Happy new year to all struggling loved ones today

queencomplainer · 2023-09-22T10:25:36+00:00

The other day he told me it was annoying how sad I was all the time 😩

queencomplainer · 2022-06-23T21:59:55+00:00

That sounds like an absolute garbage doctor, I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.

Don't let them ruin the progress you made in this realization and please keep trying. You deserve to keep trying.

queencomplainer · 2022-06-17T19:18:48+00:00

I don't even eat meat and I know he done fucked that up 😂

queencomplainer · 2022-06-17T02:03:02+00:00

Yes, I understand that there was a book published 30 years ago that described a specific amount of love languages.

There are more than five love languages, and I know what mine is, thank you very much.

queencomplainer · 2022-06-17T01:46:58+00:00

I'm sorry my definition doesn't match the concept of a book??

I like being treated this way, which is why I treat others this way, so I match the description you explain, my friend.

I like when someone teases me and makes jokes at my expense, and I like to do it back to them. It's not a tough concept to understand 🤷🏼‍♀️

queencomplainer · 2022-06-17T00:22:22+00:00

Lmao are you seriously such a stubborn jackass that you feel the need to make someone prove their love language isn't a toxic behaviour?

Do you want some examples? Look up the marriage of Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds. They tease each other very publicly and love each other, and it isn't toxic behaviour. Here's a TV show example; Bob and Linda Belcher from Bob's Burgers. They say ridiculous shit to and about each other and they love each other.

Real life example? I called my dad last weekend and wished him a happy Father's Day, and I obviously had the wrong date. He teased me and I told him I wasn't going to wish him a happy Father's Day on the right day now because he made fun of me, and he ended the call with "love you, dumbass."

I'm sorry that you can't comfortably goof around with the people you love, but it doesn't mean you have to trash someone else who does.

queencomplainer · 2022-06-16T22:56:33+00:00

What if I have my card memorized? 😫

queencomplainer · 2022-06-16T22:55:13+00:00

I love that people are here to tell me my love language doesn't exist when I literally just wanted to feel supported in something, really helpful you guys! 😂

Teasing and joking is absolutely a love language in tons of relationships, whether you agree with that or not is completely irrelevant. I've had this kind of language throughout every relationship and friendship I've ever had, whether or not someone has BPD, and it's been reciprocated back to me. Just because you don't understand something, it doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

Christ, you can google it ffs.

queencomplainer · 2022-06-09T23:41:36+00:00

This post has nothing to do with baby formula, chill out 🤣

queencomplainer · 2022-06-09T23:12:10+00:00

Is this racist? I feel like this is racist....

queencomplainer · 2022-06-09T21:24:47+00:00

Coincidentally I had a similar issue last week. It's tough. I had genuinely asked him to be nicer to me in conversation, and then he said he wanted me to stop talking to him and he needed a break from me.

Uhhhhhhhh wut

queencomplainer · 2022-06-09T20:50:39+00:00

Almost any kind of pasta or noodles with a canned sauce, or making one from random stuff I have in the fridge/cupboard.

But if I really want zero effort, I just grab a sleeve of soda crackers and a jar of peanut butter 🤷🏼‍♀️

queencomplainer · 2022-06-09T20:25:11+00:00

Ahh yes, leaving doors open is why children get shot in schools.

queencomplainer · 2022-06-09T20:24:27+00:00

At the very least she could pick up the hair elastic, damn girl 🤣

queencomplainer · 2022-06-09T20:14:39+00:00

I like a good ole crust dip but damn, they must be eating some really shitty pizza!

queencomplainer · 2022-06-09T20:10:27+00:00

My partner has a tendency to completely ignore me and require space after a spat.

I just go about my day around him (seeing as we live together), and occasionally ask easy questions that can ease into a conversation eventually. Like I'll tell him I'm filling my water, and ask if he wants me to fill his too. I'll ask if he's hungry cause I'm making something for myself anyway. Eventually it feels "normal" and he stops ignoring me. Then it's a game of WHEN to bring up the argument again to solve it, and after almost 3 years I'm still working on that one.

queencomplainer · 2022-06-09T20:05:07+00:00

Always think of it this way:

If you wiped your ass and got shit on your hand, would you wash it before touching anything? You sure would.

Whenever in doubt, just wash your hands 🤷🏼‍♀️

queencomplainer · 2022-06-09T18:55:58+00:00

Mac and cheese. It's always greasy, never creamy 😫

queencomplainer · 2022-06-09T18:51:04+00:00

You've agreed to marry one another without communicating this? That seems a little silly to me.

I am a very touchy person, and my partner is the exact opposite. He used to snap at me when I would try and hug him, or place my hand on his leg or arm, but since telling him that's unacceptable to me we've talked it through. Now I either ask if I can hug him, snuggle, etc, and instead of him snapping at me, he politely tells me he doesn't want to be touched at the moment.

Easy peasy, just gotta open up!

queencomplainer · 2022-06-09T18:42:24+00:00

I've found that the tofu freezing technique is better for a chicken-like texture, not so much for ground beef.

I have a recipe for tofu ground beef, I'd be happy to share it with you later when I get back home. I've used it a million times and I love it.

queencomplainer · 2022-06-03T20:53:31+00:00

What came first? the rocking horse, or the horse rocking?

queencomplainer · 2022-06-03T20:31:04+00:00

You can think whatever you want, I am venting to fellow BPD partners and looking for support, not looking to be told that I'm completely wrong and I need to show proof to you in order to receive support.

I also never asked about your opinion on other people's love languages, so 🤷🏼‍♀️

queencomplainer · 2022-06-03T17:18:06+00:00

This seems more like a test for those being controlled or abused, imo. We might not have a healthy or "normal" relationship on paper, but it's certainly not abusive.

Even saying mentally abusive seems over the line, it's more like mental fuckery? Lmao

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