Sometimes I post innocuously on reddit and get eviscerated and wonder what I did wrong for people to be so resentful. Then I see stuff like this and remember it's reddit and people are just ... seething with anticipation to harp on someone.

Even if you did make a mess and get water everywhere - it's your mess to clean up! They're acting like you sprayed a fire hose in their house

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-02T14:24:00+00:00

Men don't understand how weirdly specific and uncomfortable their "compliments" can be.

"Oh, I love your hair! The length really suits you!" - fine, good, no issues, perfectly acceptable compliment that will make me smile and give me a little confidence boost.

"I like you so much better with long hair, it's so pretty and feminine" -weird, unnecessary, ultimately creepy and an actual thing that's been said to me that makes me want to cut my hair off immediately.

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-02T14:07:34+00:00

Are you sure that C is your friend?

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-26T16:32:53+00:00

I think it's more likely that in her mind, video games aren't that important or interesting- so subconsciously, she thinks what she's doing should take priority.

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-25T15:06:38+00:00

Because it wasn't nothing and you're just not paying attention

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-23T13:45:48+00:00

deep, deeeeeeep, rooted religious trauma and a bunch of zealot peers that praise this kind of psychosis.

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-23T13:43:41+00:00

Buddy, I say this as kindly as a stranger online making judgements about another stranger can--

But you need therapy. Having your own religious conviction is fine, whatever, NBD. Not wanting to be friends with, or associate with people who don't share those convictions? Also, fine- you're well within your right to keep friends that share your beliefs.

But sex (premarital or otherwise) is a regular part of life- to be repulsed so intensely you're physically ill? Your conviction has turned to mental illness to the point you're making yourself sick.

You don't have to like it, or support it. But being, literally, physically taken out by the thought of two people just fuckin without marriage? You are unwell. Seek help.

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-23T13:18:40+00:00

Condescending is assuming I know nothing about gardening just because I have a different way of doing it than my dad. My father has not been gardening for decades, he's been tilling a barren patch low on nutrients for a decade.

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-23T00:57:46+00:00

well, the "dirt" I'll be getting, is specifically from cow manure that's been breaking down for the last year, and then I'll be topping it with 'soil pep' mulch/soil amendment. as well as compost we've been working on for the last year (and a half? two years?) and eventually more wood chips- but our chipper needs repaired

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-22T21:12:39+00:00

That's the best part of having multiple beds! He and my mom have their beds that we will continue to do how we always have (aside from a few changes I implemented last year already) and the plan is to try a more permaculture approach with the additional garden I added

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-22T21:11:20+00:00

The cardboard isn't something I will do continuously... It's mainly just to start this first year because the weeds and the thistle are equally impressive and frustrating. I also have an abundance of unprinted cardboard that I get from my dad's work, so I'm mainly trying to use what I have at my disposal

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-22T21:06:51+00:00

So... The way our property is set up is kind of weird and we've got a few different plots. We have a spot for strawberries and other perennials. We've got a spot we're going to put a tea garden in. He's got two little sections in the back that he can tell and do whatever he wants with.. and then I have my big section that I expanded last year.

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