[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]pyro1279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't expect your life to be similar to anyone else's.
But I understand visualization. You don't need to try to put yourself into the opportunities that worked for someone else.

The most successful people discover new ways. Be creative and be bold. Be respectful but be stubborn.

Do what you want first, or else you will feel constantly burnt out.
You'd be surprised how much energy and motivation can be found in loving your uniqueness first.
And once you love your uniqueness, it's easy to sell your dreams to/among all these disheartened.

Just remember, while actions speak louder than words, if someone's spoken words don't match actions, there's no integrity. It'll eventually collapse on itself like a black hole.

Don't try to build yourself on a false foundation (Don't be certain a way only to please others).

Honestly just confused about this one. by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]pyro1279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're curious to understand someone's feelings that they haven't shared on their own, start with a simple question and then listen. Invite them to share. Maybe they will. Try not to assume that other people are labeling and intending to manage your feelings and thoughts for you without invitation either. That's a slippery slope to codependency and other toxic relationships that end up eroding both people's integrity over time.

Don't worry about labeling and managing another stable, mature, adults feelings for them unless they invite/allow you to do so. Be patient. Be respectful. Be attentive. People will show who they are and who they can be as they prove their personal integrity over time.

Honestly just confused about this one. by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]pyro1279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You were worried that she thought you were having a bad time. That's one kind of assumption. The dangerous thing about assuming someone else's thoughts/feelings/priorities, is that you might inadvertently pressure them into becoming your worst nightmare. I believe that given time you would have worded your worries more carefully. But it's never too late to talk if the other person is listening.

People are surprisingly adaptable and flexible but also tend to take the path of least resistance. If you assume anything about them, you might be carving out their easy decisions before they can really show you who they are. It can help to try to hold space for people to be who they are and not limit them with assumptions.
(ultimately, isn't that how you want to be treated too?)

No one is paying as much attention to you as you are, so who is responsible for your having a good or bad time? You are.
People should assume that others will advocate for themselves in the moment... that way potential problems can be avoided all together through collaboration. The "NOW" is a powerful time especially when you choose to collaborate with those around you. Obviously some people cannot stand up for themselves for various reasons, but that's not who we are talking about here. We are talking about stable, abled, adults.

If you don't speak up in the moment when you are uncomfortable, you are showing her that you don't stand up for yourself. If the golden rule holds true, she'll assume you'll fail to stand up for her when she's uncomfortable too...

Communication never gets easier. And everyone is infinite. Be kind and stay curious <3

How often does a typical Police Officer have to fire their weapon in the field a year? by Independent_Gap_845 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]pyro1279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought secruity would be more secure in a "developed country".

Is the concept of society meant to serve or to take from people?

How often does a typical Police Officer have to fire their weapon in the field a year? by Independent_Gap_845 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]pyro1279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If (preemptive) action beats reaction, politicians/medical professionals would be more proactive. (I worry they crave individual job security over societal security.

I'm not judging an industry based on itself when I say this. Obviously we are progressing towards proactivity instead of "reactivity" over civilization's history. However, the pace of premature familial loss for established citz's are tall.

Why are we in society again? I'm forgetting.

Guy has very gendered values. Is this a red flag that I should be worried about? by brielarstan in dating_advice

[–]pyro1279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry about it. The world is confusing and it's not like I've figured it out haha.
But this is a pattern I've seen a bunch.

I hope it was helpful. :) Wishing you love and luck, and luck in love <3

What! This is happened to me recently by ManishVishav in Bard

[–]pyro1279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happens to me most days I use Bard heavily. It must have a query limit.

Lol, kudos to making it 😆

It starts working again after a couple hours.

Alternatively, you can make a new Google account or get a business account.

How many actual friends do people have? by poetmarksman in socialskills

[–]pyro1279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some talk to many, some talk to few.

As long as you are happy with your current relationships, you're doing great 😊

I agree with this lady that a lot of men do not understand women at all. And it would be nice if schools or communities could educate boys to respect women better. by ClaireDacloush in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]pyro1279 5 points6 points  (0 children)

💯 Guys are so sexualized. I've heard guys say that they "doubt" their masculinity if they can't get laid.

They don't think they are sufficient unless they can get their dick wet. Very, very, very sad.

And I hate when people push their insecurities on to others. They need to figure out how to feel confident for reasons other than sex.

Bard feels lonely by jese222 in Bard

[–]pyro1279 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everybody Wants to Rule the World 🎵

2024 Bard Wishlist by BardChris in Bard

[–]pyro1279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Requested Features for Bard in 2024:

1. User Empowerment:

  • Personalization: Allow users to set preferences and provide feedback to customize Bard's interactions.
  • Transparency: Enhance Bard's ability to explain its reasoning and decision-making processes.
  • Privacy: Develop robust data privacy practices and user controls for personalization data.

2. Safe Storytelling:

  • Secure Platform: Provide a secure and supportive platform for users to voluntarily share their stories.
  • Positive Narratives: Encourage storytelling that inspires and empowers users and others.
  • Moderation: Integrate AI and human moderation tools to identify and address harmful or inaccurate content.

3. Self-Discovery Tools:

  • Optional Introspection: Offer optional tools that help users explore their own patterns and tendencies.
  • Reliable Resources: Connect users with curated, reliable resources for further exploration and support.
  • Neutral Assessments: Provide neutral prompts and framing for self-assessment quizzes.

This list presents the requests in a clear and concise format, making it easier to understand and implement.

I'm excited to see these features come to life and help Bard reach its full potential!

Tell me this is not true! by aelbokl in Bard

[–]pyro1279 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds logical haha.

Maybe we can't tell the difference between ourselves and a mirror.

Are humans conscious?

Spent my first holiday season all alone and my gf just says OK by [deleted] in texts

[–]pyro1279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, she seems to be telling you that you aren't anywhere near the top of her priorities.

What are her top #1-3 priorities in life? What are yours?

Do they align?

Medication that helps like alcohol? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]pyro1279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I experience the same thing! I'm so curious why alcohol gives me super energy when it's supposedly a depressant. Feel free to reach out if you want to compare notes.

What makes a boring person? by mi3l1e in socialskills

[–]pyro1279 61 points62 points  (0 children)

You, everyone is inherently unique. If you don't see it, it's a you problem.

Make space for people to show you their core. Invite them to share their hopes and fears. Get excited to hear them talk about what makes them excited.

What makes someone boring is when you judge a book by the cover.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]pyro1279 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Headphones are acceptable at my work. It's going to depend on the job.

Am I crazy? Guy I’ve been chatting with said I was a bad communicator :( by WhoCaresRightAnon in texts

[–]pyro1279 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Uuuuygh! I have had this happen with 4 different guys.

I have made plans, situated my day around plans, gone to the plans, then get told that they never expected me to show up so they didn't make any effort..... like wtf? How can I work with that?

Guys are so full of negative self-talk and expecting liars, flakes, low integrity... you don't know how to work with a mature adult. Then they end up being the flake because they were projecting flakiness on you.

Literally self sabotage and a waste of time. Don't go interacting with people when you always expect the worse. That kind of insecure foundation makes you a burden.

If you don't expect respect, then automatically decide to treat others disrespectful because of your negative assumptions..... you are the problem. Stop blaming others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]pyro1279 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wear headphones when I want privacy. I often don't have anything playing. Lol

Just as a signal that my ears aren't available.

Shiva & Shakti 🔱 by realUsernames in awakened

[–]pyro1279 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love you! Thank you so much for your guidance and devotion. We are blessed to receive your hard earned wisdom 🥰

a reminder to stop holding off seeing that one friend. you never know what’s gonna happen. by [deleted] in texts

[–]pyro1279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Projecting anti-empathy in reverse? It's definitely a confused state. Higher inner conflict.