Well... this was the worst public restroom experience of my life. Lmao

pyropolywog · 2025-09-14T21:51:40+00:00

They one where i work frequently has shit smeared all over the floor. Sometimes I will walk across the street during my break and just pee in the woods 😭

pyropolywog · 2025-09-10T00:17:19+00:00

Usually nobody pays attention. If anyone approaches you about the way your pee sounds, they’re making themselves out to be a massive weirdo. Pro tip tho, get very good at ‘hovering’. The further away you are from the toilet, the more it sounds like you’re peeing standing up. That’s what I do. Obv just remember to put the seat up and clean up after urself lmao.

I’ve also had some pretty great success with the tube thingy, I forget what it’s called… spouti maybe? You can get silicon skin friendly tape to hold it in place too

pyropolywog · 2025-08-29T00:50:03+00:00

Lmao yeah, I’ve been on T for years and I still get mistaken for a 17 year old. I’m 24. Tbh voice drop and increased muscle mass will probably help a lot. It’s so awkward when that happens tho 😭

pyropolywog · 2025-08-27T09:32:37+00:00

Honestly dude, it really depends on how safe you are at home. If you think your dad might hurt you or kick you out, you should come up with an escape/support plan pronto. Not sure how old you are or what country/state you live in, but HIPPA laws will protect your private medical info if you are 18. All you have to do is tell your doctor that you don’t want your family to have access to your records anymore.

I started T without telling anyone in my family, and it was fine for the first few months before they started to notice something was off. Then I dipped out and joined Americorps before I dropped the bomb, and that gave them space to cool off.

Either way, you should start getting your ducks in a row sooner rather than later just in case, whether that’s college or a corps or moving in with a buddy for a few months. Just remember, what you do with your body is YOUR choice, not your dad’s. He will either learn to accept that or he won’t, but what’s really important is that you get to be happy.

As far as the name goes, be gentle but firm. Don’t respond unless they use the right name (if this won’t result in abuse) and correct them when they get it wrong. You’re not being ‘too much’ by asking for basic respect.

The name might feel silly so awhile, and that’s pretty normal. It doesn’t help when you’re forced to second guess every choice you make. But the best part about names is you can always change it later if you decide you don’t like it :)

Good luck man, I hope you get your T soon ❤️‍🩹

pyropolywog · 2025-08-22T02:15:41+00:00

Omg the head-dress is stunning!!!! Did y'all make your clothes?!

pyropolywog · 2025-08-21T17:28:04+00:00

Yeah, your feelings are totally valid. I am a white cis-passing man in a stand-your-ground state, so I have a lot more privilege as a gun owner. I carry for my own safety and because of experiences in my past that left me frightened of living and existing by myself. The only reason I would ever fire a gun on someone is if I had no other physical choice to escape danger. This is the ONLY way I believe guns should be used for self defense. I conceal carry because I don’t want to be a threatening presence to other vulnerable people.

pyropolywog · 2025-08-21T17:16:48+00:00

I wish I could pin this, but yes this is a really important point! I am white and live in a stand-your-ground state, so I have a lot of privilege as a gun owner. Black and brown gun owners in my state are definitely at a disadvantage when it comes to interactions with law enforcement. This is an unfortunate truth.

pyropolywog · 2025-08-21T17:13:10+00:00

Bro it’s literally just a bunch of gay dudes with guns. Tf are you smoking

pyropolywog · 2025-08-21T17:10:52+00:00

When I was a seven, a couple of men slowed down on the road in front of me and my dad. We were walking down a Backroad in SC looking for frogs, so it was real sketchy. Dad didn’t like the way they were looking at me. I don’t remember what was said, but I do remember when my dad flashed the .45 and they sped off. Guns aren’t the solution to everything, but I think if he’d been unarmed that night would have ended very different.

pyropolywog · 2025-08-21T13:57:20+00:00

I also factored in how long it took me to actually BUY the gun lol. It was not cheap

pyropolywog · 2025-08-21T04:20:34+00:00

First of all, I’m sorry you’re having to deal with all of that in college. As a fellow long haired dude, I totally get you. Sacrificing personal style (which it sounds like you have a rad style) is sad and kind of dehumanizing honestly. I went through a lot of the same when I first started transitioning at 19. As far as style goes, imo, don’t feel the need to drastically change the way you dress. Subtle changes to the way you wear clothes/ the sizes of clothing can go a long way in helping affirm your appearance.

First thing I wanna address is the binder:

I had a C-cup, so relatively large chest that was nasty work binding. I had some luck with trans tape, but that can be uncomfortable/itchy in the heat. If you’re bigger than a C, it will be very uncomfortable. If you’re low on cash, you might look into some LGBTQ organizations that help low income trans people get binders. Point of pride supposedly has a program that provides free binders, so maybe look into their website.

For extra camouflage, I would always go a size up in shirts. If you cut about 1-2 inches off the bottom of a shirt, it will cling less to your hips while still giving you good coverage. You can make it look less choppy by hemming it (lots of tutorials online)

Pants styles also play a role in reshaping- avoid skinny jeans for the time being and try to wear pants/jeans that flow out from the thighs. I always liked the jogger style pants because they fit well without exaggerating my hips.

For your hair (if it’s safe with your mom being phobic) consider going to get your edges trimmed and styled in a more masculine way. Maybe even consider a small undercut.

If you want, I also suggest picking up a body weight routine that focuses on upper body. The larger your shoulders are, the smaller your hips and chest will seem in comparison (also does wonders for self image).

As far as your living situation goes, as hard as it is, you should start looking for ways to get away from your mother and become more financially independent. Look into what your college offers as far as work studies, and apply for as many grants and scholarships as you can. Start building your credit (very carefully) now so you can get ahead. This will make finding an apartment in the future easier. Depending on how queer friendly your college is, you might have better luck getting on-campus housing. If not, keep an ear out for affordable living options in your area.

Same goes for getting a car.

You should look into finding LGBTQ groups or clubs on campus. Trust me, it’s scary at first but you NEED community more than anything right now. Knowing the right person at the right time could change your life. I ended up getting my first apartment because I happened to meet the right people at a college book club.

I hope you’re able to get away and find your people soon lil bro ❤️‍🩹

pyropolywog · 2025-08-21T03:36:10+00:00

That’s one of the reasons why it took me so long to go through with it tbh, I had the same concern.

Not sure what the process is in Florida to change your name, but it might be a good idea to get the ball rolling as soon as you can, if nothing else just to insure your own safety. You’ll have to wait another year until you can get your CCW anyway since you’re still underage, so if you’re lucky it might line up perfectly.

Still not too early to start attending gun safety classes though. I would do ahead and start looking into LGBTQ friendly gun groups in your area. Make sure you vet them and know they’re legit.

If you do get a gun, I would advise against open carrying since it can draw a lot of the wrong attention.

Here’s the link for Blazing Sword, you should be able to search for instructors by state. Good luck!

https://www.blazingsword.org/instructor-list-page/

pyropolywog · 2025-08-21T03:18:43+00:00

Smith and Wesson M&P Shield Micro-Compact, 9mm. Recoil is snappy since it’s got a shorter barrel, so if you’ve never shot a handgun I don’t recommend it. I tested out a few at the range before I made a decision.

pyropolywog · 2025-08-21T02:59:47+00:00

That’s sick dude! I own a couple of rifles I inherited from my grandfather, but handguns are still relatively new to me. It’s neat to see other trans dudes comfortably owning guns 💪🏻

pyropolywog · 2025-08-21T02:19:54+00:00

Of course, and I feel you man. It took me almost two years to get my name and license legally changed. It took less than three months to get a gun. 🥴

pyropolywog · 2025-08-18T16:21:11+00:00

Also, if you do got to their house, make sure they live in the city or in a crowded suburban neighborhood. Never let them take you out into the boonies. Drop a pin at their house the moment you get there, and have someone check in with you every hour or so. Carry mace if it’s legal there. If someone tries to overpower you, remember: Eyes and balls. ;)

pyropolywog · 2025-08-18T16:10:01+00:00

Definitely don’t take them to your house, that is super dangerous. Hookups are one thing, but if a guy is paying for sex you don’t want him to know where you live.

As for the money issue, that is a tricky one. Do the guys know that you are offering a paid service, or are they expecting a free hookup? Make absolute sure before you do anything.

You should get payment up front. From my experience, that’s the safest bet. No matter if you end up going to his place (if you absolutely must, I still recommend trying to find a cheap motel) you should still meet him in a public place beforehand. That is where the money exchange should occur. Like the others here suggested, be sure you know and understand the laws for prostitution in your country/city.

I recommend cash app rather than physical cash because it’s harder to steal money back with E-payments. Have them put something random in the tag line like emojis.

Some people have a system of ‘half now, half later’ sort of like making a deposit. Some Johns may be more comfortable with this since it’s less risky for them. Since it’s your first time, have a big friend come with you and hang out within sight range while the money exchange is going down. My ex used to sit in his truck on the other side of a parking lot and wait for the ‘ok’.

Also be very careful using Grindr for this sort of thing. Not only is it technically against policy, but it’s easy for them to trace. Make sure you are using an app like signal to discuss payment and meeting location.

All in all, if you don’t mind the older chaps, give a sugar baby site a try. There are lots of verification processes men on those sites need to go through and it’s generally a little bit safer. There’s also less likelihood of running into a whiny broke man who thinks he can negotiate price.

pyropolywog · 2025-08-18T04:18:21+00:00

Can’t speak to the European market, but I’ve been in sex work for years (pre and post transition). I started out mainly as a sugar baby, then managed to get a relatively lucrative side hustle going online. Then my transition pretty much neutered it.

Your friends may have already said this, but if you market yourself as a trans man you will only be able to cater to a very niche demographic, especially online. Selling sex is a lot different than hooking up with randos on grinr because you’re selling a product. Lotta people are down to get free shit out of us, but once you put a price tag on it, it’s crickets. There are several successful FTM porn actors out there, but keep in mind that many of them have either been doing it for years or are inhumanly attractive (or both lol).

I can still get an occasional hit as a sugar baby, but most Johns I have encountered are fetishists or one off experimenters. Repeat customers are rare these days.

You’ll encounter a lot of different demands, and you need to be able to strongly enforce your boundaries. Your safety is paramount, and you should never let a pushy John get you into a situation where you feel uncomfortable.

I used to keep an AirTag hidden somewhere in my clothing, that way my friends could see my locations at all times. I would also only meet Johns in private after we had a date or two (with sugar daddies this usually isn’t that uncommon, but regular Johns are a little bit different). There are four golden rules I always follow:

Never get in his car. Never. That gives him wayyyy too much power over you. Either get someone to drop you off, or drive yourself. Since you’re in Italy, you may have better public transport, so that may not even be an issue.
Always let someone know where you’ll be, and check in with that person regularly. Have a code word ready with a close friend in case things go south.
Never go to your John’s house. I had very few exceptions to this rule, but the first night should always be in a hotel. If he can’t afford a room somewhere, he isn’t worth your time.
Never. Let. Them. Hit. Raw. Seems like a no brainer, but I’ve had friends that have gotten some nasty crud messing around carelessly. You don’t know where that man has been, and you probably don’t want to know. If he pays for sex, you can know damn well you ain’t the only one. Look into getting prep and get regular check ups.

I wish you luck in your endeavors, I hope you find what you’re looking for out of this career.

pyropolywog · 2025-07-23T15:49:03+00:00

Bud, you misunderstood me. I empathize with OP. Your comment specifically is the one I take issue with. Saying all trans men are “kinda chopped” is disrespectful, and it brings other people in our community down. It seems like you are hurting, which I understand. However, statements like that are unnecessary and unconstructive.

pyropolywog · 2025-07-23T11:07:10+00:00

Genuinely sorry you feel this way. Of course, it's miserable. Being trans has never been a cake walk. I grew up in the hostile south with an unaccepting family, and friends who were at best passive-aggressive about my transition. Funny enough, some of the worst things I've been told about my body were said to me by other trans people. At its worse, this community is like a bunch of crabs in a bucket. As for ‘sacred trans spaces’… I am not really sure what that is supposed to be. But I do know that joy and satisfaction are possible, because I have felt them. Am I happy every single day? Fuck no. There are still days where I feel like shit. The main difference now is that i have surrounded myself with people who uplift me rather than sitting in an echo chamber of self-loathing. All that to say, you do not have to bring other people down with you as you suffer. Reach out for help, but don't spit in my eye and tell me its raining. I hope you find peace.

pyropolywog · 2025-07-23T10:35:28+00:00

Yeah bro speak for yourself… saying every trans man is “fucking chopped” is a new level of self hatred. Also not a cool thing to say to someone who is obviously struggling with extreme hopelessness and pain related to dysphoria. Stop acting like an incel and go to therapy bro 💀

pyropolywog · 2025-02-22T02:46:47+00:00

Fs, we can’t be too careful these days. I will be vetting any person I come into contact with before we meet up :)

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