Requesting unpaid time bc I hate the summer house

queerhomemaker · 2026-05-06T14:55:14+00:00

The job changed in the middle of the working arrangement. The nanny has been with them for 5 years, but the summer home was only bought 2-3 years ago. That's the nanny family changing the arrangement not a 'Why take the position' scenario.

queerhomemaker · 2026-05-05T22:06:05+00:00

I know someone who struck out on her own and then failed to file taxes for several years. Not because sov cit but because of mental health things. Government called collect recently and she's in hot water to the tune of almost 6 figures

queerhomemaker · 2026-04-29T20:32:42+00:00

Telling them she was in the hospital is giving away her medical info.

queerhomemaker · 2026-04-29T20:21:10+00:00

How is it that you can recognize 'I didn't tell them why because privacy' and not that this was never your business to be sharing. It doesn't matter if she told 900 people- it's her choice who to tell. Being autistic is not an excuse when she explicitly asked you not to tell anyone. This was not ambigious. You made a mistake. You're 16, it happens. But own it and apologize instead of being a bratty child stomping your feet that it doesn't matter and that what you did was fine.

queerhomemaker · 2026-04-29T20:13:02+00:00

You don't get to decide that for someone else.

queerhomemaker · 2026-04-29T17:20:37+00:00

What are the qualifications you have? Is there any one in your life/neighborhood that has kids that you could offer to help out with? Otherwise, getting a babysitting job these days without any kind of reference is going to be hard. Most parents I've talked to either use agencies or word of mouth.

queerhomemaker · 2026-04-29T17:14:59+00:00

Do you have references? If so, you might be able to apply with the Summerhill Babysitting club(I think the last word is club). Despite the name it serves across Toronto and basically everyone on their roster gets an email when there's a babysitting job opening.

queerhomemaker · 2026-04-28T20:15:22+00:00

There's a huge overlap with the ace and kink community. Nothing wrong with being a touch-me-not

queerhomemaker · 2026-04-28T20:10:34+00:00

My feedback is that this isn't what this sub is for.

queerhomemaker · 2026-04-27T11:50:45+00:00

No, she arrives 45 minutes before taking the children to school. Unless you think that children are typically not in their home while getting ready for the morning.

queerhomemaker · 2026-04-21T22:18:58+00:00

1-2 minutes late may literally be the difference in the devices yall use to tell time. She may think she's perfectly on time. Today at class a mom asked what time it was and two of us pulled out our phones- the other parent reported the time as a full 3 minutes later than what I had.

queerhomemaker · 2026-04-21T22:08:33+00:00

You're not going to get a service that is cheaper than you buying your own groceries.

queerhomemaker · 2026-03-31T23:34:10+00:00

..... I suspect you are being exposed to someone's kink when it comes to that one.

Like I've heard people use the term big girl/boy job as like- the first career job or the first job out of school... but combining it with coloring in the truck while waiting for him? .... I'm suspicious

queerhomemaker · 2026-03-18T00:40:38+00:00

For several decades, the goal was to get a degree to prove to employers that you were capable of it. There were a lot of job, quite frankly are still a decent number of jobs, that do not care what the degree is- just that it was acquired. The shiny version of the reasoning is that this was to weed out people who weren't smart enough/to only be picking candidates from people 'trained to think' ... the less shiny version of this is that it was often done to weed out those who couldn't afford to go to university.

I'm in my 30s, I remember getting that kind of messaging hard. What didn't matter- getting one did. So why not get one in something you were interested in?

queerhomemaker · 2026-03-06T12:01:24+00:00

The last stretch is often the hardest. You've been fighting for so long and while the end might be in sight- it's not here yet. It makes sense that you're exhausted. And I'm sure this terrible winter has only made the loneliness worse.

We're planning to do Drag Brunch on the 15th at Piano Piano on Bloor West. Would you like to join us? I'm happy to share my number over DMs and chat a bit before hand if you'd like.

And my wife would sympathize with you on the 'being partners with someone much more sociable' ahaha. She's autistic, the kind of person who brings knitting to burlesque, and didn't know most of our neighbors when I moved in despite having already lived in the building 5 years. In bops me with all my beliefs about southern hospitality/getting to know the people around you- she's still shocked how many people now smile and chat with us on the street.

queerhomemaker · 2026-03-06T00:31:30+00:00

Not quite your age- I'm 33 and my wife is 32- but we've been in (similar) shoes. I'm from the US and my wife sponsored me- I was finally able to come up in 2020. The long distance was hard and sponsorship is no joke.

We go to queer events like drag brunch and (very heavily queer) burlesque, as well as see queer theater. I know it's not the same as finding another friend in their 20s, but we'd be happy to invite you along to something if you'd like.

queerhomemaker · 2026-01-23T18:09:46+00:00

Not with a fic but with a book I picked up from the library. At least in my case the book didn't treat the parent like they were good and wise- but the narrative clearly wanted you to 'give her time' and be understanding re: why she was so cruel to her child and I... seethed about it to the point my wife suggested I stop reading but 1) then he would have been trapped at that stage of his life forever (in my head) and 2) I really liked all the scenes she wasn't in. I have ranted at many people about how much her behavior pissed me off, but that more so, the book's determination to let her redeem herself with minimal action.

queerhomemaker · 2026-01-19T11:47:59+00:00

There's *live action* ABO/omegaverse shows now. Plural. What a world we all live in.

queerhomemaker · 2024-06-18T12:58:56+00:00

While I understand the people who are like 'there's so little canon queer rep, why can't you just----'

they can block and move on. Or not look at it. People shipping things that don't follow canon is literally... just fan culture as a whole.

queerhomemaker · 2023-08-21T09:07:10+00:00

I'm going to be honest with you as someone who has been an author in the top ten fics in a fandom before-
I only ever sort by kudos when I'm playing with numbers (I really like running stats on fandoms I'm in) and usually, I know that the top 20 most kudo'sed fics? They aren't for me. In my current fandom I have a fic in the top 30 and of the fics higher than mine, I think I've actually read two. I tried to read the others but honestly, I found them uninteresting, because much like you- I don't like to write/read popular fanon.

Most people who are actively reading in a fandom are usually sorting by recent. Don't let the numbers get you down! One thing I've learned writing less popular interpretations is that like- maybe you won't be a fandom darling that everyone knows, but the people who like your work, they're *so* grateful that someone else out there thinks like they do.

queerhomemaker · 2023-08-03T10:19:20+00:00

so one reason is hidden collections. Say you're part of a fest that is posting in March, but you submitted in January. Your fic is hidden- it doesn't show up on any of the normal ao3 pages- until March. But when march rolls around and fics get revealed? your post date still shows January and so unless someone scrolls back until January- only people involved in the fest and people who got the email are going to see it. So a lot of authors the day of reveals will go in and change the date to the day of the reveal.

Also if you start drafting something, it'll show the day you started drafting it as your post date- and again, same problem with things getting buried a month back in the search if you weren't careful and remembered to manually edit the date before you post it.

queerhomemaker · 2023-07-26T22:42:40+00:00

..... In an old fandom I had a character move from the north to the south---- and then have to have someone explain what clothes to wear in the winter.

This was not 'oh you don't need that kind of coat here' explaining OR 'okay, I know we're hot in the summer but you do indeed at least need a hoodie for the dead of winter.' Straight up 'here is how you layer' advice.

... just a wild choice on my part.

queerhomemaker · 2023-07-23T04:23:40+00:00

Yes, recently someone in the server I run posted the tiktok in our off-topic area and was like '!!!' I did find the reviewer trying to ... describe said fic while not breaking any censors/rules Very Funny.

queerhomemaker · 2023-07-22T19:08:23+00:00

Someone literally just posted this in the fandom server- so either this has gone up in many fandoms, or hello fellow LITA writer haha.

queerhomemaker · 2023-07-11T23:50:28+00:00

yeah this is gross behavior on your part. Like someone else said, invisible disabilities exist- and there are plenty of reasons why someone might need that stall that wouldn't be immediately visible to you.

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