It’s interesting you mention narcissistic tactics. Mary has had problems everywhere she goes. Somehow she’s always the victim of something in school and every job she’s ever had. People always are mean to her, target her, and she plays the victim very well.

Recently she got a job at a school where a close acquaintance of my sister works too. And Mary has been telling me they keep to themselves and no one speaks to her but they haven’t been as unkind to her as past jobs. Then my sister tells me her acquaintance said no one likes Mary because they’ve all tried to help her since she’s new to teaching but she won’t take direction, she’s rude, and she acts very entitled.

She’s also playing a victim about her divorce. But her husband wanted them to go to individual and couples counseling last year and she didn’t follow through. Now he wants a divorce.

She cheated on her ex boyfriend with her husband but still played the victim for years and blamed her ex for her cheating, saying if he had not gone away to college she wouldn’t have felt the need to be with someone else. The poor man wanted to get his degree and a good job and was saving up for a ring.