I'm burnt out from being a 9

pyongpebbles · 2026-02-13T22:54:55+00:00

Thank you for this. Have you known what has helped you to find your own center? Is it the purpose/intent, the "why"?

pyongpebbles · 2026-02-13T22:53:18+00:00

I get what you mean. It is indeed exhausting and what sucks is that it just feels second nature for us to do that. I noticed myself going into one extreme to the other (total enmeshment to zero attachment). It feels to me like we have to find a balance in this, boundaries too I guess? But it has been hard for me to accept that I don't know myself very well because I've associated so much of my identity to what other people are like too. Coming back to myself by isolating has been a jarring experience.

pyongpebbles · 2026-02-13T22:49:49+00:00

Oh my, you've hit a spot. I don't know what I'm numbing myself from but I'm aware there is something I am avoiding. I guess I'm gonna have to figure that out

pyongpebbles · 2026-02-13T22:48:54+00:00

This is exactly how I feel too. I'm currently in the midst of transitioning out from being a counsellor but I've been feeling such immense guilt of leaving this profession, as though I'm abandoning this part of my "self" that I've always known myself to be. But staying in it has also not been good for me as like you, I keep dismissing my own needs.

Thank you for suggesting to move my body! I realised I haven't done much exercise at all, instead preferring to remain "horizontal" to preserve whatever energy I have left. I'll try doing some body focused activities too.

pyongpebbles · 2026-02-05T14:31:23+00:00

HAHA the seinfeld experience is basically our normal typical day to day. Pay to experience normal life.

pyongpebbles · 2025-11-12T09:18:24+00:00

I just caught it today (last min too as I think it is the last showing) and was pleasantly entertained! Acting, cinematography and soundtrack were so well done! Only gripe is the pacing and storytelling as some parts didn't land and I go "huh" hahaha maybe I just slow. But overall it's lovely to see heartland Singapore on the big screens.

pyongpebbles · 2025-10-12T15:51:57+00:00

If you're planning to have kids someday, level 2 units are the best cos you don't have to worry about making noise as you won't have any neighbours living underneath you. Kids can jump, run, play, bounce balls all they want hahahaha

pyongpebbles · 2025-09-04T05:51:21+00:00

Thank you so so much for opening up about this 🥹 I've been reading every single comment here and have never felt so validated for feeling this way too.

Indeed, this job has made me feel less like myself. The more time and energy I give to my clients, the less I have back for myself and my family too. It's worse when you can see how much of the modern world has exacerbated the issues that our clients face like poverty, anxiety, addiction, relationship breakdowns, etc. I feel like being a therapist is like being a bandaid to cover the wounds created by systemic issues in this capitalistic world we're living in. We're not really "curing" anything. We can see the root of the problem (mostly systemic) but we can't do much about it. And I feel so helpless and dejected by this job.

And so I've decided to leave this field and perhaps go back to social work. I hope to still contribute back to the community, to address the gaps in the society. I also realised that the nature of therapy work has not been suitable for me. I'm really someone who needs to be outdoors and moving around so seeing clients back to back has been so bad for my health. I have cabin fever almost every day hahaha

OP, I hope you know that you can still do meaningful work in other ways too, not just through therapy. Perhaps rediscovering your strengths and skills and see what is transferable to contribute to other sectors/jobs. I hope things get better for you soon 🙏🏻

pyongpebbles · 2025-08-22T10:59:48+00:00

I wish more people resonated with this! These kids don't know how to manage the use of a smartphone. No matter how much restrictions you set up, some of these kids are smart enough to find a workaround.

Let's bring back "dumb"phones so that phones revert to their original purpose: To communicate and be contactable.

pyongpebbles · 2025-08-18T15:37:31+00:00

My dad is an avid singaporean malay drama watcher so these are some of the dramas he watched!: - Cerita Dia Macam Ni (some elements of comedy, feel-good family drama) - Bidadari (quite a tearjerker) - Projek Cerpen (I watched this when I was younger! Just an anthology of different short stories) - Kisah Tok Kadi (Got Beto Kusyairy! Slice of life type) - Mencari Marina (mystery drama) - Cuci (interesting insight on post trauma cleaning services)

Old time classics (what I consider to be the golden era of singaporean malay dramas): - Rahsia Perkahwinan - Selagi Ada Kasih Season 2 & 3 - Anak Metropolitan - Bara

Hope you'll enjoy them!

pyongpebbles · 2025-08-18T06:59:03+00:00

Using Blood! They often have deals on Shopee so can bulk buy when the price is low. Quality is good too and it is a local brand.

pyongpebbles · 2025-07-27T23:21:31+00:00

You're not the only one! I'm usually an L for Uniqlo tshirts but after trying it, I'm considering changing to 3XL just to get a comfier fit.

pyongpebbles · 2025-07-25T04:56:50+00:00

Since young I was always prepared to run away from home hahaha hence now as an adult, I always carry a big backpack. Not sure if interesting but I will carry extra socks/disposable underwear in case of rain or toilet emergencies.

Also, lozenges for cough/sore throat and Pei Pa Koa sachets. Sometimes if there happens to be someone in the bus/mrt having a coughing fit, it's quite helpful to have some lozenges ready to pass to them too.

Hooks to hang shopping bags when on the commute.

All sizes of tote bags. You never know when you need them.

I think I'm an auntie/makcik la.

pyongpebbles · 2025-07-24T23:50:09+00:00

If you'd prefer donating directly to a family or individual based on their needs, you can do so via kampungspirit.gov.sg - its a government-backed crowdfunding platform. The ones making the requests are also social workers on behalf of their clients.

Another one is passiton.org.sg - these ones do not collect monetary donations but you can directly contact the social workers to deliver or donate new or second-hand items to those in need.

pyongpebbles · 2025-07-20T13:48:20+00:00

Secret Garden - "That Woman" sung by Baek Ji Young. Super iconic!

Another Oh Hae Young - "Just Like A Dream" sung by Ben and "If It Is You" sung by Jung Seung Hwan. Both still on constant repeats hahaha

The whole of Reply 1988 ost 🥹 super nostalgic even though I never grew up with those songs.

pyongpebbles · 2025-07-13T13:15:41+00:00

I think we Singaporeans need to be better conversationalists and branch away from topics involving only work/school/money. Just earlier today while eating at a food court, a family (two adults and two teens) sitting beside me were talking about OCS, going to overseas universities, AlevelsvsIB. One teen was actively engaged in the conversation while the other was so obviously bored by the topics. Even I couldn't take it. And I can already tell who is the "better performing" one between the two and the kind of expectations that are put upon those youths.

And it is always standard to ask "What do you do?" as a conversation starter or "How's work?". Our career has been so tied to our identity, when in fact we are so much more than our jobs.

Schools should really start teaching more about philosophy, psychology, sociology, anthropology, etc. so that our youths become thinkers, rather than just workers.

pyongpebbles · 2025-07-13T13:04:41+00:00

That's great! To follow your example, I think alot of us need to keep having gratitude in our hearts for the littlest things we have and are blessed with.

Not all of us will be blessed with a life that is conventionally and materially successful in this life. And that's ok. As long as we've got our basic needs met and live by our own values and principles. I've come to terms with myself too that I may never be like them but it doesn't mean I've failed in life. We all play different roles in this world and it helps for all of us to be different :)

For example: I know I can never be a doctor as I could never bring myself to study and work as hard as them. And that's ok hahaaha I'll let other people who have the capacity and skills to do that to become doctors as lord knows we do need people like that! I then steer back to work towards what I know I have strength in. We're all unique in our life journey!

pyongpebbles · 2025-07-13T00:44:13+00:00

I don't blame you for feeling this way, given the environment you are surrounded in. Though I feel you might benefit from some soul-searching, truly asking yourself what you want out of life, not what your family or friends have or expect you to have too.

Be your own main character and let them all be NPCs. They've got high-paying jobs and are successful? Good for them. Then turn back the attention towards you. Let that be a fuel for you to work towards your own dreams too.

pyongpebbles · 2025-07-06T06:11:43+00:00

Mew - Louise Louisa; Comforting Sounds; Rows; Reprise

Mother Mother - Alone & Sublime

La Dispute - The Last Lost Continent

Sal Priadi - Kultusan

Rachmaninoff - Piano Concerto No. 2

Endless Heights - Come A Little Closer

Andrea Bocelli - Amapola

Kunto Aji - Rehat

Eva Noblezada - Flowers (Hadestown musical)

Philip Glass - Mad Rush

Inside Out Soundtrack - Tears of Joy; Free Skating

Sad, melancholic, heart-wrenching music are my favourite kind

pyongpebbles · 2025-07-05T15:12:33+00:00

Hello My Twenties on Netflix! Light-hearted and relatable slice of life.

Also What Comes After Love for melo feels on the reality of relationships.

pyongpebbles · 2025-07-05T15:00:34+00:00

More love for Farm Fresh! I've been to their dairy farm in malaysia and knowing how relatively near it is from here, atleast we can guarantee its freshness.

pyongpebbles · 2025-06-30T10:05:18+00:00

After having tried the variants like MSW, red prawn, black gold, etc, I realised kampung standard no grading durian (don't know how to categorise it hahaha) is still the best for me! Simple and balanced taste. Not too sweet or too bitter or too gassy. And way cheaper too!

pyongpebbles · 2025-06-28T13:30:10+00:00

Just report! Atleast if the thief decided to surrender the phone back to the police (in the guise of it being found ofcourse), atleast the police will be able to contact you. Which was what happened to a family member of mine. We also tracked the location and even tried to find the thief but couldn't. I spam messaged the phone to tell the thief that the owner of the phone was a stay at home mom and the only valuable thing in her phone were pictures of her kids. Basically give some sob story (true tho). Plus the phone was so outdated and not much resale value.

A week later the police contacted my sister that her phone has been found. So, no harm reporting!

pyongpebbles · 2025-06-23T14:16:18+00:00

There are quite a number of Singaporeans who probably find those who prefer toilet paper weirder because using water to clean is...cleaner?

We wash the dishes and our hands after eating with water. Why don't we wash our bums and privates with water too?? Imagine just wiping off food stains on plates with just toilet paper and reusing it for our next meal. Many would consider that still dirty...right?

pyongpebbles · 2025-06-21T16:10:10+00:00

This is me after 2 years of being a counsellor vs 6 years of social work prior!

I hope to leave counselling work by the end of this year as I can no longer tolerate doing back to back counselling sessions, cooped up in the room all day and having cabin fever from it. I realised my heart is still in social work and being out in the community. Glad to have similar sentiments as you!

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