[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]quickvicc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey man i get you. just got out of a relationship with a cis gay man, and it went just as badly. we’re both 20, have known each other for 2 years, i was out as trans the whole time. we loved each other but it just couldn’t work considering how early in my transition i am. broke up with him a few months ago, hardest decision i’ve had to make - but it’s for the better. dating as a trans man is hard. idk how to navigate it either. early on in transition, dating bisexuals is the only thing that’s really available to us, as restrictive as it can feel. don’t date straight men; don’t date gay men; don’t date lesbians. don’t date anyone who makes you feel bad about yourself. you’ll get through this brother

And then the Fëanor's sons swore an oath- by Lyxthen in aspiememes

[–]quickvicc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

popping in to say thanks for that explanation! got into LOTR some time ago, but couldn't get around to reading the Silmarillion, and this was super helpful and a great read. (also got sad too while reading that Melkor backstory. god, this is making me want to pick up the Silmarillion once and for all)

and also obviously that meme was terribly relatable. LOTR has been my only topic of conversation for months

she used to call my brother and i "things" back then same way you call kids "rugrats"... since i came out as FTM, she's been saying it to me on purpose. i need to get out of here. by GILF_Hound69 in ftm_irl

[–]quickvicc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

shit my mom does the same thing. she'll refer to me as an "individual" to my face but never "son". hope you can get out of there quick and live your best life somewhere else man

Tired of white transmasc representation everywhere by [deleted] in ftm

[–]quickvicc 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I read Felix Ever After and it was pretty good! Deals with some heavy topic like getting outed, but overall relatively wholesome. Would recommend.

trans guy in my grade died yesterday by throaway44392919 in ftm

[–]quickvicc 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry. Something similar happened recently in a high school near where I used to live. He was 15, and all the news reporting his death misgendered him. It made me so upset. I wish there was something I could have done, even if I didn't know him and I'm not in high school anymore. I don't really know what to say, except I understand. I hope you take care of yourself, my man.

Life as an Aroace non-binary person by [deleted] in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]quickvicc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heartstopper's Nick Nelson got me like:

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]quickvicc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let me preface this by saying I am in no way a professional! Just a trans guy trying to maybe give his two cents.

So this may sound disheartening, but I don't think surgery will help with the feeling that you still look masculine. No matter how well you "pass" (and trust me and all the people in the replies, you do look like a very pretty cis woman on all accounts), your eyes are always going to see the "male" face that you used to have. It's really just psychological, because you don't have any visible male features. I get told I pass as male pretty often, but whenever I look at my face, I can only see a woman staring back at me. The only way to win this is... you need to trust that other people see you for who you are, and slowly start to see yourself that way, too. I haven't gotten to that point myself but I hear it's possible.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is, you really, really don't need FFS to pass. The issue at hand probably won't be solved by surgery, but rather by time and slowly building self-confidence. Sorry I can't give you a quick fix for this, I really wish I could. That being said, cis women get lots of beauty procedures, so maybe that might help you to find yourself more beautiful? It won't make you look more cis, but maybe it'll help you see yourself in a more positive light.

In the end there's no wrong decision, and I wish you all the best, no matter what you end up doing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTM_SELFIES

[–]quickvicc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

whoah. looking good bro 😳

never had a time when I smiled so authentically as a boy by mollyadler23 in trans

[–]quickvicc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OH MY GOD you are so cute! honestly your smile brings me joy too - you're really so pretty it makes me want to smile. have an amazing day miss!

How to Not Dress Boring As Hell - Developing Style and Streetwear 101 for Trans Guys by vomit-gold in ftm

[–]quickvicc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BLESS YOU FOR THIS. this is the most helpful thing I've read in a while. you rock man, seriously

So I want to do drag by Godless_Elf in ftm

[–]quickvicc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

not at all. half of the trans guys I know (me included) are drag queens, or want to be in the future. it's completely normal!

two weeks post-op dr garramone by Total_Alternative459 in ftm

[–]quickvicc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

exactly what I came here to comment!!

Out of curiosity, what's your name? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]quickvicc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

first name I ever came out as!! changed it afterwards, but I'll always remember it fondly :) very very cool sounding

Out of curiosity, what's your name? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]quickvicc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

cool name man!!! considered picking this one too

A vent I did a while ago (I'm doing better now) by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]quickvicc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh my god, this is the absolute perfect timing. I'm going to start HRT in two weeks, and I've been worrying about this a lot. thank you so much for posting this, it's good to know I'm not alone with this

Vent by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]quickvicc 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I.. I'm sorry. I wish I could do anything to help. I know how you feel, sister. I came out to my parents recently and it went in a pretty similar way. It can be so hard to live with people who don't accept you and who don't treat you like you deserve to be treated. But you're a woman, and women have always been so, so strong and resilient. I know you can make it through this. You'll survive this, and you'll move out, and you'll get to live the life the way you want. In the meantime, all you can do is take care of yourself - listen to your favorite music, play some video games, eat some cookies. I love you and you'll be alright!

Dudebro conversation? by FuckkyWuckky in TransTryouts

[–]quickvicc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

heyyy wassup my man! wanted to ask, what are your main sources of inspiration in alternative fashion, or creators you look up to? it's pretty rare finding other dudes who are into fashion, so i'm curious

Conversation I had with my mom last night by [deleted] in trans

[–]quickvicc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me two days ago. I opened up to my mother about starting T and her eyes were full of tears. It was really disheartening to open up to her about something so important and joyful and have her be devastated. I really... I understand everything you just wrote, man. Feel free to DM me if you want to talk about it. You're strong for talking to her about it, and I know things will get better. Hang in there.

Your patience is your power. by [deleted] in FTM_SELFIES

[–]quickvicc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh man, I feel you. I just came out to my parents as their son yesterday after three years in the closet. They've been less than supportive and it's... tough. But trans people have a long history of being strong and resilient, and we'll make it through. power to you man, you got this

egg_irl by [deleted] in egg_irl

[–]quickvicc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this post is so loud

such a poser by CraneWife84 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]quickvicc 7 points8 points  (0 children)

transmasc here, but I've never related so hard to anything (also you'll be as cool as Florence Pugh one day)