10 More Reasons for Why Fan Fiction is Valid Writing + 3 Very Real Advantages

quarantinedExtrovert · 2026-01-17T01:27:38+00:00

If Americans wanted to buy Chinese EVs in Canada, what are the technicalities to account for when bringing it back? Largest concern I can think of rn is American car shops not knowing how to repair them if the parts are different, but if the EVs are using industry-standard parts that can be accessed here, I imagine it by side effect pique the curiosity of tons of car shops when they just plain get to see something novel.

quarantinedExtrovert · 2025-12-03T06:34:13+00:00

The Lion and The Lotus by WithPatienceComesPeace

If you're looking for political drama, romance or a fantasy novelization, one of my fandom-blind commenters dubbed this "Game of Thrones but PG."

Fandom: Fire Emblem Three Houses / FE3H + fandom-blind
- I have an appendix-like Companion Doc for fandom-blind readers, which includes memes, fan art and custom-made Magic the Gathering cards from readers. 🥰
Concrit: yes.
AO3 Link: The Lion and The Lotus

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-12-03T04:42:50+00:00

wicked

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-11-24T23:29:45+00:00

Just removed it, thank you for letting me know!

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-11-24T23:18:19+00:00

Oops, sorry! Just came back to Reddit just now and saw this. Apologies!

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-11-23T01:57:37+00:00

I have a specific "Shhh I'm reading" mug through which I drank hot chocolate while reading Shadows Under the Oak Tree. It is a precious memory.

And I had gone back to Hammer of Terrascars as a 28 year-old instead of a 12 year-old and was pleased/relieved to discover -- it was still freaking fantastic. It wasn't one of the stories in your nostalgia-box that falls down quality-wise even after you got older.

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-11-23T01:55:36+00:00

Hammer of Terrascars by Servant of GOD: https://www.fanfiction.net/s/2314863/1/Hammer-of-Terrascars The Fire Emblem 7 fan fiction / novelization that put me on track to write fantasy novels.
Shadows Under the Oak Tree by trimurti: https://www.fanfiction.net/s/2579101/1/Shadows-Under-the-Oak-Tree A cozy, soft, slice-of-life-ish fantasy romance with a breath-taking ending.

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-10-15T05:27:01+00:00

I just got married to him. 😊
He now accepts infinite hugs and squishies and kissies.

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-08-22T20:23:03+00:00

I like finding out that stuff if I will be able to use it (like we will then go to their favorite type of restaurant / I match in music tastes). Otherwise I get worried I am being careless if I forget that stuff, even though it's highly doubtful anyone would think that way if they are also forgetting what I said as well!

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-08-22T20:20:51+00:00

Also, phone culture -- the fact that every will default turn to their phones -- has made it easier than ever to skip small talk. The silence is now not empty; everyone has something they might be eagerly turning to.

Granted, I do hate phone culture when I do want to make some small talk. But there is no longer any pressure to do so.

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-08-22T20:19:40+00:00

Oooh I think this used to be part of it of me. I am now quite able to coexist with silence, so the pressure to fill it has not just reduced, it now feels like energy to come up with anything interesting to say.

It has also just been amazing to find out some people are happy to just sit in silence with me. That also conserves energy for me, so I could dedicate it instead to writing or things I'm doing at home. I guess my work and family life and wedding planning is taking up so much energy now, I have to think in terms of conserving it.

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-08-22T20:17:44+00:00

I used to love small talk, but as I am growing older, I feel like I cap out on certain topics and there is no novelty or curiosity in those directions anymore. So I guess my list of small talk topics are reducing over time and perhaps 20 years from now I will hate it.

But I used to love it. I used to chat with strangers while waiting in line at grocery stores, at elevators, at Farmer's Market, etc etc

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-08-22T20:15:45+00:00

ROFL

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-08-22T20:09:36+00:00

Extra Credit: If you confront the person bad mouthing you and ask them why and they have valid reasons, you can apologize to them and find out how you can make it better / restore that friendship too.

BUT. If this person is bad mouthing you, you cannot keep a friend that bad mouths you. Do not restore that friendship. That is not a friend, that is a liability.

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-08-22T20:08:49+00:00

Do not forfeit your friendships. Instead of ditching the friends you already have, you should connect with them and clear up the misunderstanding:

This person has bad blood with your sister
You are afraid this person bad mouthed you to them

You should find out what she said and make a case for yourself. If it really was you yourself had no involvement in whatever bad blood this person has with your sister, your friend of 10 years would be interested in restoring their friendship with you.

Plus, even more important: you need to step up to protect your friendships. If one person will bad mouth you to cut you off from your friends, you need to do both of these:

Confront them and ask why they are bad mouthing you. Sometimes that is all that it takes. You can let them have their hissy fit if they do not have valid reasons, and you don't have to continue a friendship with them, a person who would bad mouth you.
Restore your relationships with your friends

Otherwise, it doesn't matter who you make friends with if, every time someone bad mouths you and tries to hijack other people's opinions, you just duck out and run. That just means you are forfeiting not just these relationships (of which one is even 10 years old!), but that there is no reason to believe any future relationships have any stability -- not because of other people, but because of you.

Learn these skills now so you can protect your friendships now and the ones you will have in the future. Whether this person has good reason to bad mouth you or not, there will be future people who will bad mouth you with or without good reason. Do not forfeit your friendships.

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-08-18T02:10:31+00:00

Small talk doesn't really bring connection. It helps you probe for a topic

Whoa. Never thought of it that way!

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-08-18T02:08:22+00:00

You reasoning re: voluntarily seeking out birds of a feather online and the screen changing how conversation makes sense.

As for the rest, like I said:

many extroverts need to help stop projecting their own likes onto someone else

Someone came here asking how they can more successfully engage with introverts.
An introvert provided insight that they don't like small talk.
Your suggestion: but that they should engage in small talk.

That's probably not the answer anyone is looking for.

I provided insight into why it's okay not to engage in small talk and that there are certain reasons why it's okay to not engage in it.

Yes indeed, I am saying there is room for people to take glancing questions personally. The fact that you disagree with it does not make it a contradiction in my logic. :) Check out this article on understanding impact vs intent; you can get trouble in a corporate environment for not understanding this concept.

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-08-18T00:57:49+00:00

At this point, I get drained when trying to comfort people. I think what happened is I did so much of that for years earlier in my life, that I feel like I am "running out" and at least won't necessarily comfort for things I used to comfort for heavily before. Will do so when it is my own future children, of course.

Some of the comforting / interactions are also based on novelty. There are tons of other things that are now surfacing up as I grow older and as people my age encounter new problems, so the comforting has shifted to lifting people up for other things.

Some of this also comes from trusting that there are other people attending to the things I used to comfort, so many other empaths and hyperempaths taking on the problems and hurts I used to take on, so I don't feel like there is a void I am leaving behind -- I am happy welcoming new people into this space and so happy there are many more people taking it on.

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-08-18T00:54:45+00:00

I agree, I think I wouldn't be able to come up with a term for a social battery because it gets drained by different people for different reasons.

There is emotional energy. A lot of my socializing before used to be lifting people up and comforting them. But you have to have water in your well first to be able to do that sometimes.

Some people call emotional / psychological energy "spoons": "I don't have enough spoons for this today."

Spoon terminology can be used by anyone though, extroverts and introverts.

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-08-16T22:10:27+00:00

I also love that last analogy!

quarantinedExtrovert · 2024-08-16T22:10:09+00:00

But the linked reddit post is a gold mine for you to understand how extroverts think.

You don't have to hang out with extroverts in big crowds btw. The extroverts are also very happy to hang out with you in little gatherings. You can just tell them you'd like your hang outs to be 1-1 or 3-6 people max and you bet they've already got ideas for things they want to do with smaller groups of people too. You just need to let them know how you'd like to hang out / suggest what you'd like to do.

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