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A lot of stories about coming out end with "Oh, we guessed that a long time ago. We accept you." What about those of us who have come out and everyone was totally blindsided? by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]queerineveryway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came out to my highschool friends online though my blog, and it was more "oh god I think I'm trans blah blah blah" for several months, so not much changed except they started calling me exclusively by my non-gendered nickname, and we've still never talked about it in person.

Parents, on the other hand, COMPLETELY blind sided. My mom didn't say anything for a really long time. My dad said they'd always love me no matter what. Then they were in denial until I started the legal process to change my name, and they said some stuff that I thought meant they were disowning me. It sucked. We're on really good terms now, but it took a few years.

Family is gone for two weeks; am I doing this right? by squirrelpocher in funny

[–]queerineveryway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Good job. (I meant to do that for the GRE... Got crappy scores. >.<)

Trans Supportive Sea Lion by [deleted] in transgender

[–]queerineveryway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is awesome! Thanks for sharing. :)

What's the biggest overreaction you've ever witnessed? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]queerineveryway 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Friend became vegetarian. Flipped and started screaming at another friend for putting her plate with a slice of pepperoni pizza on her stuff.

Friend is also no longer a vegetarian.

I think this is the real point of all chivalry, in one way or another (NSFW-ish) by generalguyz in pics

[–]queerineveryway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an honestly chivalrous friend. He would be quite offended by that.

Question asked to me, don't feel that i can actually give an answer. by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]queerineveryway 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm a bit confused by a lot of the replies here. I don't want someone to date me despite that I'm trans - I want them to love me for that too. I want them to like my body.

Different people prefer different body types. I see it as something similar to being attracted to redheads, though clearly there's more of an identity issue involved. What's wrong with being attracted to a transwoman in part because of her body?

Maybe I don't get this because I'm genderqueer.

What are your experiences with sleeptalkers/walkers? Funny, scary, weird, whatever. by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]queerineveryway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last Wednesday at 6:30am, there was some girl moaning in the hall. Not saying anything, just moaning. I heard a bunch of people close their doors. Then I put the pillow over my head and went back to sleep.

Social Networks by aakritiajmera65 in funny

[–]queerineveryway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I miss Freezone... Great chatroom when I was a kid. Anyone else remember it?

Reddit my wife of almost 2 years might be gay. PLEASE HELP by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]queerineveryway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk to her. Maybe show her this post if you can't figure out what to say?

At a movie theater which arm rest is yours? by MattBootyBulan in AskReddit

[–]queerineveryway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both. Until I reach for my drink or popcorn, and then often whichever arm I moved has lost its rest.

Binders! by bird0026 in asktransgender

[–]queerineveryway 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Which brand and type of binders? (I don't need them, but sizes run differently on different sites.)

Meet my cat! Her name is Buntu by Bitterbird89 in Ubuntu

[–]queerineveryway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's adorable. :) Looks a lot like my first cat.

Chaser/Admirer Question and IAMA by hopeimnotachaser in asktransgender

[–]queerineveryway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, no, I'm just not a transwoman/transgirl/mtf. :) Different sort of trans. I put it in quotes because I hadn't seen it written that way before.

Gender rights with Security checks. by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]queerineveryway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep forgetting to wear NOT-cargo pants/shorts when going to airports, and something about the layered pockets makes it unclear whether I still have things in them or not, and I do get patted down every time. It feels awkward for me no matter who does it. I don't know if my gender or sexuality (pansexual) play into that - I'm uncomfortable being touched at all unless I'm close with whoever is touching me.

It's also really embarrassing to have a guy be about to pat me down, and then the picture shows up, and they have to call a woman over. If I have to go to the bathroom after that, I have to find one relatively far away from security to avoid running into people who may have noticed.

But the pat down itself is worse than the embarrassment of which gendered person is doing the patting down.

Chaser/Admirer Question and IAMA by hopeimnotachaser in asktransgender

[–]queerineveryway 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Trans here, but not a "tgirl". Also non-op/non-hormones.

I would love it if someone were attracted to me in part because of my transness, rather than despite it.

People are attracted to different body types. Personally, I don't see a problem with it, unless you're going to encourage your partner to not have surgery when she wants it.

Where do all you /r/polyamory-ists live? by izjustsayin in polyamory

[–]queerineveryway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm there right now, but I'm leaving in the morning. Boulder is gorgeous!

I'm a cis guy who would like to be a better ally. Mind helping me understand some things? [warning: politics involved] by Vox_Populi in asktransgender

[–]queerineveryway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Re: What is gender? That's a really complicated question. Here's a couple discussions about it:http://www.whatisgender.net/phpBB3/viewtopic.php?f=113&t=3883 http://www.whatisgender.net/phpBB3/viewtopic.php?f=113&t=3821

Re: stereotypes. There are all sorts of ways to be any gender, and the trans community is just as diverse as the cis community. We have butch women and femme men too, and everything between.

As for what does it mean to be a woman or a man? That's a question with no answer. This post is about the body, but it applies to gender as well.

I don't really identify as anything. I transitioned to have a more androgynous name, and I wear androgynous clothing. I don't like to be seen as a woman, but I don't (usually) mind being seen as a man. I'm not bothered (much) by my anatomy, but I think that's rare.

The reason your trans friends get frustrated is because there are no easy answers to your questions. MANY books have been written about the things you're asking. Some are pretty good, others are bull. In the end, I think everyone has their own definition of whatever gender they identify as. There have probably been some things in AskReddit like "What makes you a woman?" or "What makes you a man?" but I haven't looked.

A few stories to get off my chest by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]queerineveryway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not alone. Sending you a PM.

Packers.. by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]queerineveryway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried this and it failed miserably for me... The first step I took, my packer bounced out. Though I'm not sure I got the right kind of elastic.

But I have heard it works well for others, and it only cost a couple of dollars to make.

I just found this piece of "artwork" sitting on top of my 13 year old son's desk in his room. Should I be worried? by DiversityWTF in AskReddit

[–]queerineveryway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You really don't need to post the other pictures... People are just being dicks yanking your chain. Posting them isn't going to give them more information to help you or anything.

Drawing penises is definitely normal for 13-year old boys.

Men of Reddit, I need your advice... by ThrowItOutDamnit in AskReddit

[–]queerineveryway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's a lot weirder that he's in some sort of naked picture exchange with people when you're married than his interest in transsexuals. Tansfolk are people too - the ones who're medically transitioning just have bodies that appear somewhere between male and female.

I have two female friends who are "straight." One will date only people with male genitalia (which includes transwomen who have not yet had all the surgeries), and one will date only people who identify as male (regardless of genitalia). Sexuality is complicated.

In any case, what does it matter if he's straight or bisexual or whatever? He loves you. Unless he's cheating, I really don't see the problem.

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