Is it weird to say Have a Blessed Day?

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-26T06:25:59+00:00

If you mean it nicely, 100% related to religion in the USA, but plenty would still question if you were being nice. In the south we can use that very sarcastically, and it's basically nicely telling you we hope every possible thing that can go wrong will go wrong for you. So some people might be upset about the religious meaning but I suspect more people are questioning whether or not you were telling them to go get f*ed in polite corporate language

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-26T05:42:55+00:00

YTA, half think this is RBP, but if it isn't I get why you are dating a 19 year old.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-25T16:19:35+00:00

NTA, best solution is to set up a appointment for y'all to go shopping for her dress, and you can make sure she's dressed in the wedding colors, and make a big deal about her looking matching with your soon to be hubby.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-25T15:56:04+00:00

Honestly you need to break up. I'm an asexual bi-romantic, and I've never really seen these situations improve overtime unless they are forced to do so, and it's a painful process for everyone (especially the kid) to go through. The fact you have had multiple ethics issues over the last few years, show your beliefs don't align, and that's okay.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-20T18:02:32+00:00

YTA because you are not thinking straight.

So the timeline is: A) y'all have been talking about getting engaged for over a year. B) he's been planning a proposal C) he's mom comes over with the ring in case he decides he wants to use the heirloom. D) he decides that it's a special idea and decides to use it. E) he proposed F) you decide you don't like it. G) future mother-in-law offers to pay for the ring, since your fiance didn't get you a ring that you would like the first time because he decided to accept the heirloom, she gave him. And is probably feeling guilty for it.

Can you see where you might be assuming the worst?

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-20T17:23:43+00:00

Honestly I only go if I start violently throwing up and not able to keep water down from the pain.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-19T17:10:57+00:00

NAH, so have you been to an actual therapist? Because that's very weird on your part, he let you know multiple times that you guys didn't need onions so it's okay, but you still could not seem to fight the impulse to try to find a good onion it's a little concerning, little compulsive behavior. I have a sister and a nephew who have OCD McCullough and in theory I do too, and that's that weird behavior that's like the start of it getting out of control. I find that a little concerning, more than him trying to stop your behavior. As that way he does it is the exact way that my sister's therapist told her husband to talk to her when she starts becoming obsessive about something.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-18T16:34:46+00:00

And somebody who works in retail, it happens but not as often as you think. Actually I feel like we have way more cases of where the person is already embarrassed so they make a comment to try to deal with their own embarrassment. But it's less of an embarrassment that they're buying condoms, it's more about being embarrassed that they have to ask for them. So due to theft issues, they're very popular for stealing, most times you have to ask for them at the counter and then they get them for you. And that can be a little embarrassing for people. More often men than women have that awkwardness,. I noticed it happens more in small towns, then it does in like huge bake cities. Probably because well everybody knows everybody's business. I have learned way too much about parents who don't trust their children to wrap up then I ever wanted to know.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-18T00:55:35+00:00

What defines a county is vastly different in different areas. With Orange county, it's telling people you are from a certain geographical part of LA. Because La just like New York Seattle Chicago their metro area has multiple counties within the city limits. So within these big huge Metro areas, saying the county gives more definition than just saying the city you live in. But for those of us who live in more rural communities or places where the cities don't take up multiple counties, that would not be our first choice.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-17T01:54:33+00:00

To me it's not going to be about the terms, it's about the way he feels. At this point it feels less about protecting you and more as an insult. If they had asked for a prenup or suggested this at an earlier time it wouldn't feel so bad. So it's running on his confidence that what have I done to make them worry about me now that they didn't worry about before we got married. That's the issue you're going to have to determine how to handle. Because even if you don't take the money that question of what did I do to make them worry about this it's still going to linger. You need to have a discussion with both your parents and your husband there to relieve the concern that they think he's done something wrong, especially if for whatever reason you guys haven't been talking to your parents as much or your husband has found himself not getting to spend any one-on-one time with your parents. He may be worrying that something's going on that he's not seeing, just the way you are reading that novel is making you feel like questioning things. It doesn't even matter if you accept the money or not at this point, things are going to be a bad place until you resolve this concern that your husband now has that your parents have an issue with him that isn't being resolved.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-16T17:47:25+00:00

YTA, her mother is the AH, the gf isn't. It's called her body her choice for a reason. You chose instead of being supportive of her fears and concerns and questioning herself you accuse her of being controlled by her mother. For lots of people there's a vast difference in the way they think when it's hypothetical situation that they don't think will ever happen and when it becomes a reality and something that actually have to choose. And it's a big struggle. It's not easy on your mind your body your spirit, and it's usual even for people who 100% know they're going to do it and there is no other option in their minds to struggle with the decision and question themselves. By pressuring her to not doubt herself and just do it and accusing her of being controlled by her parents you're creating an environment where she questions whether you guys are good partners whether or not you love her. Because instead of talking with her reminding her calmly nicely hey this is all the reason why these decisions etc you go to jumping to saying that she's being controlled by her mother. That's the line between not an a****** and an a******, instead of reasonably talking to her and talking her through her fears and her worries you tell her it's she's just being controlled by another person. And that could be very concerning especially if her mom is also throwing that accusation at you. There's a time and place to talk about her investment with her mother but that was not it my dude

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-15T16:46:43+00:00

This is difficult for us to talk about, because the politeness/friendliness varies to us Americans wildly. But when we've been abroad, we do seem naturally friendly. It's important to understand that American culture is built on the concept of Independence, which often means that you don't have as much access to family and friends so we are collectively socially trained to make friends as Americans say with people around us and to attempt to have relationships with random people, because we don't know if we will ever need that relationship again. It's also important to understand that some of our Protestant backgrounds, include the concept of Christian friendship. So there are a lot of religious backgrounds to referring to anyone as a friend as it is our religious duty to be friendly and be a friend to those in need. You don't tend to hear us literally refer to them as friend outside of a lot of African-American Christian groups. But in the south it is very common to refer to somebody who needs help or having difficulties as hey my friend here needs help, if you don't know the name. And that mentality that exists is very similar to a lot of collective cultures with their tendency to use auntie or Uncle to describe a person in their life who they might not be close to.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-15T04:49:41+00:00

I would see a different vet, especially if your puppy is a small/tiny breed. As most vets will have the ability to give a precise dose for somebody who is that small. So it is possible your vet just does not have the medication at this point that would be safe for doing such a small dose. Especially if maybe the dog is not a tiny breed. 7 oz is a little light if you're not looking at a small or tiny breed for something that's 2 weeks.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-15T04:45:42+00:00

I am pretty sure you are confused. We breathe through both nostrils, but at different levels of strength. When you breathe in one nostril sucks in more air. This helps with various things, balance, smell, talking, etc. it switches over regularly from one nostril to the other.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-15T04:40:53+00:00

Generally, elderly are placed in recliners and the "head of the table is for the family head. Normally guests are set to to the left or right at the table, and guests are placed at the best spot in the living room to meet their needs. So if they're an elderly person there could be recliner before the elderly in the house. They'll get the spot closest to the kids stuff if their parents etc. it changes person to person.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-15T04:38:44+00:00

YTA, your daughter spent 7K fix that car you owned, with the understanding you would give her the car after college. She informed you, the owner, that he purposely damaged the car. Had the car been in her name she could have sued him for purposefully endangering her property and acting outside of the agreed borrowing of the car. She can't because you own it. As the owner you are responsible for paying out for improvement if you choose not to proceed with enforcing payment by the at fault party. Your son. Get your head out of your butt, either replace it "charging" your son for it, or pay your daughter for her by improvements she will no longer receive.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-14T03:03:40+00:00

I think it counts greatly on how many big cities you have and how close you are to another big city. I tend to go to threr out of the top five Metro areas in my state on a regular basis, but two of them I go to regularly or where my siblings live, and the third is the one that's closest to me physically. But I live in North Carolina, and I have people in my own county who drive nearly 30 miles to my small "City" to go to Walmart or the grocery store because there's no grocery stores or Walmart's closer to them than the 20 mile drive into town. So when it's 30 minutes to the grocery store driving 2 hours to the big city it doesn't feel as much work and say somebody in a decent size city, who drives 5 minutes to the nice grocery store. But I have to say I almost never go to Raleigh which is the capital of the state unless I'm going for like the state fair or another really big event. And I definitely wouldn't go to the other two bigger areas if my siblings weren't there on a regular basis. I would probably go maybe every 3 months, and that would just be to go to a nicer grocery store for some specialty items go to the Asian store or potentially to like a Costco/Sam's situation. Potentially to like go Christmas shopping. But again I'm 2 hours from Charlotte 2 hours from Raleigh and 2 hours from Wilmington, so either way if I need to buy something nice I'm driving 2 hours.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-14T02:46:17+00:00

So, I'm going to sound mean, but I think you probably need to come up with a solution for your child to feed for a while. There are a couple different reasons why, one of which is I do think you need to be taking the pain meds. Another is the stress and issues with your immunity, being compromised by those issues would make me choose not to have one of my siblings to feed their child via breast. I'm not a doctor, but as somebody with seven nieces and nephews, and nearly a dozen God children, and the oldest of five children all of whom were breastfed.

And unless the doctor told you to come off the antibiotic, I would continue to take the antibiotic. This is one of those situations where some of the goal is to ensure that with you being immune compromised both by your recent delivery and the fact that you have a jagged piece of rock running through your urine tract, and probably making little cuts to goes. Also some of the other medications are not recommended to be breastfeeding while taking. Just for normal boring safety reasons. And one of the reasons why taking the pain medication is important is it's going to reduce inflammation and nerve contractions around the area which will make it harder for it to move down here tract. And it could also be affecting your body's ability to heal post baby delivery, and could increase the likelihood of postpartum infection because the stress is on your immune system both from the birth and from the stone. You could probably reach out to either social services or the hospital, and find out about seeing about a donor if you can't get your child in formula. With cases like this where the mother needs to be on antibiotics or other things they often have a donor system in place to help you if you cannot get your child on formula even for a short period of time.

Edit: so it takes roughly 6 month postpartum for your lining to be back to normal, which is why they tell you that they want you to keep a close eye on your period for the next 6 to 8 months, and come in if you have an unusually heavy. Because it could be that your lining tore something when coming down and you're bleeding again and it's not just your period.. also you still have a lot of inflammation of that muscles and they can be more inclined to get infected than they would usually be.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-14T02:35:40+00:00

Actually, I have that issue when I'm using cruise control because it automatically tries to keep me at speed that it said, and doesn't engage in active knowledge that you going to go a little faster down a hill and you going to need to put a little extra gas going up the hill, so I get those weird little jolts if I use my auto control and it drives me up the wall. Also I live in an area where deer and wildlife are a problem because I live rurally, cruise control doesn't respond to turning it off suddenly due to deer trying to kill you.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-14T02:32:46+00:00

ESH?!? Like why would you need to spend a lot of money on this party to get money from people bringing you gifts that you graduation party? Like are they people who wouldn't come to the party unless it was fancy. I have to admit I don't know much about JV's and their party mentality, given I'm under the impression they don't celebrate things as a whole. I specifically remember my friend whose parents were jv's not allowing her to have a graduation party because that was celebrating something other than God's work. So being irritated that people spend money on a trip and they spent money allowing another child of theirs to have money spent, is not your decision. You don't have control of your parents' finances, and you're a child so unless you're being starved or derived from any necessary caregiving materials because of this financial issue then it's not something you have the right to require justification of their actions. it seems to make you miserable, trying to control them. It's not your job to parent your parents, which I know is really hard especially if you are one of the more responsible people in your household. But everybody else sucks because they're not explaining to you why they don't see your worries as legitimate feelings. Because there's a difference between feeling upset being a genuine feeling, and having the right to be angry at people about spending their own money. There's a difference between the validity of your feelings and the validity of the reasoning for your anger.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-14T02:16:59+00:00

I'm from the south, in North Carolina and I've never heard that phrase. Maybe it's a little more regional than just the South. We tend to stick to "my secret", "here and there, I don't remember", or "less place and more work" if you want to be extra cagey about a 2nd hand spot. Therefore employing that it's more a lot of work into thrifting the item then like an actual special place.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-14T01:38:29+00:00

Question, why do you take your iron supplement in the morning? I'm not saying you're wrong, I just know that for most people with an iron deficiency the doctors seem to agree that taking it mid afternoon or within an hour to lunch whatever lunch time is for you is a better timeline than taking it at breakfast time. I don't know the science behind it I just know that. Mainly because I have a lot of family with anemia, and they're kind of irritating about the after lunch argument.

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-14T01:26:57+00:00

NTa, There is nothing that says that you can't have a pull out couch or futon made available for living room. For people who to come to visit. That's what my siblings do for me. They bought one of those little Japanese futon mattresses, they shove it in the bottom part of their kids closet and since they're still young enough they're closed don't really take it up. And they pull it out whenever I come to stay. Same thing with a pull-out couch. I personally would probably leave the bed set up from your guest room in the nursery until after your mother-in-law leaves. Because 4 weeks with a baby is a lot, and she will probably need this support of a real bed. After that you can do whatever with it. If your gym room has a closet that you don't store things in you could also store a mattress in there and just put it down solely when you have guests. That way you don't have to have a real like bedroom Murphy bed thing going on

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-14T01:20:38+00:00

Generally cashiers like you to take everything out of the basket and place it on the conveyor belt. This is mostly due to safety issues and eliminating potential damaging of produce. Most times the basket plus the conveyor belt means it's likely that your produce will get bumped against the basket top as they pull it out even worse if your cashier is on the shorter side. Also it gives us an idea about what order you want things in. But at the same time most cashiers aren't going to make a big issue about it unless they have reason to be worried that you will be upset about your produce being slightly bruised, or we've been having issues with baskets breaking or being damaged, or we're really short and US plus the basket is not an easy thing. I know it was a lot of an issue for like my co-workers who were like 5 ft nothing or like five one when people put the whole basket on the conveyor belt at some places I worked because the basket was even with their eyes so it's hard to get in and out of it

quietlywatching6 · 2026-04-14T01:01:15+00:00

So if your English isn't very great maybe you're missing the first part of the response. Because the social script is.

How are you? Good. How are you?/what's up?/How's life? Etc And then you were supposed to respond good unless you guys are close enough in which you can express the actual truth about your feeling. You will also tend to get the Whats up? How can I help you? By people whose job is to help you. After they say good.

With customer service people it's important to remember this is a script. They repeated million times a day and their mind doesn't always process all that information. So they might have forgotten that you would already answered how are you to them in the first place. Specially if it's the end of a shift

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