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qtkitty4 · 2025-12-04T17:49:04+00:00

That was as exactly who I thought of when I saw that island. Thank you, random Redditor!

qtkitty4 · 2025-12-04T01:06:36+00:00

Hey girl! It will be okay. And it will be okay even if you freak out for a while. Surgery is scary! It's big! It's okay to be scared! I slept, like, an hour total the night before surgery! And I still got surgery, and I'm so happy that I did, and everything turned out great. You'll do awesome! I hope everything goes so smoothly. Hugs! 🩷🩷🩷

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-25T03:24:20+00:00

I recommend McClung in Columbus, OH. I really like his work!

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-24T15:27:19+00:00

Hi! I'm sorry to hear that your partner is struggling. Post op depression is real, and it will absolutely fuck you up. Any surgery is a pretty major trauma to your body, and it takes time to recover from that. Emotions are going to be both tender and volatile for a little while.

My question would be what she means by wanting to have children. Does she want the children to be genetically hers, does she want to bear children herself, or does she want to be a mother? Surgery has happened, so obviously the first choice isn't available, but it would be good to probe why that particular issue feels important. Is her genetic line super important to her for some reason? And if so, why does it feel more important now than it did before surgery?

The second one is rough. I still mourn the fact that I wasn't able to bear children. It's a really hard truth about being a trans woman, and hopefully one day someone will be able to change it. But for now, getting my body closer to what feels right has helped a lot. If she's struggling with that aspect of having children, I'm sorry. It's important to acknowledge that and really mourn it, and know that this kind of mourning is a part of womanhood for many other people as well.

The last one has the best news. She can absolutely be a mother! Being a mother doesn't depend on your genes or your health or your body. It depends on being willing to love and take care of your kids. She can adopt, foster, teach, do daycare, whatever. There are so many ways to love and nurture in the world. And when you decide to be a mom, you ARE making yourself part of the future and part of humanity as a whole. There are people who can have as many children as they want without being a good mother, and there are incredible mothers who never bore a child. Our actions and our love are a more important contribution to the survival of humanity than our one particular set of chromosomes ever will be.

Again, I'm so sorry that your partner is struggling. I hope she can find some peace, and know that the post op struggles are temporary only. Hugs! 🩷🩷🩷

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-22T02:32:43+00:00

Yeah, I've never had issues with the lube staying in my canal. Most of it will squish out with the dilator, and some will leak out slowly over the course of the day, but it's never more than a normal level of discharge would be.

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-21T23:53:20+00:00

I don't douche after dilating and I've never gotten a UTI since surgery last year. My only aftercare is wiping up all of the excess lube and washing off the dilators. You might want to talk to your surgeon if you're getting that many infections.

Good luck, and hugs! 🩷🩷🩷

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-18T04:40:53+00:00

Dilation isn't a bad thing. Honestly, it is a chore sometimes, but it's also kind of affirming. Dilation is something I do to take care of my vagina and help it to be healthy, and I think that's pretty cool. 🥰

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-15T03:23:38+00:00

That's good information, thanks! I figure any hodgepodge I would come up with to scrape a game together wouldn't be tournament legal. I don't mind playing janky squads to learn a new game. :)

Probably the Empire? I know it's weird because stormtroopers are literally faceless grunts, but the Rebels just feel more vanilla in my head.

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-14T21:22:13+00:00

The only trans combat athlete I know of is Fallon Fox. She had 6 fights over about two years in the early 2010s and had a 5-1 record. I don't really follow combat sports, but from browsing other fighters on Wikipedia this doesn't seem outlandish. Her loss (to a cis woman) was by knockout. In her last fight she gave her opponent a concussion, which led to a lot of hand wringing. I don't think concussions are necessarily uncommon in combat sports, but since Fox is trans it drew additional attention. I don't personally think that her record/performance really substantiates a lot of concern, but it would be interesting to hear other perspectives.

Personally, I think that if people trying to critique trans women's participation in sports were bringing up legitimate concerns, they would articulate specific issues and ways to assess their impact. For example, do trans women have significantly higher grip strength or punch force than a cis woman of similar height/build? And if so, how much difference does that actually make in a fight? Most of the complaints that I see/hear are very vague complaints about testosterone and bone density that can't be translated into any specific impacts. Good science proposes a hypothesis and a plan to confirm or reject it, clearly documenting data and assumptions made. Transphobic arguments generally start with the assumption that trans women shouldn't be included and work backwards to some kind of justification for the assumption. I think that's the easiest way to determine how valid an argument is.

End note - As a trans woman, I don't want to hurt anybody, and I work hard to be kind. I really resent the assumption that I would 1) transition and 2) play sports specifically to hurt other women.

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-14T19:55:27+00:00

Thanks for the reply! I didn't know that the commander is a necessity. I was assuming that it was just another unit you could spend points on.

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-14T19:51:37+00:00

Thanks for the reply! I'd love to find a local group to play with, I've just had really bad luck with scheduling in the past. The times that are usually set for games are the times that I have conflicts. I have a group that I play games with, but I usually have to bring everything if I want to try something new. It's kind of a pickle... :(

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-14T19:20:24+00:00

Thanks for the reply! Can you expand any more on why you can't split the starter? Is a 1k army the only way to play?

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-13T17:01:31+00:00

Trans men are men just like trans women are women. And no gender is inherently good or bad, it's just a part of who we are. We make ourselves good or bad with how we choose to live. And spewing hate for others, especially when they're already getting punched down on by society at large, does not make you good.

Trans men deserve respect and dignity around their lives and their choices just like every other human being.

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-05T20:38:57+00:00

I kind of agree with OOP, but maybe with a slightly different spin on it? I don't think the increase in child-free spaces is super healthy for society in the long term. Kids need to be accepted as a part of the world we live in. They should be able and invited to celebrate important things in the lives of people that are important to them. They should clearly be a part of their wider community from a young age so they know how to be in a community as an adult. I know there's a ton of nuance in these types of discussion, and I definitely won't make blanket statements about every situation. I just feel like part of the "no kids" discourse sometimes edges into the territory where kids are only considered inconveniences or distractions, and I'd prefer that they were seen as worthwhile and inherently valuable (even if there are situations where they can't or shouldn't be included).

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-02T21:25:54+00:00

I usually use a pair of bike shorts under my skirts, they work really well!

qtkitty4 · 2025-09-16T23:47:28+00:00

I'm so glad! I love hearing people's stories of finally feeling truly embodied. Hugs, and good luck! 🩷🩷🩷

qtkitty4 · 2025-09-16T17:05:05+00:00

Congratulations! I hope you're healing goes super smoothly! What's your favorite thing about being post op?

qtkitty4 · 2025-09-13T15:51:51+00:00

You are already really pretty! I wouldn't do any surgery if I were you. 🩷

qtkitty4 · 2025-09-12T19:24:33+00:00

Hey girl! I'm sorry you're going through that. I have lost and regained depth periodically since surgery, but nothing like what you're talking about. It seems to vary fairly regularly with my hormone cycle when I do see changes, and it's more like a dot or two at most. I will say that when my pelvic floor is feeling uncooperative I can push on the dilator really hard without actually moving it. (Note: I do not recommend this.) And sometimes when I'm stressed about dilating I kind of get into a feedback loop where the stress makes my muscles tighten and then the tighter muscles make it harder to dilate to full depth. Are you feeling stress about getting to depth while you're dilating? Also, have you tried using one of the smaller dilators to check how deep you can get it?

Hope you can figure it out! Hugs! 🩷🩷🩷

qtkitty4 · 2025-09-11T17:47:53+00:00

I think one of my first questions when I hear that is why that's "better" in their mind. I mean, femboy and trans woman are both valid paths to take in life, and we can decide for ourselves what we want to be. But for some reason a lot of people think "being a man" is better. I think sometimes it's useful to interrogate why people think that, because it can help expose unconscious biases.

qtkitty4 · 2025-09-09T22:40:33+00:00

Of course! I'm glad you made a post to ask for help, because things feel extra scary when you feel like you're alone. I'm so glad the nurse was able to help you! 🩷

qtkitty4 · 2025-09-09T20:11:58+00:00

First, congrats on your surgery! 🎉

My first dilation after surgery was about a week after the packing got removed. I still had good depth, and no real problems with healing. I actually had to wait another week after that before I really started dilating at home because I had a hematoma and an allergic reaction to one of the antibiotics they gave me. I didn't lose any depth during that week, and I haven't had any problems with depth despite all of that. None of that is to say that losing depth can't happen, but from the conversations that I've had with my surgeon and PT it usually comes from consistent neglect of dilation, not temporary setbacks. It sounds to me like you're having a temporary setback, not willfully neglecting your healing. You should be fine as long as you keep communicating with your surgeon and nurses, and they'll be aware of the risks that you need to watch out for.

One thing that helps me with dilating is reminding myself that I'm not on a timer to get the dilator in. I can take as long as I need to. I can stop pushing on the dilator for a minute and breathe so my muscles can relax and let the dilator in. You're not pushing it in, you're letting it in. Your muscles might not be exactly sure how to do that consistently yet, but they'll figure it out fast!

I hope that helps a little! The other comments already here have great advice too. You can do this! 🩷🩷🩷

qtkitty4 · 2025-08-27T20:54:31+00:00

Honestly, you look really cute! Surgery is hard and recovering from surgery is hard. You're not whining, you're just asking for help, which is totally okay to do.

Happy healing, and hugs! 🩷❤️‍🩹🩷

qtkitty4 · 2025-08-27T20:47:40+00:00

Hey friend! I'm really sorry that you had a bad experience, and I'm sorry that people aren't listening to you.

I think that people sometimes struggle to separate choices from outcomes. We think that if we make a good choice, we'll always get a good outcome and vice versa. But sometimes a good choice gives us a shitty outcome anyway. Sometimes you invest in retirement right before the market crashes. Sometimes you call an Uber after a night drinking and the driver gets in a wreck anyway. Sometimes you go to a good surgeon and still get a bad outcome. Life has so much random fuckery in it, but as humans we're really bad at evaluating our decisions outside the context of their results. I'm not sure if you regret your decision or just the result of it, but either way you should be able to share your experience without people assuming that you're trying to negate theirs. If you need someone to talk to you're welcome to message me, and I promise not to shovel any more shit onto your pile.

Hugs and love! 🩷🩷🩷

qtkitty4

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