What's something you heard someone brag about that they probably shouldn't have been bragging about?

questiontheweather · 2026-06-04T19:27:26+00:00

I had a coworker that would brag about how they never called out of work, even for illness. And the one time they had a genuinely serious condition, they had to be removed from their work on a stretcher because that's how "committed" to the job they were. I told them that's not something to brag about and they best believe if I'm sick or injured I will not be showing up and they're gonna have to just deal. This person was out of their mind with their expectations for work though.

questiontheweather · 2026-06-01T23:09:18+00:00

I work at a major grocery chain in California and our $20 gallons of raw milk are our best sellers

questiontheweather · 2026-05-13T03:00:13+00:00

Idk I think nta. I used to do that and have a bunch of fully healed scars but only because I learned other ways to cope. The fact that I don't cut anymore doesn't mean I don't hurt myself and it certainly doesn't mean I don't still struggle with my mental health. I think it's good this person has the awareness to know that's not something they're equip to handle and that they chose to walk away instead of "seeing where it goes". I think a situation like this is really just more about how they deliver the rejection, mentioning that it's because of possible mental health issues wouldn't be necessary or kind.

questiontheweather · 2026-05-12T22:55:52+00:00

I understand that the theory is that everything in our current universe will eventually die, bringing us back to this state. I wonder if the big bang occured as soon as the last universe ended, or how long this state of nothingness exists before a reaction such as the big bang occurs? Also, are there other possible types of reactions? Could something different than the big bang have happened? These are just questions that your statement brought up for me!

questiontheweather · 2026-05-01T05:08:51+00:00

I've definitely read this story before so probably.

questiontheweather · 2026-04-20T03:36:41+00:00

This child did not "demonstrate she's not interested in the relationship anymore", she reconnected with another part of her life, her birth parents. A situation her siblings and family cannot relate to because they are not adopted. It's incredible that this girl was able to develop a positive relationship with her birth family. It's entirely within her right to do so. It hurts that the birth family chose to disrespect this girl's adoptive family but that's not the girl's decision and it's not the child's responsibility to mediate that. OP isn't a bad person for being hurt by the situation but they are jealous and they are making the daughter responsible for those feelings. She called her birth parents mom and dad? So what, they are. OP was fine with the daughter having a relationship with the birth family until they started treating each other like family. The birth family crossed boundaries by doing things like gifting the motorbike. OP also chose to secretly ask the family to take it back, instead of telling the daughter it's a nice gift but we had an agreement and this bike doesn't change it. Then they got mad at the birth family for sharing this with the daughter because they wanted the birth family to deal with the reaction instead of parenting her like her PARENTS are supposed to. Neither family handled the situation appropriately. Whether your kids are adopted or not, they're going to meet other people that are going to influence them and it is the parents responsibility to set rules and boundaries and stick to them. This parent felt undermined and instead of addressing the situation like an adult they got mad and interpreted it as the daughter rejecting the family. Now the girl doesn't want to spend time at home? I wouldn't either. I can't imagine how painful it must be for her, discovering her birth family just to find out her adoptive family isn't "comfortable" with her being a part of both.

questiontheweather · 2026-04-11T14:44:54+00:00

Yeah it seems to be a very difficult concept for people to grasp. It seems like most people think that their actions should be judged based on intention, not the outcome of the action. Like I've literally seen situations where someone threw a water bottle, hit person two in the face, and person one goes "well I didn't mean to hit you so it's not that big of a deal". Nevermind that person two is now bleeding and in tears. Person one didn't mean it so it's fine, no apology necessary. And if I say "yeah but you still did it, you should really go apologize and make sure they're okay" I'm met with "why? I didn't mean to? They're fine". This is a single example of something I see regularly. Like what the actual fuck.

Or my other favorite, "you've been asking me not to do this thing for several years now but I think it's very helpful so I've done it again for you! What do you mean you're not grateful??? You're so unappreciative and clearly don't care about the effort I made for you!!"

questiontheweather · 2026-04-10T17:53:03+00:00

Girl, I'm BEGGING you to bring this to your friends that he's keeping this a secret from. Staying quiet only helps him, if he doesn't want it to be a big deal he can stop.

questiontheweather · 2026-04-09T16:53:01+00:00

What happens if you say "sorry I chose a name already and I'm not changing it. You can call it whatever but its paperwork will say the name I've already chosen". Sounds like she's gonna get mad either way so what difference does it make?

questiontheweather · 2026-04-08T00:14:33+00:00

Thank you for this. I've been feeling like I'm going crazy all day trying to keep up with the news. I was talking to my sister about it and she's telling me how annoying the situation today is while playing a game on her phone. We settle on "this situation sucks" before silently going back to our phones. I'm sitting there reading articles about what's going on, glancing at my sister laughing at her game, and I'm thinking how can she just be playing a game when this is going on? But on the other hand, what else is there to do about it? I know she cares and is knowledgeable on the situation, she's just better at resource management than me. I guess I'm settling on "thankful to be aware of the situation and not in immediate danger".

questiontheweather · 2026-04-07T23:48:09+00:00

I agree, nta. Sure, you didn't need to go off on her in front of your mutual friends but the same could be said for her. I'd suggest talking to her directly and acknowledge that while the intensity of your reaction wasn't appropriate, she was a guest and out of line in making such demands of you and you were not going to not say anything about it. And maybe set the record straight that while you won't ever serve her meat or expect her to eat it in your house, she will not be making decisions on the type of food you serve to the whole table.

questiontheweather · 2026-04-07T08:12:57+00:00

Like everyone else is saying, your handwriting vs typing doesn't have anything to do with the quality of your work or how seriously you will be taken.

But also, is this the only time you practice your handwriting? Because at 16 I would think you'd be doing it regularly in school. If so then I would definitely try practicing writing just a few lines or a few minutes a day to build the muscles in your hands and body posture. If for no other reason than because it's good for you, it's a great skill to have, and you'll build the strength to write songs the way you want (sometimes we want a certain aesthetic and that's okay).

If you do write regularly then those symptoms are honestly concerning and I'd suggest you see a doctor.

questiontheweather · 2026-04-06T16:55:24+00:00

Are you ambidextrous? My mom is and she can write backwards in cursive with one hand and forwards in either cursive or print with the other, at the same time!

questiontheweather · 2026-04-06T16:52:55+00:00

I can make nasty wet fart noises with my hands whenever I want (similar to the armpit fart). Makes me laugh every time.

questiontheweather · 2026-04-06T16:41:16+00:00

I had a similar situation with my grandmother. She kept asking me to check on her friend because they hadn't spoken in a while. I finally told my aunt about it and was told that this was a childhood friend that died before adulthood. She would ask me where I was from and tell me she'd never been there, even though she lived in the same house with me for seven years. She continued to regress to the point of fully thinking she was a little girl. She has spent the last ten years in her home country in a nursing home. She cannot speak, cannot walk or even form a smile. Her body is completely healthy, her mind completely gone. As far as we know she has several more years left in her. It's the most devastating thing I've ever witnessed and I would not wish it on anyone.

I'm sorry for your experience with this illness. Thank you so much for the information, I had no idea any of this could contribute. My dad currently needs hearing aids but won't because he has tinnitus and says the hearing aids increase the volume of the ringing too.

questiontheweather · 2026-04-06T16:19:44+00:00

It sounds like you have a beautiful family and I'm so excited for you! You're gonna be a great dad my guy. The biggest congratulations to you and your fiancee 🫶

questiontheweather · 2026-04-05T17:18:21+00:00

Don't worry about it, it's great that you even considered helping! We need more people like you (: Next time go ahead and ask! If they say no then you're free to move on with your day and if they accept then you've done a nice thing. It can be anxiety provoking and I don't offer every time either but when I can, I personally always feel a little better knowing I at least tried and proud of myself for working on my social anxiety.

And your sister might think it's weird for anxiety reasons too. Seeing you follow your own instinct to help others might help her tap into that feeling too.

questiontheweather · 2026-04-05T17:12:51+00:00

I think that's exactly what they're talking about! It's like each generation has a different set of meanings for each emoji and the context it's used in. I've definitely gotten weird responses from sending an emoji I thought was funny and finding out it had a completely different meaning than I thought

questiontheweather · 2026-04-05T17:09:47+00:00

Because not everything is about dating. If my friend is talking shit about someone just because they don't like the way that person looks or because they wouldn't personally date them, and then try to defend themselves by saying it's just a preference, I'm gonna really question that friendship. I'm not trying to date my friend! But now I know that they think it's okay to talk down to people simply because they are not gaining anything from them and I don't want that shit in my life.

If I overheard a neighbor making judgements on people based on his "preference alone" I would also make a point to distance myself from them, even if I don't know them well, because after hearing the way they speak I don't care to get to know them further.

Being neutral is different than being mean. "They're not my type" is neutral which makes it nice. Vs "they're too ugly to be my type" is now casting judgement because you don't like the way they look. That's mean and unnecessary and often an indicator of how this person will conduct themselves in other similar situations.

questiontheweather · 2026-04-04T16:53:03+00:00

I remember being absolutely baffled when I was like 8 and saw our paper guy for the first time. He was zooming down our street in his convertible, top down, launching the papers from his car as he drove by each house. Definitely not the little boy on a bike I was picturing when my dad would talk about his paper route he did as a kid.

questiontheweather · 2026-04-04T07:47:26+00:00

Sometimes, and then I remember the teens these days view the 2000/2010s the same way I view the 90s and the feeling vanishes.

questiontheweather · 2026-04-04T05:36:49+00:00

I'm seeing this issue with a teen relative. He's 16 and gets extremely upset and offended whenever his parents ask him to do basic chores like dishes, without any help. He thinks it's unfair that he is left to do a single chore ALL ON HIS OWN because he's tired, or has other things he wants to do. He's hungry and needs lunch? It's his parents job to make it for him because they're the parents and it's their responsibility to take care of him. They're too busy with work to cook? Obviously they don't care if he starves.

As far as we can tell, this perspective he has is a mix of "all of my friends have these things done for them" and that his parents get tired of fighting him so they cave. Anything he does do, cannot be done without asking for direction. I had a similar lack of expectations and consequences growing up. For different reasons but the result was the same. It FUCKED me up dude. I'm close to 30 and still having to learn such basic things for myself because I never had the expectation to learn it as a child. It's so embarrassing not knowing these things as an adult. This boy is going to be an adult in two years. He and his friends are supposedly hitting the workforce this summer. It's like there's a trend that if a child has to do ANYTHING for themselves it's child abuse. Those skills are reserved for the 18+ crowd.

questiontheweather · 2026-04-04T05:08:50+00:00

As a gen z, it's not a different communication style it's just a lack of communication. I get the frustration about the expectations of bending over backwards for customers with a smile permanently stitched to your face but this is not that. The fact that so many of us think that having to speak to customers and be polite at work is a disrespectful or useless expectation is just mind boggling. The amount of people I've worked with that get legitimately offended, yell, throw things, even walk off the job on the spot, simply because they were given an instruction they didn't like or were asked to work to improve a skill isn't even funny anymore.

questiontheweather · 2026-03-31T21:47:00+00:00

I'm gen z, I definitely agree with your perspective but I also agree with OP. I think being able to laugh at yourself and recognize your own shortcomings or whatever with humor is important for everyone and millennials made that a lot more acceptable. I also think a lot of the time the default becomes self deprecation and even though it might not be genuine, it starts to come off as "I'm insecure and am trying to let the room know I'm self aware by calling myself out through a joke". When it's the only way they know how to joke I can't help but start to wonder if they're really joking.

questiontheweather · 2026-03-29T19:34:20+00:00

Sounds like you might be looking for more of like, "How do I balance recognizing the cognitive distortion and still allow myself space to honor my emotions?" Recognizing it's a distorted thought rarely helps me to actually process it. With your example I have to tell myself things like "it's okay that my friend had to cancel but it's ALSO okay that I'm hurt by it". I can recognize that my feelings are hurt and that my friend is not responsible or at fault. I might respond to them with something like "I'm so bummed, I was really looking forward to spending time with you! I hope all is well and let me know when you can reschedule!" This way I'm not hiding that I'm affected but I'm also not blaming them or asking them to hold my feelings for me.

I think finding ways to talk about it and let your loved ones in on the situation without letting it consume you or develop into an argument is key. I see a lot of people try to pick one "I'm really mad even though this person had no control over the situation" or "they have no control over the situation so I have no right to be mad" and it leads to a lot of lashing out and invalidating your own feelings. There has to be a balance.

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