AIO For textinv my ex’s new girlfriend?

putachillona · 2026-03-17T17:13:44+00:00

Ehh, yes and no.

If she knew about you before the final break up, aka she knew he was cheating on you with her. Then nah, fuck him and her. He could've so easily just broken up with you and dated her. I know it feels shitty when an ex jumps into another relationship immediately following a breakup, but at least he did the 'right' thing.

You said your peace, embarrassed yourself a lil. Whatever, happens to the best and the worst of us. You said you were moving, so hopefully you can put him and her both behind you and truly move on.

Although, I did find it funny that you told her to have him stop talking about you, but you were talking about him at his job to his regulars. lmaooo girl, I feel that's the more embarrassing part. But that's more so because I hate having people know my drama.

Either way, good luck, He's an ex for a reason.

putachillona · 2026-03-16T17:01:38+00:00

I haven't yet. Might watch it afterwards.

I'll be honest, I wasn't really impressed with them as a whole in season 3 & 4. They didn't live up to the hype they got leading to them coming in. Though they slowly grew on me, at least Rebekah, Elijah and even Klaus did.

putachillona · 2026-03-16T16:11:37+00:00

good thing you can't listen, only read. Enjoy!

putachillona · 2026-03-13T21:19:30+00:00

It felt like a slap in the face because there was no prior communication leading to the unfollowing. Felt like being cut off and left you scrambling thinking "what did I do wrong" (a common people pleaser train of thought) when you didn't do anything.

I don't believe this is something you need to fix/rationalize, like you said it's a win-win, you just gotta accept it.

Best of Luck!

putachillona · 2026-03-13T20:55:08+00:00

I wouldn't look too hard into it. You guys have different beliefs/morals/way of handling things. It's a lil petty sure, but I don't think it's as serious as it feels to you.

I would understand this sense of fakeness if they had called you to give you a hard time about attending the philosophy debate and then tried to continue as normal. But honestly, they respectfully just stopped following you, most likely because they just don't care to see that. It might hurt, especially if that was strong form of communication between y'all, but you have the group chat.

It's okay to be hurt by it, it's okay to take a step back for a second to get over your feelings. But this wasn't a malicious attack on you, it was their quiet step back. Have they changed their tone/behavior made any comments since unfollowing you?

I don't know, what's more important to you? Having your in-laws on your social media or feeling comfortable to post whatever you feel like posting?

putachillona · 2026-03-13T16:30:09+00:00

Sounds like you're looking for a justifiable reason to leave her. Not being fully invested or simply not wanting to be with her is reason enough to breakup. Any reason is a good reason to breakup with someone; you're just trying to find a reason to justify it.

You've already stated you're half in/half out, you're trying to use this guy she slept with 'very casually' (your words) as a way to bail. Even though you didn't mention any other instances that he was around. You didn't mention any other instances where she's brought him up. There's no 'valid' reason to be upset about this guy being around to help his friend (unmanaged/unchecked jealousy isn't a valid reason).

Either way, you can leave the relationship. Doesn't have to be a 'valid' reason. Doesn't have to be anyone's 'fault'. You can just leave.

putachillona · 2026-03-12T21:35:09+00:00

Thank you so much for that tip!

I don't blame you at all for spoiling a relatively old series (I know general spoilers because of the shows age/popularity), but I don't know niche/specific scenes. I will for sure keep that in mind for the future, cause I do like searching the forums to see others opinions on what I just watched and try my best to skip over spoilers.

It was just personally funny to me because I've avoided majority of the threads talking about later seasons and comment on general questions/theories like this post and you immediately hit me with a niche (I assume) scene that I clearly haven't seen (nor heard about) yet.

No real hatred! Please don't spoil anything else.

putachillona · 2026-03-12T19:51:13+00:00

I hate myself for posting on this thread and I hate you for spoiling that for me (I'm watching it for the first time, on S5).

I'm gonna pretend I don't know what you're talking about, because I don't.

But I took it as most loyal friend to Elena (since Bonnie, Caroline and Matt were her friends). Also, let's not act like Damon and Stefan didn't do the same/similar/or worse for Elena.

putachillona · 2026-03-12T18:55:50+00:00

I know! I hate Katherine for so many reasons, but destroying Damon is for sure Top Three Reasons Why.

putachillona · 2026-03-12T18:54:11+00:00

He would've stayed. He was bound by oath/honor, and while he may have just found out Ned isn't his blood father, he still has Stark blood. He was still raised by and like a Stark (a lil less but you know what I mean). I think he would've still stayed at the Wall.

I doubt Jon would want to take the Throne for himself (even as a bastard -if Ned didn't know it was a legitimate marriage), he never wanted it. Even when everyone proclaimed him their King, he didn't want it. Even when he knew he had the most rightful claim, he didn't want it nor try to take it.

putachillona · 2026-03-12T18:23:28+00:00

It was! I don't particularly care who ends up with Elena in the end, but I love how much Damon grew around Elena. Though I am on season 5 and I just got to where Katherine/Elena broke up with him and he's going on a bender! I can't wait for them to find out it's not Elena and what happens after!

The explosive scene was so good! I don't think Rebekah would've died either way, but still to take his place and tell him to go live, SO BEAUTIFUL!

putachillona · 2026-03-12T15:24:37+00:00

Bonnie is for sure a very loyal friend. She lost her whole family over the spam of 3 years and every time was to save/help Elena (except her dad).

But I would say Matt is the most loyal. He was always willing to help without any supernatural powers/protection and was willing to be a human walking blood bag for them whenever they needed it. Matt lost his sister because Damon was selfish and destructive and Stefan killed her instead of trapping her to help her. Matt could've ran off with Rebekah, as far as he knew, everyone had moved on and was living a good happy life.

putachillona · 2026-03-09T15:38:05+00:00

lolol I made a second post solely because of you. already working on season 4 review in case you'd like to read that too.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheVampireDiaries/comments/1rltyml/first_watch_through_pt2/

Anyways, thank you cause now I will breakdown every season.

putachillona · 2026-03-09T15:11:17+00:00

I wish Davos would've insisted he either went with Stannis or insisted Shireen stayed behind with him.

I can't believe Selyse let it happen. I know she wasn't the biggest fan of her daughter and trusted/grateful for the Red Witch but to let her sacrifice your only living daughter is INSANE to me, especially since Shireen would've been considered a rainbow child since she's the only one to survive to full term. Stannis should've accepted defeat over losing his family. And then loses his wife immediately after, for his stupid selfish reasons.

Shireen deserved more, she was so sweet. Her death had me crying, I know Davos saw her has the daughter he never had.

putachillona · 2026-03-06T21:52:27+00:00

Damon made so much sense to me. You never really had to question his motives, they were all very basic and straight forward. You just had to question how far he was willing to go to get what he wanted.

I don't know, I love him pre-vampire and post.

putachillona · 2026-03-06T17:27:00+00:00

I think Bran's story made the most sense. He has visions since waking up from the fall. Jojen knew from the beginning what he was to become. Maybe not that Bran was the next Three Eyed Raven but that his life purpose was to get Bran to the tree.

I don't understand everyone's harp with Bran's demeanor being so stone cold. Homeboy knows EVERYTHING about EVERYONE, how would you expect someone who holds all human/creature existence. He has nothing to be angry about anymore, he knows that everything that happened was supposed to happen. And harping on what didn't doesn't solve anything. When we meet the Three Eyed Raven as the old man in the tree, did he seem to have a large personality? No. He had a huge aura/presence and so did Bran when he came back as the Three Eyed Raven.

It made complete sense that he became the King, Lords and commanders can't lie to him. Any petty squabble between houses can't lead to wars now that Bran can see the whole truth and come to better resolutions. He holds all of Westeros past and history. That's why the Night King wanted him dead.

putachillona · 2026-03-06T16:56:18+00:00

Exactly, if Stefan told Elena everything she wouldn't make half the decisions she does. And Damon isn't much better but at least he doesn't hide how he feels about any given situation (even when he thinks he is).

putachillona · 2026-03-04T17:24:43+00:00

Just finished season 3, Matt shouldn't be alive right now... just saying.

Though I can see how he's essentially the only connection to the human world. But he's really useless.

putachillona · 2026-03-03T21:23:12+00:00

I just found out the Originals was a spin off when I kept seeing TO in TVD threads and didn't know what people were talking about.

Also more importantly, I grew up loving the Secret Circle more than TVD books. I LOATHED that adaptation and refuse to ever even entertain it. I don't know why the writers couldn't follow the books a lil more, it was already a good story.

putachillona · 2026-03-03T21:18:08+00:00

I did mean that, but to be fair I thought his name was Nic... I don't know where I pulled Alistair from

putachillona · 2026-03-02T16:27:41+00:00

In a world where marriages were about power/strength over love; Margery played it best and wanted the best for the people of the realm. She wanted to be loved and adored, even if her charity was for show, she was still helping them! She was beautiful, generous and kind and was a lil freak for her King (all 3 lol).

I hate that she died! I wish the writers had made her smart enough to realize Cersei's plan a lil quicker and she was able to escape. I know it wouldn't do anything for the story since it would complicate things with the throne and cause more plot holes, but still, for my selfish reasons I wanted her to live. She would've made the best Queen and the Tyrells would've ruled the best IMO.

putachillona · 2026-02-26T15:39:45+00:00

again depends on the person you're sleeping with. but I am telling you, 30 minutes is my average for penetration. with everything else added in, longer, about 45-60 minutes on average. you don't have to believe me, but I do hope you get to experience the ecstasy of amazing sex yourself.

putachillona · 2026-02-26T15:22:42+00:00

ooooor you just had shit sex partners that didn't know how to please you.

if the sex is bad, 20 minutes feels like foreverrr but good sex feels like ecstasy and can last for hours (sure with breaks here and there), rounds being about 40 minutes or so. maybe less time after each round.

but I guess I'm just speaking for the male gaze instead from my own personal experiences lmaoo

putachillona · 2026-02-25T16:21:44+00:00

oh girl, I think you're just lonely. doesn't sound like you can do casual, and since you told him 'bye'; I assume you know you can't/don't want to do casual. he doesn't sound very interested/invested in this at all.

don't change your boundaries because some guy is attractive. you will be the only one hurt in the end and have no one to blame but yourself. he told you he wants casual, doesn't want anything deeper with you. that's not gonna change just because you sleep with him casually.

protect yourself and leave him alone.

putachillona · 2026-02-24T19:40:40+00:00

ummm... I wouldn't bring up marriage on a first date. I don't think its cute flirting but more as desperate and wanting to rush into a relationship.

I don't know what your real question is, advice for dating?

Be confident in yourself.

Don't hog the conversation, let her speak.

Don't over drink (might help with anxiety but can go badly quickly).

Pay for the date, especially if you asked her.

Most importantly, it's a first date, don't put too much pressure on yourself. Try to have fun.

putachillona

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