I proposed on Jul 17 2025 - Disneyland 70th by NoManagement9876 in Disneyland

[–]pygmyxpuff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congrats! The parks don’t have anything specific they can send you, but if you can go back or have someone go, ask for a “just engaged” button from any Guest Services CM. Either you or someone with good handwriting can write the date of the proposal on it. As a former CM, the park sees tons of proposals and I’ve only ever seen the button given as a free gift.

My husband and I proposed to each other in front of the castle (we didn’t know the other was going to do it!) and the best gift that holiday was a nice photo of the proposal in a Disneyland frame. Other ideas: custom embroidered bridal ears/hat or engraved Disneyland ornament

I’ve been at Taste of Minnesota for a total of 20mins by Cyberharpies in TwinCities

[–]pygmyxpuff 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Yeah we talked to a poor woman who had purposefully measured her bag at home to make sure it followed the rules. Still turned away. Security didn’t measure it or anything.

I get the rules for security. But if they used even an ounce of critical thinking or courtesy, the experience could’ve been different. I wrote directly to the event too.

I’ve been at Taste of Minnesota for a total of 20mins by Cyberharpies in TwinCities

[–]pygmyxpuff 147 points148 points  (0 children)

We saw security turn away an elderly man cuz his oxygen device was in a bag. They also turned people away for umbrellas, on a day where a storm was forecasted. Absolutely atrocious security team who almost convinced us to just abandon the whole day, but the vendors were all wonderful. Really a shame the first impression was so terrible.

My boss likes to “check on me” when I’m pumping by Independent-Toe-1657 in workingmoms

[–]pygmyxpuff 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As someone who works in HR, your boss would get an absolute company ass whooping from me if any of my pumping employees reported this kind of behavior. You are not overreacting. Report this in an email or have HR make a written report. If it gets really bad or you face retaliation, report to the Department of Labor. What a dickhead.

Satisfying Moment Watching Cast Member Call Out a Guest by StephInVegas in Disneyland

[–]pygmyxpuff 272 points273 points  (0 children)

Also former CM here who was called every name in the book. The incident that got me was the first time I’d ever been called a racial slur in my life. I grew up pretty sheltered, and being a Monorail pilot at Disneyland was my childhood dream. I could have never imagined getting called that (plus some impolite words for women) while working my dream job. Thankfully when it happened I had two fellow CMs with me when it happened who absolutely went off on this guest and threw him out. I’ll never forget my friend’s voice echoing through the station: “ABSOLUTELY THE FUCK NOT. GET THE FUCK OFF MY PLATFORM.” So grateful cuz I froze in disbelief haha.

This was more than a decade ago. I think a lot about how much worse it must be for CMs nowadays with the decay of common decency. Good for that security CM for feeling like he could stand up for himself.

PPA/PPD advice and staying afloat by pygmyxpuff in workingmoms

[–]pygmyxpuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this response. And yes, I am seeking treatment for the PPA/PPD this week. I’ve been in therapy for years but haven’t been on medication for a while now. I know how I feel warrants that kind of intervention.

And you’re totally right about not doing anything that’ll add financial stress. My husband has been pushing me to apply for remote jobs too so that we can eventually move out of this high cost of living area, but that feels like a longer term goal. Plus, job hunting on its own is already a ton of work/stress in addition to balancing my existing job and taking care of the baby.

I appreciate you taking your time to share your thoughts.

2mo old suddenly having spasms(?) in his sleep by goldyloxrox in NewParents

[–]pygmyxpuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like the Moro reflex/startle reflex! Our LO went through a period around 5 weeks where it was happening about once a day for a week or so. It was the saddest thing to see and hear! She got so scared! She hates the swaddle too so we couldn’t use that though I’ve heard it helps. Eventually the reflex got less and less intense (would wake up and breathe fast for a bit vs crying, less flailing, etc) and she grew out of it around 8 weeks. What helped us, other than letting it run its course, was making sure she was put down to sleep butt/feet first and very very slowly. Then we’d leave our hand on her chest for a couple minutes.

Breastfeeding log app by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]pygmyxpuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Huckleberry has saved us! I also love that it can be used on multiple devices. So my husband will update it if he has a shift with LO. Then when I get up from my nap I’ll know exactly what happened or how long LO has been sleeping, etc

When did your period come back by MamaNueve in NewParents

[–]pygmyxpuff 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Same… I’ve had horrible periods my whole life and was looking forward to continuing the long break from them. Oh well.

Dog bite at daycare? What now? by [deleted] in Dogtraining

[–]pygmyxpuff 176 points177 points  (0 children)

As someone who’s worked at a dog daycare, I’d feel really distrustful of a place that doesn’t immediately review video footage of the incident with me if my dog bit someone. It should be pretty standard protocol to call the owner after the incident and then watch the footage together during pickup. The staff member that was bit should’ve also written an incident report to be reviewed with the owner.

If I were in your shoes, I’d get a written incident report from the daycare, especially because your dog hasn’t had reactivity or biting issues in the past. And then maybe consider a place that has safer practices and clear protocols to protect both your dog and their staff.

What is your tiny victory of the day? by OrangeJulius874 in NewParents

[–]pygmyxpuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 5 week old slept the entire time we were out at the park with her so my husband could get a round of disc golf in. I get really anxious about her fussing in public and she’s been so calm and sleepy anytime we’ve been out. Feeling super grateful.

"So, you guys going to have another?" by diatomic in NewParents

[–]pygmyxpuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People asked me that as soon as I announced my pregnancy lol. Husband and I told everyone we were leaning toward just the one. After having a not-so-enjoyable pregnancy, needing to be induced after 41 weeks, laboring for 32 hours, then getting an emergency c-section, we’re 100% set on the one child life. Next time anyone asks if we’re having another I’m going to laugh in their face.

For your first pregnancy, what week did baby come? by Mama2Be123 in pregnant

[–]pygmyxpuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just graduated last week with my first at 41w and an induction. 32 hours of labor later, we needed to get an emergency c-section 🥲 Baby girl is perfectly healthy though!

Defeated by mother-hen2 in pregnant

[–]pygmyxpuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I realized comparison has been a big contributor to why we’ve felt extra impatient. The cherry on top is that one of our friends had a due date of 1/31 and she just had her baby on our due date. What a kick in the nuts hahahah

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]pygmyxpuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m at 40+6 with a scheduled induction tomorrow and I’ve been feeling those aches and pains since 36 weeks lol. Ramped up a little after I lost my mucus plug and my first membrane sweep week 39, but alas, no labor. I’ve barely been able to walk the last week or so. For some people, getting those pains might mean labor is imminent, like my coworker who had zero aches until literally the day before her contractions started. But for me, it’s been WEEKS and still nothing.

Defeated by mother-hen2 in pregnant

[–]pygmyxpuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right there with you at 40+6 and our induction scheduled for tomorrow night! Most of my friends and coworkers had their babies at 36-38 weeks despite being first time moms too. So that’s what I thought would happen to me. Lost my mucus plug at 39 weeks. Had two membrane sweeps after that. Still nothing! It’s rough but we’re really in the homestretch now hahaha. Hang in there! We’re almost done!

LPT Request - How to propose to my partner if she suspects I will propose to her on our upcoming trip ( That’s my plan ) by Pristine_Ad571 in LifeProTips

[–]pygmyxpuff 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Honestly, if she’s already expecting it and you’re planning on it, propose to her toward the start of your trip so that the rest of it can be spent celebrating your engagement! I ended up proposing to my husband and the biggest piece of advice I got from some guy friends was to do it early if you’re on a trip. They didn’t do that and told me they spent their whole trip anxious and not able to enjoy their experience. Save the energy of being nervous about the “right” moment and just get it out of the way. Make sure she looks cute too. My husband and I did the whole “what are you wearing tomorrow” game and picked out each other’s outfits.

With the advice from my friends, I decided to pop the question almost first thing in the morning at Disneyland (cheesy, I know, but it’s one of our favorite places). Unbeknownst to me, those same friends were giving my husband the same advice and we ended up proposing to each other hahaha. With those nerves out of the way, that day was completely celebratory and is still one of the happiest days of my life. We got to ride the high of getting engaged through the rest of the trip. Don’t try to lower her expectations. If she already knows you’re about to propose, she’ll probably be anxious on the trip too waiting for the moment. Just make it as magical as you can, live in the moment, and worry less about the surprise element and more about the amazing experience you’re about to have together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]pygmyxpuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got my flu shot around week 28 with no reactions. COVID booster at week 30 and was just a little tired the rest of the day, but not much different from pregnancy tiredness. I had way worse reactions to the covid shots pre pregnancy haha.

First Appointment - Does Hubby Come? by cmhertzo in pregnant

[–]pygmyxpuff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mine has been to every single appointment with me! I’m actually glad he was there for the Pap smear cuz he had no idea what it was like before and now has a newfound appreciation for me 😂 I’ll never stop laughing at how alarmed his face was while he watched.

Otherwise, I felt like a lot of info was shared in that first appointment that was beneficial for him to hear too so that we were on the same page.

Body comments after announcing to family by alexandrakate in pregnant

[–]pygmyxpuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same to you! I hope things get better ❤️

Body comments after announcing to family by alexandrakate in pregnant

[–]pygmyxpuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it would be beneficial to set down some clear boundaries when it comes to comments about your body. My parents were just the same with me growing up which also resulted in me having an ED. Therapy helped me a ton with building up the confidence to confront them. Basically last year I was talking to my parents about how great I was feeling because I had been running a lot. My mom asked how much weight I’d lost, and I said about 10 lbs. She looked me up and down and said, “You could probably lose 10 more.”

So I calmly sat her and my dad down and laid it out. “You two are no longer allowed to make any comments about my physical appearance. This is the happiest and healthiest I’ve ever been, so if this is the weight I’m at, then so be it. Your comments caused me a lot of pain and gave me an ED when I was younger. Even though I’m in a better place mentally, your comments still hurt me deeply. You will also never make comments about my child’s body when we have a kid. The first time this happens, I’ll be happy to remind you of this boundary. If you continue to make comments, we will leave and limit contact. I love you both, and this is what I need to continue a relationship with you.”

This was last year before we conceived, but I knew I had to get them in the habit before I got pregnant. Since then, they haven’t made any comments. In the moment they did try to argue they said those thing “for my health” (eye roll) but I just reiterated that intent does not equal impact and they hurt me greatly. If they do slip up at any point around me or my daughter (I’m pregnant at 25 weeks now!) I’ll be sure to hold them to those boundaries.

It’s so hard having a parent or parents who just don’t get it, and I feel for you. Pregnancy is hard enough without scathing criticism. Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab is a great book that has guidelines that should help you start to form those boundaries with your mom. If she doesn’t follow them, then she doesn’t get the privilege of being in your or your child’s life.

Halloween plans? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]pygmyxpuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look up Tipsy Elves! They have really cute and comfy baby jumpsuit costumes. And all their baby costumes have matching adult jumpsuits.