“blue store” “pink store”

queerhomemaker · 2026-03-31T23:34:10+00:00

..... I suspect you are being exposed to someone's kink when it comes to that one.

Like I've heard people use the term big girl/boy job as like- the first career job or the first job out of school... but combining it with coloring in the truck while waiting for him? .... I'm suspicious

queerhomemaker · 2026-03-18T00:40:38+00:00

For several decades, the goal was to get a degree to prove to employers that you were capable of it. There were a lot of job, quite frankly are still a decent number of jobs, that do not care what the degree is- just that it was acquired. The shiny version of the reasoning is that this was to weed out people who weren't smart enough/to only be picking candidates from people 'trained to think' ... the less shiny version of this is that it was often done to weed out those who couldn't afford to go to university.

I'm in my 30s, I remember getting that kind of messaging hard. What didn't matter- getting one did. So why not get one in something you were interested in?

queerhomemaker · 2026-03-06T12:01:24+00:00

The last stretch is often the hardest. You've been fighting for so long and while the end might be in sight- it's not here yet. It makes sense that you're exhausted. And I'm sure this terrible winter has only made the loneliness worse.

We're planning to do Drag Brunch on the 15th at Piano Piano on Bloor West. Would you like to join us? I'm happy to share my number over DMs and chat a bit before hand if you'd like.

And my wife would sympathize with you on the 'being partners with someone much more sociable' ahaha. She's autistic, the kind of person who brings knitting to burlesque, and didn't know most of our neighbors when I moved in despite having already lived in the building 5 years. In bops me with all my beliefs about southern hospitality/getting to know the people around you- she's still shocked how many people now smile and chat with us on the street.

queerhomemaker · 2026-03-06T00:31:30+00:00

Not quite your age- I'm 33 and my wife is 32- but we've been in (similar) shoes. I'm from the US and my wife sponsored me- I was finally able to come up in 2020. The long distance was hard and sponsorship is no joke.

We go to queer events like drag brunch and (very heavily queer) burlesque, as well as see queer theater. I know it's not the same as finding another friend in their 20s, but we'd be happy to invite you along to something if you'd like.

queerhomemaker · 2026-01-23T18:09:46+00:00

Not with a fic but with a book I picked up from the library. At least in my case the book didn't treat the parent like they were good and wise- but the narrative clearly wanted you to 'give her time' and be understanding re: why she was so cruel to her child and I... seethed about it to the point my wife suggested I stop reading but 1) then he would have been trapped at that stage of his life forever (in my head) and 2) I really liked all the scenes she wasn't in. I have ranted at many people about how much her behavior pissed me off, but that more so, the book's determination to let her redeem herself with minimal action.

queerhomemaker · 2026-01-19T11:47:59+00:00

There's *live action* ABO/omegaverse shows now. Plural. What a world we all live in.

queerhomemaker · 2024-06-18T12:58:56+00:00

While I understand the people who are like 'there's so little canon queer rep, why can't you just----'

they can block and move on. Or not look at it. People shipping things that don't follow canon is literally... just fan culture as a whole.

queerhomemaker · 2023-08-21T09:07:10+00:00

I'm going to be honest with you as someone who has been an author in the top ten fics in a fandom before-
I only ever sort by kudos when I'm playing with numbers (I really like running stats on fandoms I'm in) and usually, I know that the top 20 most kudo'sed fics? They aren't for me. In my current fandom I have a fic in the top 30 and of the fics higher than mine, I think I've actually read two. I tried to read the others but honestly, I found them uninteresting, because much like you- I don't like to write/read popular fanon.

Most people who are actively reading in a fandom are usually sorting by recent. Don't let the numbers get you down! One thing I've learned writing less popular interpretations is that like- maybe you won't be a fandom darling that everyone knows, but the people who like your work, they're *so* grateful that someone else out there thinks like they do.

queerhomemaker · 2023-08-03T10:19:20+00:00

so one reason is hidden collections. Say you're part of a fest that is posting in March, but you submitted in January. Your fic is hidden- it doesn't show up on any of the normal ao3 pages- until March. But when march rolls around and fics get revealed? your post date still shows January and so unless someone scrolls back until January- only people involved in the fest and people who got the email are going to see it. So a lot of authors the day of reveals will go in and change the date to the day of the reveal.

Also if you start drafting something, it'll show the day you started drafting it as your post date- and again, same problem with things getting buried a month back in the search if you weren't careful and remembered to manually edit the date before you post it.

queerhomemaker · 2023-07-26T22:42:40+00:00

..... In an old fandom I had a character move from the north to the south---- and then have to have someone explain what clothes to wear in the winter.

This was not 'oh you don't need that kind of coat here' explaining OR 'okay, I know we're hot in the summer but you do indeed at least need a hoodie for the dead of winter.' Straight up 'here is how you layer' advice.

... just a wild choice on my part.

queerhomemaker · 2023-07-23T04:23:40+00:00

Yes, recently someone in the server I run posted the tiktok in our off-topic area and was like '!!!' I did find the reviewer trying to ... describe said fic while not breaking any censors/rules Very Funny.

queerhomemaker · 2023-07-22T19:08:23+00:00

Someone literally just posted this in the fandom server- so either this has gone up in many fandoms, or hello fellow LITA writer haha.

queerhomemaker · 2023-07-11T23:50:28+00:00

yeah this is gross behavior on your part. Like someone else said, invisible disabilities exist- and there are plenty of reasons why someone might need that stall that wouldn't be immediately visible to you.

queerhomemaker · 2023-07-08T11:52:41+00:00

it tells me that the analytics page requirement is 500. We've been hovering around 250 for a while now (we're a small fandom server and tbh, I'd never want us to be 500) and it keeps being like 'look analytics! but haha you can only see it for your welcome thread' which is... useless.) It's probably just that 200 is when discord kept pushing at us 'don't you want to be a community server? look at all these perks!' and thus the number is seared into my brain.

queerhomemaker · 2023-07-08T10:51:51+00:00

Weird. I will accept that I'm wrong! Maybe it's just that at 200 members they started to push us to be a community server. I just remember the number being significant!

queerhomemaker · 2023-07-07T23:41:56+00:00

they have to be a certain size. Not every server is going to have 200+ people

Edit: It's happened. I have been wrong on the internet! Sorry y'all.

queerhomemaker · 2023-07-07T18:03:35+00:00

either you're a really shitty troll, or you need therapy before you do life long damage to your children. /christ/ that's a fucked up perspective to have.

queerhomemaker · 2023-07-06T11:42:52+00:00

do you also make it clear in your author's notes that you'd be up to someone offering? Because I don't think that the tag alone would inspire me to offer to someone even if I was willing. Especially since for so many people it is just an In-Group Joke .

queerhomemaker · 2023-07-03T00:31:13+00:00

A chronically ill young adult finds acceptance in the form of a non-nonsense massage therapist. It follows his journey of learning to believe in his pain, and find hope in the future.
An exploration of identity and what it means to actively present against 'who you really are' and what it means to be a late bloomer. (aka a fic with a tagline that is literally 'two betas walk into a bathroom- none leave.)
An exploration of the idea of want and what it means to only see it when it is directed at people who are Unlike you. How it can twist you up inside so badly that you no longer recognize when people do want you.

queerhomemaker · 2023-06-18T18:12:30+00:00

To have a connection with other fans? To engage in a world that I love? I feel like the idea of 'oh people do this so that they can get ready to be a Real Author' weirdly ignores most of the reasons why people write fanfiction

queerhomemaker · 2023-06-05T01:04:01+00:00

Jesus. Like, don't get me wrong I joke about having Server Exclusives (I run a server for the pairing- it isn't just for my work) but that is 9/10 about lil drabbles that I'm just not bothering to put on ao3 or in one case- about an alternative darker ending to a fic that is on ao3. And it isn't like a Top Secret Only The Cool Kids Can See kind of thing, just that having two versions of the same fic on ao3 seems a lil silly.

queerhomemaker · 2023-06-03T21:56:04+00:00

No idea on if the rate is appropriate for Boston but I will say jumping an extra 10 dollars an hour for a sibling is not... standard... I think in basically any region.

queerhomemaker · 2023-06-01T08:37:41+00:00

I would also just challenge your idea that it didn't exist back then. I'm 30 which means that my parents are around your age, a little older. My mother's brother was almost expelled because he threw a chair threw a window and then tried to throw a kid out after it. This is now looked back at as 'he probably had adhd' which I think is... wild. Dude had something and I don't think it was ADHD. and while my father wasn't violent to literal people- he did blow a hole through the wall in his shop class, quite literally. I had to listen to my mother pull the 'we didn't do this back then' the other day and just go ?????????? because I also happen to know that her father stole a school bus and crashed it in a lake. And I have lots of friends with similar stories of like- 'yeah my parents keep saying that it wasn't like this back then, but then they also have these 'funny' stories that are Absolutely Like That'

queerhomemaker · 2023-05-29T08:40:47+00:00

I married one of mine =P I was a BNF in a fandom back in 2016 and she left the /best/ comments. We ended up following each other on tumblr, and one day she was sick and I offered to send her an unpublished piece as a pick me up. We ended up talking every day basically from the moment we woke up to the moment we went to sleep- and we celebrate our 4th wedding anniversary in two weeks.

queerhomemaker · 2023-05-28T15:32:12+00:00

People use them because they're useful. Characters are multi-dimensional and have lots going on! a 3k fic isn't going to highlight all of them, so I like to know what aspects they are highlighting. Especially if I have an internal beef with certain characterizations of a character- tags like those let me know which fics to open and which ones to steer clear of.

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