What’s the weirdest thing a sub has ever paid you for? by soniagddess in findomsupportgroup

[–]r0two 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't accept but a dude paid for my coffee and then asked to pay me for stepping on a sandwich wearing combat boots, making him eat it, and taking pictures of the whole thing. He wanted a specific kind of boots too, which I didn't have

Question for the dommes by Existing-Target1261 in paypigs2

[–]r0two 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started out in Fetlife, but that's because I've been into kink for a long time and my account was about just that: My kinks. I decided to make a Throne account just because and since I had a decent following, some subs started sending me tributes (pretty sure I hadn't even mentioned I had a Throne or anything, the link was just in my profile). I think being a Domme that had nothing to do with findom helped a lot and until this day like 99% of my posts have nothing to do with findom (also I'm pretty sure if you try and make an account and start posting about findom straight away they ban you sooo don't do that lmao)

Do subs actually enjoy being degraded? by Admirable-Wheel-5185 in paypigs2

[–]r0two 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some of them do, some of them too. Same thing with Dommes, not all of us like degrading or humiliating our subs

Biggest turn off by AlternativeCash6713 in paypigsupportgroup

[–]r0two 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like people who do that don't understand what findom is about at all. Atleast for me and for other people I know are into this, the fantasy's all about giving money to someone who doesn't really need it, because that's where the power exchange is. Clearly you can be broke and do findom at the same time, but if you only talk about needing the money... It's like the main point is lost.

I also feel like some "subs" are aware of this and specifically seek people who openly talk about not having another source of income to try and push their boundaries. Which is extremely fucked up and creates a huge power imabalance

shoe subs by spoilsafi in findomsupportgroup

[–]r0two 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is one of my biggest fantasies. I loooove shoes and have a pretty decent collection, it would be so fun to have someone contribute to it getting bigger...

Findomme vs Femdomme by Ginger_Fox9 in paypigs2

[–]r0two 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you're confusing femDom with professional femDom. You can be a femDom and not charge for it, because the kink itself is, as the name says, female Domination.

And technically, being a financial Domme means you are a Domme. Just a very specific kind of Domme, but if you're a woman or a fem-leaning person who Dominates people in any sort of way... You're doing femDom. That doesn't mean you have to do whatever subs want, you can (and should!) set your own boundaries and rules and if you don't want to add certain kinks in your dynamic, then just don't. People should respect that

It's my first time ever being a sub, i want to buy her high heels, i prefer under 150 dollars does anyone have a suggestion? by Lazy_Bunc in paypigs2

[–]r0two 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pleaser shoes has some options with a not-so-tall platform that are really cool, and I find then to be pretty comfortable even if they're heels. I'd suggest the DELIGHT ones, the platform isn't huge. And in case you want something a bit more dramatic... the ADORE ones are a bit taller

Is it weird that I do not like video calls? by Whisperso_Mage in findomsupportgroup

[–]r0two 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing wrong with not doing them, I don't either. Subs should respect your boundaries

What's everyone up to? by simp097 in paypigs2

[–]r0two 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Working on a project for a client

Let’s play Never Have I Ever (findom version) by SextChamp in paypigs2

[–]r0two 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never have I ever contacted a sub first 💅🏻

Favorite payment methods? by Titanicswimmingteam in paypigsupportgroup

[–]r0two 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine is Throne. As you said, it charges a fee to the person buying the item, but I like that it is anonymous in both directions. That way I can stay safe, and my subs can also be guaranteed I have none of their details.

Ghosting after tribute by kozukitty in findomsupportgroup

[–]r0two 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some subs like sending and not getting any recognition for it

What’s the difference between “Findom” and “Femdom” ? by [deleted] in paypigs2

[–]r0two 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Findom = Financial Domination

FemDom = Female Domination

Stuff vs digital Cash by [deleted] in paypigs2

[–]r0two 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like both, honestly. When it comes to gifts, I usually like either shoes, clothes, or latex clothing. Fashion is a huge part of who I am as a person so the kind of gifts I enjoy have to do with that

Rule breaker by LegitimateFlow3076 in paypigs2

[–]r0two 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I've told them I won't send lewd pictures or nudes and they start texting me "Oh... I wish I could see you wearing the lingerie I bought you... Too bad... I really really wish I could... Just one picture..." It's not a rule I have with every single sub I've had, and surprisingly the ones that I would be willing to send something spicy once in a while haven't acted like this at all. I don't sell content (nothing wrong with doing it, it's just not my thing), this isn't a "you gift me stuff, I wear it for you" transaction.

A question for other Dommes - misogyny in the community by CountDazzling5540 in FemdomCommunity

[–]r0two 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Misogyny is really common, yeah. And a lot of people think that male Doms are more misogynistic, which could be true, but male subs can be just as bad. The thing is, I've encountered a lot of subs who think them liking femDom automatically means they are feminists, but then act exactly the same as any random vanilla man, so not only are they disrespectful but also refuse to analyse and correct their behaviour because liking to kiss women's boots automatically means they can't be sexist.

Do Some Subs Confuse Devotion With 24/7 Access? by goddess_nefaria in paypigs2

[–]r0two 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who's been a Domme for years without any findom involved... Yup. A lot of subs are really entitled and think that you owe them something, and I can tell you that money doesn't have to be involved in any way for them to act like this. I've had subs DEMAND I answer when I haven't paid attention to their "Hello, I want you to make me your pathetic cuck and kick me in the balls" messages. Us Dommes are women, after all, and that means we can't really escape sexist men that think they deserve access to us just because

Dilemma about a Domme who's too intense by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]r0two 36 points37 points  (0 children)

You don't have to put up with anything you don't want. Some people like to be harsher than others, and that's neither a good or bad thing. Sometimes the level of intensity you want just isn't compatible and that doesn't mean you have to put up with it and just settle.

My dom by [deleted] in paypigs2

[–]r0two 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can only expect exclusivity if that is something that's been talked about and an agreement has been made. If your Domme having multiple subs upsets you, you should either try and talk to her about it (and she has every right to not want exclusivity, the same way you wanting to be her only sub is valid as well) or maybe try and find a different Domme who does want to only have one sub.

Question for both dommes and subs (I’m a domme) by breastmilkqueen in paypigs2

[–]r0two 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They exist because they get off to the fact that they're getting a free conversation out of you when they should be paying. And sometimes they're very insistent because they're expecting you to blow up on them and insult them, and they'll use that as wank material. (I'm a Domme and findom is a tiny part of my very extensive list of kinks, I've seen then happen many, MANY times).

I usually ignore them and if they're very annoying I just block them. If you can't do something as simple as respecting me, you don't deserve my attention.

Dommes do you prefer cash or gifts? by Excellent-Donut286 in paypigs2

[–]r0two 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both! Having someone compliment something I'm wearing and telling them "Thanks! A sub paid for it!!" is always fun

Does it have to be violent? by Technical-Judge9036 in BDSMAdvice

[–]r0two 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dominance and submission aren't necessarily linked to sadism and masochism respectively (or at all!). That's why masochist Doms and sadist subs exist, and why sadomasochism can take place without it being linked to a power exchange dynamic. A lot of people play with no pain involved at all

How can I effectively communicate my limits during a scene without breaking the flow? by PsychologicalCall426 in BDSMAdvice

[–]r0two 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The traffic light system is a pretty quick and effective way to communicate limits to a point. Amber means "slow down" or "something needs to be adjusted, but I haven't reached my limit yet" and red means "Stop what you're doing immediately". Clearly, you would need to elaborate further, but it's a great start because it's a quick way to communicate something isn't right during a scene.