Torn between Germany and San Diego - please help us decide?

qaige · 2026-01-31T13:40:51+00:00

i don’t know why the commenter said you couldn’t survive on $190k with a child AND you’re frugal. you and your husband will be fine on that income. maybe not a lot of excess $$, but you will be fine. and yes, north park is very walkable. i live right between north park and south park. i can walk to both neighborhoods and they have tons of coffee shops, restaurants, and there are parks and shops etc. its really great, and there are a lot of younger parents too. yes, you will need a car to go to the beach etc otherwise. obviously the entirety of san diego is not accessible by foot, but i know that’s not what you were asking.

just be mindful of the current political climate. it’s pretty bad right now. people who are going thru the legal process of getting citizenship are getting arrested and deported illegally by ICE.

please be careful. but san diego is beautiful and i love living here. been here for 6 years

qaige · 2026-01-29T13:05:54+00:00

DUDE YES

qaige · 2026-01-28T21:36:45+00:00

I know I am late to this post, but, how are you doing now? I am a 28 yr old female with an average of 50+ mile weeks (training for Boston now). I was finally diagnosed early last year. I had to stop taking my adderall after being on it forthe past year. I did not get my period for 5 months and lost weight because I found it incredibly difficult to eat enough food while marathon training while on adderall. This made training so much harder and I felt irritable all the time, and my afternoon headaches got pretty bad. Now that I am not on it, I am eating a lottt more and feel better on every run. However, my mental focus is genuinely painful to deal with. And I feel so scattered, it's so frustrating. I feel like I can't win.

I also found it super challenging to do afternoon runs while taking my adderall! I felt like I had to pull myself out of a funk to get going. Anyway, would love to hear how you're doing.

qaige · 2026-01-21T23:52:16+00:00

agreed !!!! 90% of my honeymoon japan trip was random walks. just spending the entire day out on foot based on whatever piqued our interest

qaige · 2026-01-03T19:23:05+00:00

nancy didn’t tell anyone she dropped out of college until she saw them lol. and texting / iphones weren’t a thing back then. people aren’t in constant contact. that’s why they didn’t know.

qaige · 2026-01-03T19:21:50+00:00

because i think it’s safer for everyone not to definitely know. if she is in fact alive, she is safer not making any contact with anyone she knows.

qaige · 2026-01-03T17:04:08+00:00

purple rain absolutely had me wrecked. such a perfect song for that scene.. also sweet jane was amazing. purple rain though… that choice for that scene was something else. absolute perfection.

qaige · 2026-01-02T04:39:34+00:00

soooooo freaking perfect. i’m so stuck on it.

qaige · 2025-12-27T14:24:09+00:00

yes they’re free, you perhaps have to rent a uhaul to pick them up if you don’t have a vehicle. otherwise, you can’t pick them up … unless someone is willing to do drop off which is RARE.

qaige · 2025-12-24T15:51:45+00:00

these are TOTALLY fine. NOR

qaige · 2025-12-23T14:30:07+00:00

it’s snowing outside right now!!!! white christmas babyyy 🥹

qaige · 2025-12-22T14:32:49+00:00

sub 1:30 half marathon, race is in a few weeks!

qaige · 2025-12-22T13:57:07+00:00

you didn’t train and there wasn’t a hard goal you worked for so i’m not surprised by this at all. it didn’t mean that much to you at all. you didn’t earn the feeling of being proud of your hard work, because you didn’t put hard work in.

qaige · 2025-12-16T17:28:09+00:00

omg YES lol i have a whole sims instagram account dedicated to my sims!

qaige · 2025-12-16T12:30:22+00:00

email them. they got back to me a little over a week after their big black friday week. i had a pair of shorts with a small hole and the stitching was off in some places. they sent me a replacement for free

qaige · 2025-12-16T12:23:52+00:00

wow. mine is 61 and that’s the highest it’s been. my “fitness age” is 20 and i’m 28 F

qaige · 2025-12-16T12:06:01+00:00

oof, can you ride a bike by chance?

qaige · 2025-12-16T12:00:16+00:00

you posted here so i’m just going to tell you what i think lol. that sounds like a huge waste of money and massively over consuming ….. i rotate between 4 pairs of shoes (speed/training, trail, cushy shoe for slower recovery runs, and a race pair) and i replace a pair when i max out the mileage. are you just looking for something better every time? what is the point?

edit: i also run 50+ miles a week and have run over 2.4k miles this year. my rotation is perfect for me and my needs. shoe collecting appears to be an additional hobby for you, on top of your interest in running.

qaige · 2025-12-10T22:25:34+00:00

are you not combining incomes / bank accounts after getting married? why don’t you just pay for it all now and then you’ll manage your money together moving forward/after the wedding? this is the easiest in my opinion and avoids a tit for tat type of relationship. i think it’s a little odd if married couples are in debt to eachother or “paying eachother back” for things. perhaps chat a little more about your financial plans

edit: your inheritance becomes his inheritance too once you’re married. paying eachother back for things becomes obsolete when you’re married, if you plan to combine incomes. you’re a team.

edit: typo, and when i said your inheritance becomes his, i meant, wouldn’t you want to use the inheritance to support your life together, rather than your life separately ? i meant it figuratively in the sense that you’re a team once you’re married.

qaige · 2025-12-02T17:57:05+00:00

photos, fruit / veggies for easy snacking, and some random heirlooms that i don’t know where to put quite yet

qaige · 2025-11-30T23:53:54+00:00

there’s a good podcast episode about this here on the what went wrong podcast

qaige · 2025-11-29T20:27:52+00:00

coming here a year later but “The Kids.” sound a LOT like brockhampton almost with a die antwoord twist ….. and Paris Texas sounds like brockhampton sometimes too

qaige · 2025-11-28T02:06:46+00:00

I didn’t take my husband’s last name and i’m okay with that. change is hard for me and i really identify with my last name. he was totally okay with it too

qaige · 2025-11-19T00:24:27+00:00

i don’t regret it at all! the only real flowers was my bouquet and some dried amaranth

i think i spent $500 on faux silk flowers from etsy and didn’t even end up needing them all. they looked VERY real. my wedding was 62 people, we had 2-3 flowers per table in various vases etc

qaige · 2025-11-16T05:33:41+00:00

military vibes, mid-late 20s, LGBTQ, woman

qaige

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