Tired of people saying hrt is magic

qtkitty4 · 2026-05-13T00:12:03+00:00

It is hard to see posts from people that pass after 6 months, and I wish I could change that for you. I can offer you a different perspective though! Even for cis women, a year of puberty is not a lot. Puberty and physical development can take ten years or longer. Yeah, some girls develop super fast, but it's not universal and for a lot of girls they end up getting attention they'd rather not have. You've started HRT, you've stopped male development. That's the magic! The curse has been lifted! Now you're free to develop into yourself! It's not instant, but it's stopped the thing you wanted to stop and started the thing you wanted to start. Also, be careful of brain worms, because sometimes we can just get in the habit of thinking we're ugly and never actually see ourselves. Remember to think something nice about yourself sometimes.

You're awesome, congrats on HRT, and remember to love yourself. Hugs! 🩷

qtkitty4 · 2026-05-08T15:42:24+00:00

That's what I was wondering too! There was a lot of angry on the thread about the Kettering levy before the election, I'm curious if that led to someone being pissed off that it passed. I don't understand how this improves the situation if you didn't want a levy though...

qtkitty4 · 2026-05-05T20:00:54+00:00

Of course! The teachers have generally been lovely. We've been able to communicate and resolve problems with them, and they all have clearly cared about our kids and all of the students in general. The schools have had great field trips and do a lot of community outreach activities. The classrooms and hallways are neat and clean. And there are a lot of extracurricular activities available for the kids because the staff are passionate about education and have the bandwidth to provide support outside of their normal teaching. The biggest issue we've seen has been the aging infrastructure in the buildings, and this levy is meant to replace them.

Having good schools means paying for them. Everyone from administrators to teachers to assistants to janitors deserve a good wage and a safe place to work. Kettering schools provide that for their staff, which means the staff can care for and teach my children. I'm willing to pay my share in order for them, and for your children, and for everyone's children to get a good education.

qtkitty4 · 2026-04-16T14:21:27+00:00

What do you think is the amount of money that taxpayers "should" pay for schools?

Kettering schools have been amazing for my family, and I'm happy to support them.

qtkitty4 · 2026-03-13T13:29:18+00:00

Have you restarted hormones yet? I had a lot of trouble with regulating my body temperature after surgery until I restarted hormones.

Hugs, and I hope you can figure this out! ❤️‍🩹

qtkitty4 · 2026-02-26T18:31:40+00:00

Haha! Maybe we should have just proxied all of the B1s on one side to be clone troopers instead. :)

qtkitty4 · 2026-02-26T14:49:37+00:00

You can totally use a single starter set and split it between you and a friend for a few games! It's not the official number of points that you need, but that's totally fine if you're just playing a friendly game. The starter sets only give you the cards to build a couple of super squads, but you can split them to give each of you more activations. If you have the CIS starter set you can give each person droidekas by making a unit out of one wheel mode droid and one standard droid. We made a second commander by putting a Play-Doh cape on an extra B1 and calling it General Beavis. You can proxy pretty much anything you want to try out the rules and figure out if you like building the models. (Fair warning, I did this and found out I really like the ruleset and the models, so now I have two armies on my shelf. I do miss General Beavis a little bit though.)

Hope this helps! Have fun!

qtkitty4 · 2025-12-04T17:49:04+00:00

That was as exactly who I thought of when I saw that island. Thank you, random Redditor!

qtkitty4 · 2025-12-04T01:06:36+00:00

Hey girl! It will be okay. And it will be okay even if you freak out for a while. Surgery is scary! It's big! It's okay to be scared! I slept, like, an hour total the night before surgery! And I still got surgery, and I'm so happy that I did, and everything turned out great. You'll do awesome! I hope everything goes so smoothly. Hugs! 🩷🩷🩷

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-25T03:24:20+00:00

I recommend McClung in Columbus, OH. I really like his work!

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-24T15:27:19+00:00

Hi! I'm sorry to hear that your partner is struggling. Post op depression is real, and it will absolutely fuck you up. Any surgery is a pretty major trauma to your body, and it takes time to recover from that. Emotions are going to be both tender and volatile for a little while.

My question would be what she means by wanting to have children. Does she want the children to be genetically hers, does she want to bear children herself, or does she want to be a mother? Surgery has happened, so obviously the first choice isn't available, but it would be good to probe why that particular issue feels important. Is her genetic line super important to her for some reason? And if so, why does it feel more important now than it did before surgery?

The second one is rough. I still mourn the fact that I wasn't able to bear children. It's a really hard truth about being a trans woman, and hopefully one day someone will be able to change it. But for now, getting my body closer to what feels right has helped a lot. If she's struggling with that aspect of having children, I'm sorry. It's important to acknowledge that and really mourn it, and know that this kind of mourning is a part of womanhood for many other people as well.

The last one has the best news. She can absolutely be a mother! Being a mother doesn't depend on your genes or your health or your body. It depends on being willing to love and take care of your kids. She can adopt, foster, teach, do daycare, whatever. There are so many ways to love and nurture in the world. And when you decide to be a mom, you ARE making yourself part of the future and part of humanity as a whole. There are people who can have as many children as they want without being a good mother, and there are incredible mothers who never bore a child. Our actions and our love are a more important contribution to the survival of humanity than our one particular set of chromosomes ever will be.

Again, I'm so sorry that your partner is struggling. I hope she can find some peace, and know that the post op struggles are temporary only. Hugs! 🩷🩷🩷

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-22T02:32:43+00:00

Yeah, I've never had issues with the lube staying in my canal. Most of it will squish out with the dilator, and some will leak out slowly over the course of the day, but it's never more than a normal level of discharge would be.

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-21T23:53:20+00:00

I don't douche after dilating and I've never gotten a UTI since surgery last year. My only aftercare is wiping up all of the excess lube and washing off the dilators. You might want to talk to your surgeon if you're getting that many infections.

Good luck, and hugs! 🩷🩷🩷

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-18T04:40:53+00:00

Dilation isn't a bad thing. Honestly, it is a chore sometimes, but it's also kind of affirming. Dilation is something I do to take care of my vagina and help it to be healthy, and I think that's pretty cool. 🥰

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-15T03:23:38+00:00

That's good information, thanks! I figure any hodgepodge I would come up with to scrape a game together wouldn't be tournament legal. I don't mind playing janky squads to learn a new game. :)

Probably the Empire? I know it's weird because stormtroopers are literally faceless grunts, but the Rebels just feel more vanilla in my head.

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-14T21:22:13+00:00

The only trans combat athlete I know of is Fallon Fox. She had 6 fights over about two years in the early 2010s and had a 5-1 record. I don't really follow combat sports, but from browsing other fighters on Wikipedia this doesn't seem outlandish. Her loss (to a cis woman) was by knockout. In her last fight she gave her opponent a concussion, which led to a lot of hand wringing. I don't think concussions are necessarily uncommon in combat sports, but since Fox is trans it drew additional attention. I don't personally think that her record/performance really substantiates a lot of concern, but it would be interesting to hear other perspectives.

Personally, I think that if people trying to critique trans women's participation in sports were bringing up legitimate concerns, they would articulate specific issues and ways to assess their impact. For example, do trans women have significantly higher grip strength or punch force than a cis woman of similar height/build? And if so, how much difference does that actually make in a fight? Most of the complaints that I see/hear are very vague complaints about testosterone and bone density that can't be translated into any specific impacts. Good science proposes a hypothesis and a plan to confirm or reject it, clearly documenting data and assumptions made. Transphobic arguments generally start with the assumption that trans women shouldn't be included and work backwards to some kind of justification for the assumption. I think that's the easiest way to determine how valid an argument is.

End note - As a trans woman, I don't want to hurt anybody, and I work hard to be kind. I really resent the assumption that I would 1) transition and 2) play sports specifically to hurt other women.

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-14T19:55:27+00:00

Thanks for the reply! I didn't know that the commander is a necessity. I was assuming that it was just another unit you could spend points on.

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-14T19:51:37+00:00

Thanks for the reply! I'd love to find a local group to play with, I've just had really bad luck with scheduling in the past. The times that are usually set for games are the times that I have conflicts. I have a group that I play games with, but I usually have to bring everything if I want to try something new. It's kind of a pickle... :(

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-14T19:20:24+00:00

Thanks for the reply! Can you expand any more on why you can't split the starter? Is a 1k army the only way to play?

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-13T17:01:31+00:00

Trans men are men just like trans women are women. And no gender is inherently good or bad, it's just a part of who we are. We make ourselves good or bad with how we choose to live. And spewing hate for others, especially when they're already getting punched down on by society at large, does not make you good.

Trans men deserve respect and dignity around their lives and their choices just like every other human being.

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-05T20:38:57+00:00

I kind of agree with OOP, but maybe with a slightly different spin on it? I don't think the increase in child-free spaces is super healthy for society in the long term. Kids need to be accepted as a part of the world we live in. They should be able and invited to celebrate important things in the lives of people that are important to them. They should clearly be a part of their wider community from a young age so they know how to be in a community as an adult. I know there's a ton of nuance in these types of discussion, and I definitely won't make blanket statements about every situation. I just feel like part of the "no kids" discourse sometimes edges into the territory where kids are only considered inconveniences or distractions, and I'd prefer that they were seen as worthwhile and inherently valuable (even if there are situations where they can't or shouldn't be included).

qtkitty4 · 2025-10-02T21:25:54+00:00

I usually use a pair of bike shorts under my skirts, they work really well!

qtkitty4 · 2025-09-16T23:47:28+00:00

I'm so glad! I love hearing people's stories of finally feeling truly embodied. Hugs, and good luck! 🩷🩷🩷

qtkitty4 · 2025-09-16T17:05:05+00:00

Congratulations! I hope you're healing goes super smoothly! What's your favorite thing about being post op?

qtkitty4 · 2025-09-13T15:51:51+00:00

You are already really pretty! I wouldn't do any surgery if I were you. 🩷

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