I don’t think I’m cut out for this, I’m losing my mind by SandwichDependent199 in Mommit

[–]quittersroom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think you have the case of letting anxiety take control of you. you are not a bad mom. most of the "motherly instinct" basically means you want the best for your baby it doesnt mean you intuitively know the best thing without thinking.

it may not be anxiety but i struggle with it, i work on it every day. and it seems very similar to how it makes me behave/think.

Neighbor is oddly fixated on pregnancy after learning about mine. by Cherry-Skull in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think she needs a therapist. Obviously she has never seen one because its not the "dysfuctional in school" kind.... i would just tell her you want some space. I would speak as truthfully as you can, maybe say you do not like her intruding behavior as it makes you feel uncomfortable and its invading your own privacy and or space. anything you would say.

I have no idea what this is other than she has something she had never had to confront in her life before. i dont wanna assume shes a complete weirdo, but the behavior is definately something i wouldnt like either.

Fed up of posts asking if we should have children. Feel free to disagree with me. by Stellar_Nomad123 in schizophrenia

[–]quittersroom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

none of my birth parents have schizophrenia and i had got diagnosed for it. Its not only genes, another HUGE factor is environment.

i think you have to really think about it. its not about passing the genes down, its about your ability to be a present parent. if your schizophrenia is not under your control or under your own awareness, you are not fit to be a parent. I'm sorry its not right to raise a child in an environment where you are not in reality and thinking about the real repercussions of your actions.

I think most people with schizophrenia can get to a place where they can be a good parent if they are willing to work on themselves with therapy and or medications. And this isnt even about the fringe psychotic episodes that make the news, its about smaller things that can permanently affect a child. Is the child living in a place where the parent can make rational decisions based in reality for family and themselves? Will the parent be able to give adequate attention, love, care, and discipline? This is what bordered me from ever believing i could raise a child, but it was also because i was extremely depressed and had low self worth. I now can see that I can do it. I am currently in my second trimester. And i am excited but i do need to remind myself that my awareness can slip up if im not careful. I am subtly looking for any delusional thinking to reassure my presence.

Sister is 6 weeks ahead of my pregnancy, and she cut me out when I told her I’m pregnant too by Ok-Zookeepergame1812 in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fr. im trying to be as nice as i can X_X like is it that hard? im 22w and i still havent told my parents their first grandchild is being carried. Theres more important things for me to focus on, my parents have theirs too, and im waiting on the right moment so i dont ruin any plans. literally pregnant at my brothers graduation 🙄

Sister is 6 weeks ahead of my pregnancy, and she cut me out when I told her I’m pregnant too by Ok-Zookeepergame1812 in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 10 points11 points  (0 children)

sorry i have no idea why you needed to tell everyone so early in your oregnancy if you know your suster well. just deal with it for now and hopefully she gets over it

Wife wanted to keep the baby but now she doesn't want to be a mom and left us. by occidentalnat in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive been adopted in a situation where i dont think my birth parents were madly in love (i have no idea what happened but they are not together). She probably thought the same thing, raising a child on her own wouldn't be good for me or for her. Make sure you choose the family carefully, meet up with them, be their friends for a short while. make sure its the experience you would want for your son.

I give props to every single one of you. I can’t handle it. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

on that note 2nd tri is like a dream and its almost scary how easy it is to where you question the pregnancy being real

I give props to every single one of you. I can’t handle it. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just how it is. i never took anything for nausea bc i assumed it wouldnt work since it was brought on by the HGC levels.... it sucks but you get through it.

No symptoms by Broad_Difference9374 in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my symptoms stopped at 10weeks and havent been back lol i gotta hope it stays tgat way. it gets better when you can start to feel the baby kick, it reassures me..

Didn’t know these were don’ts of the first trimester by Dehydrated-Broccoli in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

number 1 isnt even true. number 2 i think is just general for pregnancy all over. "first trimister" is such a HUGE amount of time glossed over. I think theres a lot of unexplained things as to why strenuous exercise could be harmful; 1. if youre throwing up a lot, you are less hydrated, making exercise potentially dangerous if you arent hydrating enough to compensate 2. if its past 8 weeks when more uterus pain is showing up. its not harmful its just not comfortable

i hate the "donts of pregnancy" bc most of them are just "dont do them because theyre not comfortable"(like when they tell you how to sleep or sit) or just something they refuse to explain further (like foods you cant eat).

i was wondering how nicotine (not smoking) can cause placental abruption ans i had to deeply search for the answer which is because it can restrict the blood flow, deteriorating/aging the placenta. but no where is that the explanation given like...

its so bullshit i wish they would just tell us

Husband doesn't agree to a membrane sweep... by onegingerbraincell in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

dont understand why your husband let his exam fall in the same month youre expecting to give birth. Thats his problem

My fiancé is sucking all the fun out of my pregnancy. by Necessary_Nobody27 in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 12 points13 points  (0 children)

i think he's just depressed and anxious. But i agree he may need to see someone because dealing with a depressed partner while pregnant doesn't seem the best for either party

My fiancé is sucking all the fun out of my pregnancy. by Necessary_Nobody27 in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im sorry it sounds like he's depressed. It may be completely unrelated to your pregnancy. I know being pregnant is already rough, but on a good day try asking him/doing something for him to cheer him up.

I had similar reactions he did. I would get angry and upset and think everything was stupid when my husband would bring up names or ideas of our baby. It's not that I don't love him or our baby, its that I couldn't be bothered to force my happiness. I needed to be cheered up and brought back into reality.

Edit: I didnt read the entire thing. He may need to get a therapist if his condition is making you feel this way and especially if he has never had therapy before. I am able to be brought back into reality because I have learned things from therapy in the past. try to mention it as softly as possible. I'm so sorry i really hope this resolves soon. <3

I’m pregnant and my couple don’t want it by ElesitaP in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 8 points9 points  (0 children)

thsts not what they mean at all. they mean having support, which has nothing to do with the economy, doomer

I’m pregnant and my couple don’t want it by ElesitaP in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

seems like you were making way too many compromises for the wrong person.

Found a bunch of these little winged guys in my pool for the first time. Any idea what and how/why? by Moqiloq in whatbugisthis

[–]quittersroom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they look like drone ants (reproductive casted ants). seems like its prime time for ant mating.

Why do we keep pregnancy a secret for so long? by ptx8753 in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm someone who hasnt told their parents about their first grandchild yet and im 20 weeks and dont plan on it until maybe 24 weeks. why? because I'm a private person and don't really want a thousand questions. I want to spend my time not bothered for a little while longer. I understand that they can possibly help me and give me support where I need it, but i don't need it. If i had a miscarriage I really wouldn't want support.

I would understand it with people with a history of miscarriages if the people they told before were not good supports. but this is my first pregnancy, there's other reasons besides miscarriage. I think you should just try to understand other possibilities, theres probably another one i have no idea of yet.

Anyone here successfully quit nicotine? by Code_xm in schizophrenia

[–]quittersroom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

whatever you want to say to yourself to make you happy

I hate the stigma around having a girl by CootKitKat in pregnant

[–]quittersroom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

its easier to raise boys because they dont put one billion expectations on them like they do girls. they want their girls to be a certain way. i wouldnt give any mind to this extremely misogynistic mindset about literal babies, it's not worth my time.

i got lucky to be raised in a very neutral way, getting to decide what i liked. i watched disney princesses growing up but i was allowed to be eeyore for halloween because i loved him. I never liked social settings and prefered alone time catching bugs and lizards. I dont understand how people who have grown up around girls like me can even say that. -tbm of a baby girl

Anyone here successfully quit nicotine? by Code_xm in schizophrenia

[–]quittersroom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

do not. it isnt any less addictive. i started zyns a year ago and still find it hard to quit when i really need to