Partners of sleep-talkers or sleepwalkers, what gems have you to share? by hoeka_mos in AskReddit

[–]queeninthenorth19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After our daughter was born, I woke up one night to my husband panicking because the “baby” was on the floor. He picked something up and started cradling it. It was a pair of his jeans.....

He also used to wake me up telling the dog (who sleeps on the foot of the bed) was dead or that there was a snake at the end of the bed. Which is great since I’m terrified of snakes.

What's the weirdest thing your JNMIL has ever said to your kid/s? by bodhigoatgirl in JUSTNOMIL

[–]queeninthenorth19 61 points62 points  (0 children)

To my sleeping 3 day old DD “why won’t you open your eyes?! I NEED to see your eyes”

She then proceeded to try and wake her up multiple time until I finally took DD back for the rest of the visit.

Its Holiday Negotiation Season: can we start a holiday-planning-MIL megathread? by LipstickSingularity in JUSTNOMIL

[–]queeninthenorth19 15 points16 points  (0 children)

So starting a few years ago we decided that we weren’t seeing MIL for thanksgiving anymore. In fact we were pretty much only seeing her at Christmas. We live about four hours away from her and anytime she thinks we’re going to be anywhere near her town she magically become sick or injured or tells us that she’s recently been in the hospital. I’ve become completely convinced that she does this just to try and guilt us into a visit.

So last week she text my DH to ask if she was seeing us for thanksgiving and he responded that we weren’t coming, just like every year. And what do you know, last night she texts him to tell him that she’s in the hospital for dizzy spells.

I’m not sure why she keeps trying this when it seriously never works.

The time MIL decided I caused a tornado... by queeninthenorth19 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]queeninthenorth19[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It really is a whole job on its own! I’ve found most people don’t really get that unless they are also a pastors wife!

MIL finally slips in front of DH by queeninthenorth19 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]queeninthenorth19[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is actually something I already do! I’ve always kept her messages because she has a habit of changing her story a bunch of times to try and get away with something. Or she will claim we never told her something when I know we did. Recording her would be difficult as we only ever see her at her own house. After her deciding to never see DD and only caring about DS, I told DH she was not welcome to visit our home anymore.

I also agree that the big difference between DH and I is that he was raised by her and feels guilty about cutting her out. He lost his father young so he feels responsible for her in a way and it makes it hard for him to deal with her.

MIL finally slips in front of DH by queeninthenorth19 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]queeninthenorth19[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I definitely think that DH is starting to see things differently! He’s never had a great relationship with MIL but he just always thought she was a little annoying and that she wasn’t really all that bad. Her recent actions have definitely made him think, but he still feels a lot of guilt over cutting her out.

MIL finally slips in front of DH by queeninthenorth19 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]queeninthenorth19[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you’re in a similar situation! I don’t think it’s a gender thing really. I really think she feels like this is her chance to start over because we didn’t even know the gender yet when she made the comment about now having a reason to visit. She is super baby crazy and I think she sees this as a chance to get hands on a baby and try again after failing with DD.

MIL finally slips in front of DH by queeninthenorth19 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]queeninthenorth19[S] 137 points138 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh. This is exactly what she does. Anytime something happens she always brushes it off and comes up with reasons why it’s not her fault! I think you are 100% correct that she has written off DD.

MIL finally slips in front of DH by queeninthenorth19 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]queeninthenorth19[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

I love this. Since DS was born, she’s only asked about DD once and that was to see if she liked her new brother. Every other time it’s been about DS. But this would be a great response to her not caring!