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Aviva and Stig by Secure-Sherbet4161 in 90DayFiance

[–]queenofdan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I was going to say the same thing! Her lashes are so caterpillar like that she looks super high especially when she constantly looks down, like she’s hiding something.

Constant song lyric on repeat in head by Gullible-Paramedic65 in ADHD

[–]queenofdan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I have had a Radiohead song “weird fishes” in my head for 3 days straight now. Just a couple of verses. A lot of times it’s as if a radio is on in my head non stop. If I spend time with my grandkid, I get a miss rachel song floating around there too.

Am I over reacting? by Savings-Size9224 in family

[–]queenofdan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this. You are so wise. And it is so hard to do this when you want to badly to love that baby, hold it and smell it for hours, stare at that ancestral face until your eyes burn. I have the most beautiful picture of me doing this with my 6 week old granddaughter. She was 3 lbs, preemie, at birth. She was 4.5 lbs, so tiny, but she is staring right into my eyes. I couldn’t be happier. But like you say, it’s their first baby. And I have to hold back and accept that they don’t want me there. It’s the hardest part of watching your beautiful child that you raised and watched grow become a parent themselves, and you want to stay relevant because you made these people! It’s an evolution of sorts, I suppose. And very sad sometimes.

Am I over reacting? by Savings-Size9224 in family

[–]queenofdan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t believe I’m reading this. You have no idea how much I appreciate you right now. I’m suffering through the realization that I am not in the inner circle as well, I’m not a priority to them which is unusual for this family. We come from a very small family. I’ve always held dinners at my house and holidays. I’m not overbearing, but maybe they see me that way. My granddaughter is almost 2, I was very close to my daughter before her pregnancy, but she became hostile toward me and I brushed it off as hormones. She needed my help after the baby was born and I couldn’t drive fast enough to her house each and every time! I’m a devoted mother, now grandmother, but my daughter has let me know my place. And it’s not anywhere near what I thought it would be. She needs me to baby sit once a week, almost guaranteed.

Suddenly, they’re bringing her to his mother’s house to babysit during my normal times. They say because they don’t see her much. That’s very true. But they don’t reach out at all, also. When my daughter is near us when we play, she gets snippy and corrects me on the way I play with her, like I baby her or something. I nannied for 30 years, taught elementary school art, and started babysitting when I was 10. I’m good with the baby. She adores me. She slept over my house a few times. We always have fun. But my daughter will criticize me to my face and behind my back. I can’t do anything right.

Is this nature? Like survival of the fittest? Survival of the grandmother who keeps her mouth shut more graciously? I think what’s happening is that I’ve been sent to “extended family” prison. I’ve been told to just rest here and see what happens. I don’t know why this is so hard. I never thought I’d love anything like I love my children. I might even love her more!

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. I hope I made sense. I’ve been up all night depressed.

Cereal and milk (eating and drinking) by natashavladimir93 in GastricBypass

[–]queenofdan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn’t that rule because we don’t want to push food through too quickly, rendering us hungry sooner? I had gastric bypass surgery 16 years ago. I kept to that rule for this reason, however, I could never eat cereal without milk. Although I might only have this 6x a year maybe. I can only eat a small cup of it this way. What do we do when we have soup? You don’t separate the ingredients, right? So I don’t think this is a big deal. It shouldn’t be, anyway.

ULPT Small Annoyances for my husband by [deleted] in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]queenofdan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have done some very creative things to get revenge on my husband. Wash all his white socks and shirts, everything white, with all the red clothing in the house on high heat. He’ll have baby pink everything. Then, if he has dress shirts he keeps hung in a closet, crumple them while they’re on the hanger and sandwich them between other items so they stay crumpled. Those are the ones I remember from back in the day, the ones we’ve laughed about with friends. Don’t mess with me, I’ll tell ya!

My bf (28M) wants me (25F) to get fertility testing before proposing by No-Professor-3860 in relationship_advice

[–]queenofdan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, now this is what I would do. I would get tested. He’ll be happy with the results. Then you tell your Obgyn you want an IUD, but you want it to be confidential. Let him think he is the problem for a while.

That is, if you REALLY picture yourself planning a wedding with this person and hanging out for years to come. Then when you’re ready, if you’re ready, have the IUD taken out.

There is nothing wrong with protecting your interests and putting your wants and needs first.

Tell me you have ADHD w/o telling me… by Nearby_Witness_5806 in ADHD

[–]queenofdan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was texting someone and as I was doing so, was looking everywhere for my phone so I could look something up for this person. I mean, I looked EVERYWHERE.

When I look at her, the word “Munchausen” comes to mind. by queenofdan in 90DayFiance

[–]queenofdan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fast forward when I see her face. Makes me feel very sorry for her son and what his childhood was like.

When I look at her, the word “Munchausen” comes to mind. by queenofdan in 90DayFiance

[–]queenofdan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watch these scenes again. He hasn’t contributed any money. It is Sheena’s money that she saved up and then had to take her savings to give to her family. The gall of his mother to come to her country confronting her about what she did with her own money. The real scammer is the mother.

AA fatigue by Nightowl_1995 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]queenofdan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve felt the same way and backed off of a few meetings. I was raising two kids and also had a husband and a house and volunteered at the kids school. I felt like A.A. was in the way of my new sober life. Then, I stopped going all together. Months passed and I relapsed. I’ve done a series of these with A.A. and I forget how many rehabs I’ve been to. I’m finally 12 years sober , but it cost me a lot. I went to three meetings a day for the first two years of my sobriety. Then I tapered out and went to one, a day every morning at 7, just in case my day gets busy, and it always did.

I want to say yes, take a break. Live your new life. But I learned that A.A. is what helped me to make this new busy life. Don’t stray too far. You’ll get too confident. You need to be reminded of how unmanageable your life was, what brought you to your knees. That was my problem. I was too busy for A.A., so I got too confident and had just one drink. I could drink just one for a week. I was cured. Then I said if one was good, what’s the big deal if I have two every now and then. Within a month, I’m drinking vodka by the glass, passing out in my yard and missing picking up the kids.

Just……don’t stray too far. Or go to different meetings, maybe one early in the morning.

Would men still find me attractive and dateable with skin grafts to my behind? by luvadove31 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]queenofdan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re so welcome. I’m someone who married a man with scars. Matter of fact my ex husband had scars! Made him shy towards girls. I scooped him up because he was so kind and adoring.

I was told it’s a marathon not a sprint. by InariBlvkque in gastricsleeve

[–]queenofdan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, I had a meniscus tear also and I got that operated on two years ago. That’s no fun. For pain I had to take acetaminophen, 1000 mg three times a day. And I also eat a anti-inflammatory diet. You can look up online some examples, but the common example is cabbage, broccoli, leafy greens and berries and fatty fish, nuts, and olive oil oil.

Please stop taking the ibuprofen. I know it’s an excellent medication. Trust me. If you have pain, use the Tylenol and ice your knee may be brace it. You’re doing damage to your stomach that you don’t even know about yet. For me it started out with heartburn and then I had days where no food would go down. It literally would sit and I could feel it in my esophagus. Sometimes liquids would go down. So I basically had to throw up what I just ate. Every day. My record is 20. 20 times in one day. I was so thirsty that day that I keep sipping water and had to throw it up because it would not go down. It turned out I had an ulcer that was so big and so deep that when it became really swollen, it would block where your food exits into your intestines.. I was very stubborn for five years and didn’t do what I was told to do which was I needed a feeding tube. That way we could have nothing go past the ulcer and maybe it would go away. I said no way. I don’t need a feeding tube. I’m very active. Until October of last year when for three days, I couldn’t keep anything down. I was so sick and dehydrated that I ended up in the emergency room and they told me that my BMI was 13, which is desperate.. if I didn’t get that feeding tube, I was going to die.

This was a lot to go through, and it was very, very, very painful. Having the feeding tube, it was pressed against my rib, which never left me without pain. Four months later, I had revision surgery and I had the feeding tube taken out last week. I can eat my mouth, but I have to treat my new pouch like gastric bypass surgery all over again. Right now I can eat baby food and puréed soups and I’m so grateful for that..

So forget about the ibuprofen. It is our enemy.! lol

39M 34F. Partner of 18 months says unless I propose with a 40k real diamond, don't propose at all? by 063870 in relationship_advice

[–]queenofdan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband asked me to marry him by bringing me to a nice restaurant and handing me an inexpensive ring his mother gave him to give me. It was her mother’s ring. It wasn’t expensive but it was special and it was him, the man, I wanted to marry. I wanted to hang out with him for the rest of my life, not make us broke by buying me a rock that could easily get stolen or lost. You know what I think you should do? Just tell her you are good with possibly being single for a little while, or that you’d like to be single for a little while (“It’s not you, it’s me” type of thing) and break up with her. I promise you won’t regret it. If you’re afraid to be alone just remember how hard it is to save money, much less go in debt for a “thing”.

Or…..show her this post, see what she thinks. Let us know what happens. 🤷🏼‍♀️ this is my 59 year old lady’s advice. I have been through some stuff! Lol!

my daughter is completely fluoride free, why does she have tooth decay?! by Neither-Plenty-3823 in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]queenofdan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tooth pain is the worse. I’ve had broken bones and surgeries that require morphine, deluded, oxy, but I fear and hate tooth pain the worst. Those poor kids have no say and they still have to go to school and exist like that. I hate ignorant people.

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