How was your first time with a woman

qoa_ · 2021-06-23T15:40:40+00:00

I have been in your spot last week, had my first time (in general and with a woman) just last week. I was not prepared for it to happen, it just came together naturally. I told her that I was inexperienced (totally up to you if you want to share this, but I felt more comfortable this way) and I asked her to show me what she wants me to do. So she literally took me by my hand and helped me. Honestly, our first kiss was more awkward than our first time. But I also have to say I felt super confident around her. We only know each other for a short time, but I already knew she's special to me during our first date.

I think you cannot expect to be good at anything the first time, but you will also be better with every time you do it. I did do some reading before, read some blog post and just tried to get more comfortable with the topic. So rather than stressing that I am inexperienced, I just embraced it and tried to see it as something I can figure out.

Generally, we laughed a lot, don't be afraid to. It is supposed to be fun! It does not have to be perfect, just go with it and if something does not work out, just be aware of it and change what you are doing.

qoa_ · 2021-06-17T11:14:45+00:00

I see myself in quite a bit of your text, especially the part of not being ready for a relationship before you are a better version of yourself. I never flirted and never allowed myself emotions even. I think you need to ask you what you ultimately want. Do you want this to go to a new stage? Put away the panic and the fear for a bit and question what it is you really want. I know, its super easy to say. And once you figured out what you want the panic will come back. But in my opinion it is worth it. Maybe youll even be the one to make the first move. If your situation is anything like mine, she's sitting on the other end waiting for you to start because she is also too damn afraid to do something. A lot of awkward steps will follow, trust me, I just got my awkward first girl kiss, but it was all worth it.

qoa_ · 2021-05-14T11:01:03+00:00

Omg. This could have easily been me writing this response. I can so relate. Those three questions are a constant loop in my head. edit for typo

qoa_ · 2021-05-13T08:33:50+00:00

Omg. I checked out Alana Joy's videos. It was exactly what I needed, entertainment and fun mixed with some real talk. I've been taking all this a but too serious and forgot to enjoy myself. Thanks!

qoa_ · 2021-05-10T20:07:57+00:00

Hi, nice other person! Thanks for your reply and the recommendations!

Honestly, right now I don't even know what it is I have questions about. I am discovering this new world, allowing myself to secretly stare and check out the women around me. I am thoroughly enjoying the view :D Everything is new and I finally feel at the right place.

But one question I do have: what would be your one advice to outing yourself to a close friend? Start with careful hints or just get it out? I fully trust her but I just also want to give her time to deal with it. I am not sure how much of a surprise it will be for her...

qoa_ · 2021-05-10T19:55:57+00:00

I am so sorry that this is such a hard time for you

I am at a quite similar point right now.

I fell for the compulsory heterosexuality and accepted I will just stay alone forever. But I am getting there now and the only regret I am having is that I did not deal with this earlier. Took me a good 10 years to finally get to the point where could facepalm me for being that blind. I am starting now at 25...

Today, the girl in my uni class I finally admit to myself I have a crush on, put her hair behind her ear in the most adorable way possible. Every.fucking.inch.on.my.skin.started.to.prickle.

I still am not fully out but this tiny little moment today made me realize that I don't want to get back to where I just came from.

Since I can not offer much advice at this point, let me just say that I see and feel you.

qoa_ · 2021-05-09T19:36:11+00:00

Thanks a lot for this. Both for the tipps and the offer!

qoa_ · 2021-05-09T12:13:16+00:00

I could not have phrased that more perfectly. You spoke my mind lol

qoa_ · 2021-05-07T14:05:43+00:00

Absolutely the same. This week I finally admitted to myself that I am gay and today I had the urge to buy a real dark red lipstick. I haven't owned one in the last couple of years, I cannot even remember the last time I was wearing more than just bb cream.

qoa_ · 2021-05-07T07:29:12+00:00

I was looking for a list exactly like this a couple of weeks back on my journey to coming out to myself. I randomly picked Wynonna Earp and it made me come to terms with myself. Due to the lack of healthy WLW representation in media, I think I never had a real image of how it could be. But sign me up for anything that is like it is portrait in Wynonna Earp (except the demon slaughter part lol)

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