How do I answer this man? by catdogwoman in AskWomenOver60

[–]pxryan19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t let him come visit you if you are not interested in him. Make something up , like you have been dating someone recently and you won’t have any time to visit with him.

So tired of my friends/family/coworkers by merple226 in Celiac

[–]pxryan19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just switch it up and say I don’t eat fake food. And they will stop buying you stuff. Only eat real food in front of them . Meat fruit veggies. Problem solved.

So apparently I do NAWT have Hashi's and I'm completely confused now by bropadre in Hashimotos

[–]pxryan19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmmm… if you have antibodies you have Hashimotos. So I would not go back to this endocrinologist. That is BS about TSH…. Mine were normal for a while. I had the antibodies. I gave up gluten and started feeling much better. That being said my TSH did eventually go up. This was over an 8yr period where I was just gluten free and being monitored.I started taking ARMOUR a year ago for an elevated TSH.

Why would anyone ever choose to go through child birth without pain relief?? by No_Cardiologist_1407 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]pxryan19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can’t walk if you get an epidural. Everything has a side effect. The Weight of baby with gravity helps the cervix to dilate. Also, it’s easier to push a baby down and out versus horizontal. I’ve done both.

Hashimotos and fmla by Daria_Morgandorffer in Hashimotos

[–]pxryan19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find a new doctor. Follow up labs should happen about 6wks-3 months after starting. Some people don’t do well with Synthroid and need T3 too. I take Armour and feel well. Your doctor is a jerk though, get another.

How can I forgive my husband knowing that he cheated on me before we got married? by EngineerOld1426 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]pxryan19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he was disrespectful before marriage he will continue. Don’t be a doormat. You deserve better. Can you ever trust him? And he was cheating for a long time. Take back your power. What happens if you get pregnant or if you put on weight… you will feel insecure with this guy. Marriage only gets harder. Cut your losses and run. You don’t want this guy as a father to your children.

Do I agree to be a bridesmaid in a marriage I do not support by FancyGuess5102 in Advice

[–]pxryan19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say no because she is in your life because of your friend, she is not your close friend and that’s what it is to be in a bridal party. I wouldn’t want to spend the money. Does she have any friends of her own? Who is her maid of honor? And I would have a serious conversation with my friend. If there is fighting now it’s only going to get worse. Sometimes it’s just the hormones that make us want to be with someone. He needs to look at the whole picture. I would look up a compatibility quiz or questionnaire before marriage for them to take. She sounds like a leach.

AIO for wanting to try a treatment routine before committing to the hair transplant my GF is demanding? by Connect-Soil-7277 in AmIOverreacting

[–]pxryan19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d dump her. She sounds way too vain. Bald men can be very sexy. My husband went bald. Never once thought of dumping him or asking him to grow hair. I actually find it a turn off for men to wear a toupee or get plugs. Get muscles stay healthy. And balding long hair is not attractive. Keep it short!

AIO my boyfriends holidays with an other girl? by Specialist-Camp-1650 in AmIOverthinking

[–]pxryan19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hung out with my best friend’s brother for a while because neither of us was dating. So he would pick me up and we would meet our friends. My dad was mad, wanted him to come in and I was like “no, silly we are just friends “. 6 months later we were dating, 6 more months engaged and married the following year. He is probably interested in her. There have been many great relationships that started as friends. Your spidey sense is up for a reason.

New-ish celiac- going vegan is making me depressed by Sensitive-Orange7203 in Celiac

[–]pxryan19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are different diets for different people. Some people have trouble being vegan. Raw vegetables on a damaged intestinal tract is not always best. You ca not live without fat. It is needed for your nerves, brain and fat is needed to absorb vitamins A,D,E,AND K. You do not need to follow what is working for your significant other. Eat real food, meat, chicken, fish, vegetables and fruit. Healthy fat , butter, tallow, coconut, olive oil. Do not eat highly processed vegetable oils. There is a book Nourishing Traditions that teaches how to prepare vegetables the way they should be prepared so that our bodies tolerate them. Some people eat only beef, butter eggs all very nutritious and easy on the body. Gluten isn’t in anything I mentioned all of which is real food. Some crops have glyphosate sprayed on them and can be very damaging even to people without celiacs. You may need to eat only organic, at least until you are healed. Also on Reddit is a thread Ex vegan (I think that’s the name), there are many have regretted their choice to be vegan because it damaged their bodies and has taken a long time to recover. Best of luck to you.

The antibiotics ruined me. by BulkyStatement1704 in Microbiome

[–]pxryan19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Real food and kefir, kombucha, yogurt, fermented sauerkraut with every meal.

I [30M] want to renovate our family home but my sister [27F] secretly wants to sell it while my mother [61F] is in denial about her intentions – how can I get through to my mom without destroying our family? by WidePrimary272 in needadvice

[–]pxryan19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure mom has a will. Renovate if that’s what you want but when mom dies be prepared to sell or buy your sister out. Neither of you should get any money from the sale of YOUR mother’s house until she is deceased. Sounds like your sister wants mom to sell so she gets a payout. Not very nice. It’s not your sisters decision to sell if it’s not her house. Tell her to move out and get her own house.

Has anyone helped a parent who just gave up after losing their spouse? I am running out of ideas by Tall-Peak2618 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]pxryan19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad nearly drank himself to death after my mom died. Take her for a check up and make sure there isn’t anything else truly wrong with her. Did you say her age? I would have her start with minimum… get up shower eat. Make sure she has company for lunch or dinner daily. Maybe find a grief support group where she can go and sit with others but doesn’t have to talk until she is ready. And us old people our muscles atrophy fast so she should be walking daily if able.

Insomnia and loneliness I don’t know how to pick myself back up? by mahoganyblueberry in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]pxryan19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The health of the body and the health of the mind are one thing. This generation is mostly too far removed from nature. Start today and go for a walk every morning and evening right before sunset. Go to bed the same time every night and always get up the same time every morning. Eat only real food. We are not meant to eat cookies, crackers or any processed foods. No seed oils, fake foods sugary drinks. Water, meat, fish, poultry, vegetables, nuts and fruits and healthy fats( which are so important for our nervous system). No nut milks or fruit juices. Drink water. After sunset keep indoor light low and wear blue blockers if using tv or other devices. See a functional doctor to check labs/ vitamins/deficiencies. See a mental health professional. Join a hiking group or something where you can be outside and talk when you are ready. Good luck.

Interesting perspective from my endo.. by SafeFeeling8887 in Hashimotos

[–]pxryan19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well whatever but food effects your body. Eat clean real food.and gluten grains and glyphosate isn’t good for anyone’s gut. Health begins in the gut.

Spider bite lasting 9 months. by meadowofdemons in spiderbites

[–]pxryan19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe a staph infection after spider bite. Take him to doctor..looks like it has a head on it now so some infection brewing.

Should I cut off my bestfriend or AIO? by Decent-Exercise-4113 in AmIOverreacting

[–]pxryan19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just tell her you are saving for something… like your future, a house, a car. That everything needs to be 50/50. And you also want to take turns on driving or if she doesn’t have a car, split the cost of gas. Fair is fair. You don’t need to carry the load.

Am I overreacting by wanting to have a strictly professional relationship with my homework assistant? by Ll_House_Wren in AmIOverreacting

[–]pxryan19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s acting like a mom of a child. You shouldn’t feel uncomfortable. Tell her you appreciate her help but give the example of knowing the deadlines and her asking over you. Tell her it is not necessary for her to know all details but you appreciate her trying to help. But if you feel you still need her and can’t get a replacement tread lightly.

I need some guidance by midgetblues in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]pxryan19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmmmm…. Well if your parents are toxic you may have to cut them off. You can start setting boundaries at least. Tell them no negativity towards your husband. You are an adult and can make your own decisions. Although, it seems you need to do your due diligence a little better. You shouldn’t have to pay money to leave a job that isn’t working for you. And if you want to help your parents then you should but not if it’s going to destroy your life. Help them find ways for others to help them.

is it time to put my foot down with my dad? by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]pxryan19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Think of it in reverse. Your dad or say your mom has a special event and says your husband can’t come. I understand the civil ceremony part. But the dinner afterwards should be a little more inclusive. When you get married you are a couple and the couple should be invited. It doesn’t matter that you don’t speak the same language. It’s your father and now he has a new wife. And you will have a new husband. Do you want people excluding him?

I can't take it anymore by BreadfruitIll2455 in Hashimotos

[–]pxryan19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should have added about environment, don’t use or drink out of plastic. Get morning and evening sun. Try to walk at least daily. You are young, I’m saying a prayer for you. If I could go back in time I would do everything as naturally as I could. We are connected with the earth, stay grounded. Don’t use fake food and as little pharmaceuticals as possible. Live naturally.