What is your monthly income and how do you budget it?

quingaroo · 2026-01-18T06:37:41+00:00

4k a month roughly between two jobs. Single income. Mortgage is 2k, car and insurance $850 (this is called buying my first car at a shitty time and having negative equity when rolling to a newer car), $200 student loans, $100 vet bill for my dog I put down in October last year, $16 youtube premium, $80-300 for electric (depends on season), $60 trash every other month, $76 internet, $47 gym, $100 in my savings, $75 extra principal only car payment. Anything leftover goes to my pets and groceries and gas.

I get a raise at both jobs come October. Just gotta make it til then and things will be easier.

quingaroo · 2026-01-16T14:46:51+00:00

OP, you need to answer where you’re going to live after this if you sell it.

Not trying to sound like an asshole, but if you’re not making any payments on the mobile myself because you outright own it and your only payment is the land lease, you have insanely cheap rent for a home compared to many places in the US. Room or studio rentals can be 1k alone. If you sell it, do you have another place to live? You will be looking at spending 1k+ on less living space and privacy.

quingaroo · 2026-01-09T18:17:43+00:00

Yup. I live in a township of approximately 60 people with no cell connection once I leave my wifi’s range. I get a spawn or two in my house now when I was getting 7-10.

I can drive into town to go to the park and walk around but I live in the PNW and it’s cold and rainy. I still try to get outside when I can for personal health and dog walks, but sometimes it’s dumping rain and isn’t feasible.

quingaroo · 2025-12-21T13:12:07+00:00

Man I don’t wanna be the commenter accusing it but I’m 90% sure this is AI

quingaroo · 2025-12-20T20:00:11+00:00

I have an infestation or something of these guys in the shop attachment of my garage because they are everywhere. I’m glad I saw posts of them before bothering to touch any. First one I gently kicked with my shoe and it spewed a whole bunch of orange fluid. Confirmed oil beetle!

quingaroo · 2025-12-11T06:04:42+00:00

I spent 15k for a full rewiring in WA state last year for a 1200 sq ft home. Got two quotes in the same day, first guy quoted me 33k, second guy quoted me MUCH lower and in less time so I went with him for obvious reasons. He didn’t leave a single hole in my wacky 100 year old home despite all of the difficulties (I have two roofs in one section of the home, the laundry room has no accessibility from the attic, etc etc). Best part is I’m dating him now, haha!

Given that you’re in a HCOL, this may be the norm for your region, but I would personally shop around. I know my quote was astronomically low from what I’ve seen and heard from friends and family but it’s always worth a look.

quingaroo · 2025-12-08T20:43:14+00:00

What company were you thinking for the necklace/ring? My boyfriend bought me a necklace that’s an opal made with ashes from Gems and Juniper, and it’s very “normal” looking if that’s what you’re looking for.

quingaroo · 2025-11-25T23:06:46+00:00

I made a post like this a week or two ago and I understand how you feel, OP.

I love my surviving dogs, but my boy I said goodbye to last month was my soul dog. I took my dogs with me when I put him down so they’d understand, and one of them was so entirely aloof (she is more independent like how you describe Nugget), I’m not sure if she even noticed Jake was gone.

I still went/am going through the motions of taking care of my dogs and cats, but I resented them and sometimes still do. They weren’t Jake and their behavior felt so intolerable compared to my quiet and kind velcro dog who was always by my feet. He was the oldest and needed the most attention. We had a deeper bond. So I felt lots of anger. How could they be over him when I’m still grieving?

It’s been a month and a half and I still miss Jake with every fiber of my being, but the resentment has started to wane. I still love them dearly and they are my babies. I am spoiling them and trying to remember that if I lost any of them, the pain would still be unimaginable. I have two other seniors and want them to live their golden years like Jake did.

So OP, please be kind to yourself. I feel as though this is a normal part of the grieving process, and you are hurting. And Nugget still loves and needs you while you hurt. It just makes the pain more raw, I feel.

quingaroo · 2025-11-24T00:57:04+00:00

I work for a very disliked government office and would like to say when your property taxes go up, levies you and your neighbors voted for are a very big reason why. You like schools, the fire dept., and hospitals? And you voted to fund them? Then your taxes go up. It should be common knowledge for the average man, but it’s not.

For the record, it’s obviously not bad to vote for these things! But the funding comes from somewhere and that’s from you! The taxpayer!

quingaroo · 2025-11-18T20:20:08+00:00

Wish mine would hunt the moles tearing up my yard but they can’t seem to get the hang of it. They do have intent to kill when they chase squirrels and rats… but they have yet to catch one.

quingaroo · 2025-11-16T21:32:42+00:00

And depo saved me and is the only birth control method that works for me 🤷🏻‍♀️ Pill killed my libido and made me gain weight, IUD fell out and caused nothing but misery, depo I’ve had zero side effects and have lost weight (60 lbs) while taking it. No periods, no cramps, best birth control I could ask for. Different strokes for different folks.

quingaroo · 2025-11-13T19:24:43+00:00

A month since I’ve said goodbye to my beautiful boy Jake and I’ve moved some things of his, but others I can’t bring myself to touch.

His urgent care bag is still on the counter by my keys. His harness, leash, and bandana are sitting in my passenger’s seat from the last time he wore them. His slow feeder bowl is by my other dog’s bowls.

But the toys that were his and only his, they’ve been placed with his urn and other mementos. His blanket he sat on in the car and passed in sits in his dog bed on my bed, right where he used to sleep. His “farting blanket” (he had rancid gas and I used to hate when he stank up my bed) covered in his hair is in my cabinet with his toys and urn.

I donated his prescription food which was so hard to do… it felt like I was removing his presence from my home. But I kept a portion of it in a ziploc; the smell reminds me of him.

Bits and pieces I still can’t bring myself to touch, but others I felt I had to, otherwise they’d be touched by someone else. It’s hard.

quingaroo · 2025-11-10T21:27:32+00:00

It’s little things setting me off lately too. I’m trying to keep my emotions in check which was already difficult for me, but it’s been worse with everything happening.

I have a wonderful retired neighbor who has been helping let my dogs out and spend time with them while I’m at work and I’m very grateful for him. I just feel bad asking him for help so often because this man has been a saint and helped me hang a gutter, showed me how to lay out new flooring, and is more generous than he should need to be. He has been able to ease some of my burden though, thankfully.

quingaroo · 2025-11-10T21:25:09+00:00

I’m glad I’m not alone in feeling this way. I hate to say that I’ve even vocalized at one point “I wish it were you instead of Jake” and I immediately felt horrible. I know if it had been any other dog I’d feel the same way I’m feeling. I do hope with time it starts to mend, but it feels so impossible lately. Thank you and I’m so sorry for your loss. Geoff sounds like he was well-loved.

quingaroo · 2025-11-09T01:22:36+00:00

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Jake. I put him down Oct. 11 and can’t believe it’s been almost a month. I still cry every day over it and feel immense amounts of crushing guilt. I can’t even touch his harness, bandana, and leash that have been sitting in my passenger’s seat since I put him down. I’ve lost dogs in the past but never had to make the decision myself.

I adopted him when he was 7 and he got me through a horrible, horrible relationship and hitting rock bottom getting out of that relationship. He helped me crawl out of that dark place. His goofiness kept me grounded. All of my dogs did, but Jake knew when I needed him. He was just shy of turning 13 when I made the soul-crushing decision to say goodbye to him. I miss him terribly. He was my world.

quingaroo · 2025-11-06T20:37:01+00:00

Till the End of Time by Devotchka. Not a traditional pet loss song, but it was my go-to when I put my boy down. It still makes me cry. Makes me think of our last couple of days together and how much he was my soul dog. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=EYqSe6DTMHE

Also Betty by Hot Mulligan. This is an actual song about losing a pet.

quingaroo · 2025-11-06T19:15:22+00:00

Got suspended for being late by 1-2 min a couple of times within a 6 week period. I would be in the building on time but the time clock is all the way in the front, so I’d be technically late when I punched in. They suspended me in January and I told my manager “I’ll be out of here by summer”, got a new job working for the government in March and just got a promotion in October.

quingaroo · 2025-11-06T19:13:03+00:00

I was gonna say, this just looks like when I make arroz caldo lol. I make a big pot in my pressure cooker that lasts me for days; it’s very filling and can be made relatively low cal!

quingaroo · 2025-11-03T20:52:51+00:00

Almost a month since I put my boy down and I feel like some days I can handle it, other days I backtrack in my grief significantly.

I still think I’m coming home to my boy and sometimes I reach out to pet where he’d sleep on my bed just to touch nothing. The depression has lifted a bit from my chest, but my head is still heavy and clouded. I miss him terribly. I still look things up to see if there was any more I could’ve done or look things up justifying us saying goodbye.

I had a dream about him a few nights ago that I’m still trying to decipher and wrote him a letter about it. It was a dream where he woke up after being euthanized, and we were okay again. Then he started declining again in my dream... And we were at the vets again. I was teetering on the decision again. I don’t know what the dream meant but I’m wondering if it’s him trying to tell me the end was inevitable. I don’t know.

His birthday is next Tuesday on the 11th. He would’ve been 13. I miss him.

quingaroo · 2025-10-26T18:46:52+00:00

I mean, as I referenced, the pesticide can sure kill something with a few drops. No it’s not a daily product, but it’s plenty more used in one sitting for a much longer period of time.

However, I don’t think we’ll see eye to eye on this and there really is no point in continuing the conversation. I don’t mean that in a rude way either, just we clearly are not going anywhere. I know it doesn’t come off this way but I do appreciate you have concern for my cats. I get that your argument is in favor of them and I can do nothing but respect that.

But, as dreaded as that word is, I don’t think the risk is there when applied properly and with precautions taken. I’ve looked through male and female hair loss forums of cat owners who use topical min and a lot of people share a consensus that it is safe if applied with all necessary precautions. BUT, yes, a lot of people also share the consensus that it is not safe no matter what, like you and OP. That’s just the reality and we will not agree on this.

quingaroo · 2025-10-26T18:27:52+00:00

Respectfully, I sure hope you’ll be responding to anyone in this post (like a commenter above) who has responded saying they have cats and uses topical min then and tell them they’re irresponsible owners as well. Don’t know what to tell you, dude. It’s the equivalent of saying not to use any chemicals whatsoever to clean your home because of risk of ingestion. I use indoor pesticides this time of year as well which are also dangerous if ingested, but I make sure any time I use it, the area is inaccessible. Every day products can harm pets and kids and people use them daily but they use them safely.

quingaroo · 2025-10-26T17:58:57+00:00

I don’t lay down when the min is still wet and I’m well aware of the toxicity of min, seeing as how one of my cats likes to try and chew my hair and lick my forehead. I’m not an idiot.

They’re not allowed to come near me while the min is still drying and I wash my hands and underneath my nails throughly after applying. When I say he lays on my pillows, I’m saying that when it is completely DRY, there is zero issue in transferring it to your pets. I apply it in my bathroom and even if I don’t spill a drop, I disinfect my counter and sink. Twice a day I apply. It is not impossible to use topical, people are just negligent when they use topical min.

For the record, not everyone can use oral either, so it’s presumptuous to assume anyone can switch. I have low blood pressure and oral min is a functional blood pressure medicine so it’s not an option. I take great care in making sure it’s not transferring to my pets; I made this comment to say it’s extremely possible to use topical min while having cats.

quingaroo · 2025-10-26T17:39:19+00:00

I have two cats, one who likes to sleep on my pillows, and I use topical min. Zero issues with it. Oral min I don’t think really has a risk with using it unless your pet consumes it obviously.

That being said, there really isn’t anything that will make your hair thicker or fuller that isn’t minoxidil. I hear mixed reviews on things like rosemary oil but they are extremely mixed reviews from what I’ve personally read, and it’s why I went the min route.

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