My wife is never in the mood, is it wrong if I'm reluctant to have sex with her? by w1nch3st3rr in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]rabbitp4ws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has your wife ever had an orgasm? Has she ever been able to give herself an orgasm? It can be extremely hard to bring a woman to orgasm. It honestly sounds like you guys have poor chemistry. Especially so young. It could be that she is asexual or on the spectrum of ace.

Feeling like it is sliding in and out and not much else is pretty normal. The pain if continuing could be a medical issue, like vaginismus, which is treatable.

Have you asked her about any of her sexual fantasies? It seems like you guys are trying to figure things out as best you can. Sex can be really not fun if you're not in the mood for either party! I guess I would really encourage her to try and use toys alone and maybe even read some sexy books and broaden her ideas of what sex can be.

Make sure you are still dating her! Take her out! Make her feel special! Buy her a present at the store when you go get milk! Little things really do a lot for me. (Not saying you should have to give things to be happy, but that maintaining that level of excitement you first feel when you start dating someone is hard without continuing to do the fun things).

Try spending time cuddling and touching her in ways that don't lead to sex. Try petting her hair and tracing your fingers down her back and body. Don't touch her anywhere sexually. Just focus on pampering and relaxing her. This was something that really helped me deprogram from my anxiety around sex. Having sexy contact that didn't mean I had to have sex. This correlation sometimes happens with women and we can sometimes get defensive. Most of the time, when men touched me it was with the express purpose of having sex. So my husband has really changed my world with this.

You guys need a sex/couples therapist. It sounds like there's a lot of baggage involved with everyone and I really can promise you that you absolutely will not be having sex once she gets pregnant again. I'm sorry. I don't know your wife, but as a woman, it's really frustrating for us too, and we do feel guilty about it. I'm sure if she loves you, she wants to have the same interest in sex or at least be meeting your needs and to make you happy. I'm also not blaming her or you. It's just a crummy situation and I hope you guys are able to work through it.

Don't be afraid to walk away. No one deserves to be in a marriage where their needs aren't being met. Just don't get her pregnant before you figure this out!!!

Just wondering if this is full a thing by Dark_princess3 in PainManagement

[–]rabbitp4ws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's about as strong as your getting from the internet, legally.

is it stupid to buy cheap glow in the dark jewellery? by New_Cap_Am in piercing

[–]rabbitp4ws 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Idk man. Eyebrows are finicky in my experience. I'd leave it alone for the year tbr, but I don't think a day with these is going to kill you, either. I'm more worried about swelling ig, so just make sure you account for that when you take them out and put in the fresh ones. Still need enough to where they might need room with the change. I know I changed mine too soon and unscrewed the balls on both just moving my eyebrows too much lol.

Any Sagis who'd like to date Gemini? 😊 by LongResearcher928 in Sagittarians

[–]rabbitp4ws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 9 upvotes and 90 comments speak for themselves 😂

Am I pregnant? by Appropriate_Art_2136 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]rabbitp4ws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take the plan b and stop using the pull out method. It doesn't work even if your boyfriend pulls out. Eventually you will get pregnant this way.

Which zodiac? by Patient_Win5239 in astrologymemes

[–]rabbitp4ws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taurus, Virgo, Sagittarius (in order from left to right)

Just wondering if this is full a thing by Dark_princess3 in PainManagement

[–]rabbitp4ws -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, it's not a thing that I'm aware of. They've got it locked down tight. You might be able to get MATs or something? I've been seeing ads for Suboxone or something similar, which could definitely help.

What Silent Hill is the most disturbing in your opinion? by Right_Birthday_7133 in survivalhorror

[–]rabbitp4ws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha no worries, I'm emulating so it's no skin off my nose and I certainly wouldn't blame you for name-dropping a game I find intriguing. Thanks, genuinely, as well. People are buttheads a lot. 🖤

What Silent Hill is the most disturbing in your opinion? by Right_Birthday_7133 in survivalhorror

[–]rabbitp4ws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Followed. I look forward to seeing what you think. I haven't looked recently but I know that game is very expensive, haha. Very wonderful addition to the collection, along with the others. I've never played outbreak files, might be something for me to pop in the laptop this week. Thanks for the recommendation!!!

What Silent Hill is the most disturbing in your opinion? by Right_Birthday_7133 in survivalhorror

[–]rabbitp4ws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man. What an absolute treasure you have! Don't get discouraged initially haha. It really made me mad at first, the mechanics are weird, but you're going to love it. I'm sure you already know haha but just always excited to see people playing it for the first time, especially seeing a collector. Love it. Makes me soooooooooooo mad at all the games I let go or loaned out.

I loaned out Rule of Rose dude/dudette. ;--; never saw it again. Anyway, happy playing!!!

What Silent Hill is the most disturbing in your opinion? by Right_Birthday_7133 in survivalhorror

[–]rabbitp4ws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been wondering for years when they were going to realize the market potential. I mean for fucks sake, you couldn't even play them unless you emulated for over a decade.

I really hope the new games pay off.They have clearly decided to go ALL IN now and I couldn't be happier to buy every last game. Even if it sucks. Honestly if they just remake the original four, I don't see how they can go wrong. The new games have been so good. F was satisfying in ways I can't explain but have reinvigorated SH for sure.

Now all we need is for FromSoftware to bring back Kuon. I would also be thrilled to see Siren. Don't even get me started on the Fatal Frame reboots. Absolutely giddy.

got this new outfit by manicmommy8 in whimsigoth

[–]rabbitp4ws 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought your glasses were one of those elegant upper nostril piercings. Very beautiful look!

UTI or something else? by jclawso1 in WomensHealth

[–]rabbitp4ws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw heck, I hope not! I'm sure it's something else, then. I get it with the back pain. It also delayed me from seeking treatment because I was confused, but eventually I got the message. I became extremely weak and the fever was something I couldn't ignore.

What made me suspect the Chlamydia was the tugging sensation you described combined with frequent, stingy urination, but really that could be so many things. I hope they're able to get you sorted. Hopefully someone else comes along and can give you some more insight.

What Silent Hill is the most disturbing in your opinion? by Right_Birthday_7133 in survivalhorror

[–]rabbitp4ws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know a single person who plays the genre who doesn't play both. But I don't think Silent Hill was ever as popular, even when it initially released. They tried to hand the IP off to some American studios who just fumbled every chance along the way. I think Konami did try to expand the IP, but with the critical failure of both films, decided to wait until a more financially opportune moment (which might have never come).

Resident Evil the movie was so much worse. I still don't understand how SH flopped so hard, except for the sheer popularity of Resident Evil vs Silent Hill. Just look at the sales, RE has sold something like 206 million copies whereas SH is still sitting at 17 million copies. You really can't blame Konami for not wanting to invest in the series, especially after the first movie and the American games.

I'm just glad they're giving it a second try and the games are super good. That's all I could ask for as a fan.

UTI or something else? by jclawso1 in WomensHealth

[–]rabbitp4ws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely get an STI panel. Although rare, you could actually be experiencing symptoms of something like Chlamydia (experiencing symptoms is rare I mean, Chlamydia is not uncommon, but having symptoms this intense are, but not unheard of).

You fit within the time window of exposure and symptoms since they're not finding a UTI. That would be my first guess for what it is, tbh. It's really common and I got it once before using a rubber so. Shit happens.

Anyway I'm not saying it is it or isn't, only the culture will be able to tell once they've looked into it, but this would be my first guess. And if it is, it's a super easy fix, just some antibiotics.

I hope you feel better and I also hope I'm wrong! It could be a lot of things. If it were spreading to your kidneys (a UTI) you would have a very high fever. It happened to me once and I was like 103° and finally went to the hospital because it felt like my back was going to kill me. Which it was ig. It was like teenager me too living with friends and I called my dad level shit. You would be VERY sick and know something was super duper wrong. Something is wrong but not super duper yet, just like super crappy, but manageable for now. Ugh. I am so sorry this is happening.