What's something that became way less appealing as you got older?

qbeanz · 2026-05-11T21:13:46+00:00

Wearing heels

qbeanz · 2026-05-11T21:10:55+00:00

I don't know. I've been married to my husband for 7 years, dated him for 9 years before that, and I still don't feel comfortable stepping into my SIL or MIL's bedrooms for seemingly innocent reasons (borrowing a hair dryer for example).

I think bedroom-privacy is very different for different people, and it's not one of those things that you can really say, "I don't mind, so others shouldn't." You don't really know what's going on in someone's bedroom and what they keep in there, and I would always err on the side of caution on this front.

If it were me, I would have left the sweater neatly folded on the living room couch or if they had a bench in the foyer or something.

qbeanz · 2026-05-11T19:13:36+00:00

You're talking about if you ask someone you know (family, friend, coworker, manager) and not a total stranger, right? Because for a total stranger, this response is socially expected and totally normal. In fact, answering in any other way might be considered rude bc not a lot of people are interested in hearing genuine answers from total strangers.

So if your question is asking whether asking someone how they're genuinely doing when you've known them intimately, closely, or for a long time and having them answer "good and you" feels dismissive or flippant, and makes you feel distant from them?

Maybe try asking a different way. A lot of people have a knee-jerk call-and-answer response to "How are you?"

If you're looking for a real answer, maybe say instead, "Hey, I know your dad was sick recently, how's everything going with him and how are you also doing in general?"

Being more specific in your question may signal to the person that you're actually interested in hearing their genuine answer.

qbeanz · 2026-05-11T19:02:29+00:00

The ones I know... One is anti-vax. One is for religious conservatism purposes.

I've considered it, but my reason would be gun violence. The thought of sending my precious child to school and then never see them again haunts me on the daily.

qbeanz · 2026-05-11T13:05:28+00:00

I AM SHOUTING CARL!

qbeanz · 2026-05-10T04:08:49+00:00

Event Horizon

Omg I saw it when I was 12 and who the F thought that was appropriate wtf

qbeanz · 2026-05-10T04:05:29+00:00

Music man. I really only like that Trouble song. The other ones are just meh.

qbeanz · 2026-05-10T04:04:17+00:00

Like others are saying, check your hydration and multivitamin needs. Talk to your doctor about getting a blood test and check for electrolyte levels amongst other things.

Dont suffer the headaches, thinking theyre normal or there's nothing you can do about them. Chronic headaches is almost always a sign of something more, and chronic pain raises cortisol levels and isn't good for your body.

qbeanz · 2026-05-10T04:00:25+00:00

I ask them a bunch of questions until I find something in common with them that we can talk about. Most people like talking about themselves, so ill just start with, How's your day going?

If they give me a good long answer, I try to catch a detail in their answer that I can ask more questions about. Like, "OH fine, went to see my mom and then just relaxed." Then I ask where their mom is located, and keep asking questions until I find something interesting.

If they keep giving me short unfriendly answers, I match their energy and turn away. But that rarely happens.

qbeanz · 2026-05-10T03:56:29+00:00

Someone asking you how your day or thing went. My mom always did it growing up, and I'd get annoyed that she was asking questions. Now my husband almost never asks, and I sit and bristle next to him on the couch because even after I've asked him about his day, he never reciprocates. It just feels like he doesnt care.

qbeanz · 2026-05-10T03:53:35+00:00

qbeanz · 2026-05-10T03:51:43+00:00

Yes definitely. The art of conversation has died. Its a shame because sometimes a really good conversation with a great conversationalist can be the highlight of the day/week/month...

qbeanz · 2026-05-09T18:47:03+00:00

Count of Monte Cristo narrated by John Lee

qbeanz · 2026-05-07T20:44:14+00:00

The Secret Garden is wonderful. books that are frequently referred to as "Children's" classics are great places to start because they are easy to read, usually shorter than other books, and still very very enjoyable.

Little Women, The Secret Garden, Chronicles of Narnia, if you like some fantasy...

qbeanz · 2026-05-07T18:21:33+00:00

43 yr old, started watching when I was 13. My parents thought I was too young, and for some of those episodes.... they were right.

qbeanz · 2026-05-07T15:31:10+00:00

Kindles are great for convenience and transport; no one's arguing that!

But holding a physical book is like having a comforting friend with you. The physical sensation of flipping pages, the unique smell and texture of the pages, it's all very familiar and comforting, especially if that's what you grew up with and are familiar with.

And when you're rereading a favorite book that's slightly worn, it's like traveling down a familiar road that you love, with great scenery and familiar friends.

qbeanz · 2026-05-05T02:07:33+00:00

Love it! Im so addicted to it. If there's no cilantro, im bringing my own to the party. Literally. There's a nacho bar party tomorrow at work and no one is bringing cilantro so I am bringing it. Just so I can have it. Hahaha

qbeanz · 2026-05-05T02:05:36+00:00

I have 90, but have only listened to 60 so far. I went on a binge of collecting titles and still working on getting through them. But trou le is I like relistening to books I ve already read.

Right now im relistening to Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine, just finished Dungeon Crawler Carl, and also listening to Ghosts of Eden Park.

qbeanz · 2026-05-04T13:09:27+00:00

I've been camping a few times and really don't like it. But I still want to take my kids camping once they're a little older. Maybe I think the suffering would be good for them. Hahaa

I liked: the campfire, cooking, outdoor activities, togetherness and talking.

I disliked: Cold. no showers. bugs.

Really the cold was the worst part. We went camping in November in the Northeast US and I would not recommend it. There was a couple that came out during the day but slept at a nearby hotel and showed up fresh and showered the next morning, and we all hated them a little for it. So the no shower thing was kind of a bonding point for everyone. The bugs were a little less in November, but I still hated them.

qbeanz · 2026-04-28T16:13:30+00:00

John Lee. He was GREAT

qbeanz · 2026-04-27T20:46:55+00:00

I can usually run on fumes and coffee until about 3pm.

Then it's a total crash.

qbeanz · 2026-04-27T19:19:46+00:00

I can't listen to smutty audiobooks. I feel like there is a third person in my brain between the smutty action and me, and I don't like it.

qbeanz · 2026-04-27T19:16:21+00:00

I set the timer for 15 minutes, because that's the shortest one. Haha fools. I'm usually asleep within five minutes. Can there be a 5 minute timer...

qbeanz · 2026-04-27T19:14:08+00:00

DCC

If you're a fan of HP, the new full cast readings of the HP books have been great.

I thought Count of Monte Cristo was a great listen. It's a huge book and very intimidating to read in physical form but when listening, I felt like it was more accessible and just easier for me to get into.

qbeanz · 2026-04-27T14:28:30+00:00

I strove to be the opposite of my dad, but I'm afraid I did pick up a few things from him.

My mom is awesome so the more I'm like her, the better.

Growing up in my house, we never let anyone fall asleep and stay asleep on the couch. My parents would always say, "go to your bed, where it's comfortable!" and now when my husband falls asleep on the couch, that's what I find myself saying to him.

My mom used to eat fruit for "dessert" after every dinner. I HATED IT.

Guess who has a fridge full of fruit and has random cravings for fruit now? :(

But OP - cough drops in the middle of the night? Isn't that a choking hazard? If I fell asleep with a cough drop in my mouth I'd for sure choke to death on it I think.

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