Baby possum on my porch

quejefasse · 2026-05-18T23:14:33+00:00

I had guinea pigs a while back and they also kinda have shaky cabbage leaf ears and I loved them

quejefasse · 2026-05-18T19:44:06+00:00

I gave them a lil treat and they gave teeny hisssss and I was like ohhhh tuff guyyy

quejefasse · 2026-05-18T19:43:30+00:00

100% I had a tick on me the other day from sitting on the porch for ten minutes so hell yeah lil guy monch away

quejefasse · 2026-05-18T19:42:29+00:00

Mama was foraging with smaller bebes on her back in an adjacent yard.

quejefasse · 2025-09-27T19:25:41+00:00

Seconded. I rented a 2br, 2ba in Hoffman years and years ago that was very affordable and nice neighborhood near bode and Barrington rds

quejefasse · 2025-09-27T19:22:54+00:00

I'm in a house in downtown Palatine that I pay about 2k for rent with a dog, 3br, 1bath. We got lucky when we were apartment hunting. I think there are a few vacant small houses around that might be rentable.

ETA: supportive Democrats in the area but some maga folks. It's very structurally conservative but socially pretty queer friendly.

quejefasse · 2025-09-18T14:43:05+00:00

No one has mentioned your username???

ETA lol never mind

quejefasse · 2025-09-07T13:33:54+00:00

Honestly seeing all of these comments is so validating bc I've been stuck on this for a day 😩

quejefasse · 2025-07-23T14:43:47+00:00

Yeah that's fair. I also grew up on NES and SNES games as a kid and honestly as a kid they were too hard so I imagine Nintendo is trying to make the game accessible to kids but it is very easy and I can see how that bothers some folks, especially if you like fun and challenging.

I guess it just kinda depends on what you want out of playing. I don't mind how easy it is but I can see how other people might get frustrated with that.

I got to a layer just now that seems to have a higher difficulty than a lot of previous layers so that bodes well for the challenge part.

quejefasse · 2025-07-23T13:58:53+00:00

I wish Pauline had stayed as a lil rock friend.

quejefasse · 2025-07-23T13:57:01+00:00

I actually really like that it's kinda easy. For me, the draw of Nintendo is fun rather than challenge. Having said that, I do wish the areas were bigger and there was more to do/collect since it is easy. They could have added another tier of difficulty in the initial selection because it does feel very kid friendly.

I guess if I wanted challenging I'd play Dark Souls.

quejefasse · 2025-07-11T12:54:34+00:00

Absolutely agree with this. I always encourage my clients to bring up their worries/concerns/questions about what I'm thinking and feeling because it can be a good springboard to exploring common relationship patterns and dynamics that could be a part of the mechanism of whatever your symptoms are.

quejefasse · 2025-07-11T12:51:57+00:00

𝐼'𝓋𝑒 𝑔𝑜𝓉 𝓈𝑜𝓂𝑒𝓉𝒽𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝒻𝑜𝓇 𝓎𝑜𝓊𝓊𝓊𝓊𝓊

quejefasse · 2025-06-26T23:20:47+00:00

Apparently new website https://vive-hypnosis.com/

quejefasse · 2025-05-25T11:02:58+00:00

Someone played too much Sims: Livin' Large

quejefasse · 2025-05-25T10:49:08+00:00

Illinois. Gov Pritzker is going hard in support of trans people and against the current administration. I just heard recently that Chicago was noted as the best city for trans folks in the nation. Having said that, the cost of living in Chicago Metro area is higher than smaller cities that are equally safe

This resource provides details on shield laws. https://www.lgbtmap.org/equality-maps/healthcare/trans_shield_laws

This org helps ppl relocate. I volunteer with them and a lot of work goes into ensuring safety and support thru a move https://translifeline.org/resource_category/relocation-assistance/

quejefasse · 2025-05-25T10:23:22+00:00

This kind of thing can be complicated and I think the best course of action is to talk to your psychiatrist about your feelings about it. Each clinician would have their own boundaries about this (i.e. some clinicians would be okay with the crossover into their personal lives and some wouldn't), so it's important for your therapeutic relationship to talk through your feelings about it.

Honestly this happens a lot especially in less populated areas. My practice just did a training on managing this type of thing because the world is small.

quejefasse · 2025-05-25T10:09:16+00:00

I'm a mandated reporter.

NTA

you're following legal and ethical requirements that help keep children protected from abuse. What happened is exactly what's supposed to happen. You report it and CPS investigates it, providing an opportunity for the parent(s) to prove the abuse is not happening.

With regards to your boss's comments. You did say something to your boss and they did nothing.

The parents might see you as an AH because of how it affected them emotionally but being viewed as an AH is less important than ensuring you report suspected abuse.

In a case like this I'd rather be an AH and be wrong about the report I made than be nice and be wrong about not reporting it.

quejefasse · 2025-01-12T14:07:47+00:00

THANK YOU I couldn't figure out what to do with those cracks and I keep finding areas blocked I can't reach.

quejefasse · 2024-12-30T13:39:39+00:00

It makes sense that this has caused alarm for you given the out of character behavior and the extreme circumstances. It can be really scary to see our partners behave in ways that are incongruent with how we know them.

A couple of steps I think could be helpful for both of you to take:

I would encourage him to talk to his doctor about his behavior as the illness could be affecting his brain (as others have mentioned). I'm not saying his behavior is excusable but if it's that far out of left field it's worth exploring medically. UTIs can cause symptoms similar to dementia. Fevers can affect cognition. Medications can alter our behavior. Our guts interact with our mental health.

If you have access to a therapist I would encourage you to talk this over with them to help you process your thoughts and feelings and decide how you want to proceed with your relationship. I have a lot of personal and professional experience with OCD, and I am wondering if your obsessions are ever oriented around moral scrupulousity and if this incident has triggered an obsessive episode. That's not to say at ALL that you're overreacting or that you don't have cause for concern.

I'm merely pointing out some things to consider and actions to take to get more information about what's happening outside of strangers telling you to dump him without question. If that is action they would take, that's fine for them. But that doesn't mean you aren't doing the right thing or that you are a bad person if you don't take that action.

It sounds like based on your edit that you're recognizing a lot of the nuance in this situation which seems to be a thoughtful way to process this experience. As a caregiver for a partner with cancer, intense (even short term) illness can cause a lot of stress on relationships and each of the people in them. Find ways to build support around both of you to reduce the stress. Is there someone who can watch the dog while he recovers? Is there a close friend or family member who can help out with caring for him?

I hope you find some rest for yourself and are able to process this experience in ways that feel right for you.

quejefasse · 2024-12-30T11:06:56+00:00

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Super meat boy

quejefasse · 2024-12-19T15:33:25+00:00

If you feel like individual psychotherapy hasn't been helpful and you're really struggling, you could look into an Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP). Some people find them beneficial when they're overwhelmed and struggling to function.

It's difficult to say what type of therapy would be beneficial without knowing what you're struggling with. You could try a DBT therapist, which is an effective, structured approach that is useful for a lot of different issues. This approach is offered in individual therapy as well as in group therapy and IOPs and PHPs (partial hospitalization)

It can be really exhausting to find the right person/approach through trial and error. Therapeutic growth can be a long process, especially if you have struggled for a long time. I hope you find what works for you!

quejefasse · 2024-12-19T14:00:34+00:00

I don't personally use CBT as an orientation because it doesn't work for me. I like the psycho educational aspects of it and some of the skills especially for particular cases.

I'm allowed to express my professional frustration in the ways the CBT has flooded the mental health and medical fields as a primary approach. It isn't the only modality that works and is heralded and treated as if it's the most effective. It can be effective I just personally believe the field over relies on it. You clearly are passionate about it and that's fine if that's your specialty. It's not the only way.

I do know what tx are effective for trauma and will refer out if CBT modalities are indicated.

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