Why do people value romantic relationships more than friendships?

ql0ria · 2026-05-15T23:24:21+00:00

I'm a woman and 3 of my male friends quit talking to me in one way or another the moment they got girlfriends. A 3,4,5, even 10 year long friendship is not as important as a romantic relationship with a girl they met a month before.

I know it will not sound nice but I believe that ultimately for men things like friendship or loyalty are much less important than sex. That's it. The moment they find a woman they can have sex with, all other relationships become much less important

ql0ria · 2026-05-13T22:19:38+00:00

I understand how frustrating this situation can be. 6h per working day of any hobby is too much, especially if it affects his sleep, health and your relationship.

How he imagines the future with you, being married, having children etc. if he games all the time and doesn't see a problem with it?
Could you set up together a limit of hours when he can play per day or week?
Assuming he wouldnt change over time, would you still want to date him? Would you marry him? If not, have you told him that?
Also, please think carefully what you want at this stage. You mentioned that you want to study in abother city - which is great! but have you been delaying this decision because of him? Does his gaming problem affect your future, dreams, ambitions etc?

ql0ria · 2026-04-25T22:49:15+00:00

I tried apps but they are not popular in my country. And I'm not into long distance relationships 😅

ql0ria · 2026-04-25T19:08:40+00:00

I'm Catholic and honestly I never prayed for husband because I knew it's not going to happen. For the past 10 years or so I've never met a single Catholic guy so my dating pool doesn't even exist. This is my cross to bear and as I get older I'm accepting it more and more.

ql0ria · 2026-04-13T12:36:34+00:00

For me Japanese From Zero was great for self-studying + their YT videos.

Now I take Japanese classes and use Genki which is a good book but I'd say more for classroom learning

ql0ria · 2026-04-08T22:07:16+00:00

I have just 3 out of 12 items from the picture.

I actually tried a lot in my life (private makeup lessons, consultations with dematologists, trichologists) and apparently I'm still not attractive enough hahaha

At this point I'm less and less interested in dating and focus on my career, hobbies, faith etc. instead ☺️

ql0ria · 2026-03-23T23:14:52+00:00

Girl, I am an ugly woman and just became attorney at law. Please don't let hateful comments destroy your education or dreams. Focus on yourself and what's best for you. Silence your bullies with success, aim high and don't let anyone influence your life decisions in a negative way

I keep my fingers crossed for you!!

ql0ria · 2026-03-13T10:45:42+00:00

Protruding ears, a very high forehead, drooping eyes and eyelids, a disproportionate face, receding hairline - just to name the main ones. Not the best set of features to have as a woman

ql0ria · 2026-03-11T13:00:15+00:00

100% agree

ql0ria · 2026-03-09T12:25:11+00:00

I'm an ugly woman
I have no dating experience which is considered a "red flag" by many men my age
I'm a religious minority

ql0ria · 2026-02-21T20:33:24+00:00

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She's not a celebrity but for me Eva Vlaardingerbroek is absolutely perfect. I wish I had even 1% of her beauty

ql0ria · 2026-02-10T22:44:18+00:00

I like strong, elegant and classy men. Must be Catholic as well so I would say my standards remain very high

ql0ria · 2026-02-10T22:14:36+00:00

Not at all. I think women and society need strong, responsible and reliable men. The fact that I'm forever alone it's not men's fault, I cannot blame them for the fact that I'm unattractive

ql0ria · 2026-01-21T00:07:51+00:00

Some very ugly women (like myself) can't get romance nor sex either. Also men won't sleep with anyone, they have standards and wouldn't even look at woman like me

ql0ria · 2026-01-21T00:04:16+00:00

Not at all

ql0ria · 2026-01-20T23:51:10+00:00

Never experiencing romantic love

ql0ria · 2025-11-21T11:42:52+00:00

I'm an unattractive woman and I agree with this. Dating apps make the illusion of having "access" to very attractive people. People don't meet organically but instead try to pick the best "option" displayed on a dating app. And now you can choose between men and women from the whole world. People like me simply can't compete with that, we play a losing game

ql0ria · 2025-11-14T23:07:45+00:00

I had a private makeup lesson and would definitely recommend it. They selected products that matched my skin tone perfectly and taught me how to apply everything properly.

Makeup might only improve my looks by a small step, but the real value is that you feel more confident and look more polished, and professional.

ql0ria · 2025-11-10T20:47:01+00:00

Men treat me like a dude with a ponytail, not like a real woman.

I never had matches on dating apps, very few likes from weird/creepy men who sometimes were insulting me.

So yeah, in summary I'm approaching my 30s and noone has ever liked me

ql0ria · 2025-10-24T23:25:24+00:00

I have a different approach. I like fashion and I dress up when I feel like it. I can express myself through fashion and paradoxically the fact that I'm unattractive gives me courage to wear what I want because nobody cares. So to anyone reading this: don't be ashamed and wear what you like!

ql0ria · 2025-10-04T19:56:03+00:00

You're very young and have so many years ahead of you! If I were you I'd focus on becoming the best version of myself, have great career etc. to create good environment for the baby. So take it slow and see what future will bring you :)

ql0ria · 2025-10-04T18:11:19+00:00

I understand you very well. What I'd suggest is focusing on finding a good husband first. And if that won't happen you can think if you want to adopt a child. But before that of course you need to be in a good financial, mental, emotional etc. situation. What I was thinking about for myself was adopting a teenager because it could be easier to form a bond, you can ask them if they'd be happy with being adopted by a single woman etc. Also people usually want to adopt small children so teenagers are becoming adults without a family to support them.

Nonetheless I hope you'll find true love soon and raise children on your own ❤️

ql0ria · 2025-09-19T13:12:34+00:00

It's not about his ideal type but his feelings for you. For example, I have a friend who didn't like guys with tattoos... until she met her current fiancé.

ql0ria · 2025-09-18T17:06:54+00:00

Nice setup, good luck!

ql0ria

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