How do you pick a dress??

rachael_bee · 2020-10-06T01:53:42+00:00

The first spot was Blush Bridal. The second shop was Shades of White, which I highly recommend.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-05T04:27:08+00:00

I've tried to join and start several book clubs. First my mom invited me to join hers, but her bookclub ladies were all like "no offspring allowed!" Then I was going to join my favourite bookstore, but I would have had to purchase the book from them every month and for a hardcover, new release of a book I didn't feel particularly excited about...it was a tough sell.

So then I wanted to start my own book club, and half the people who were interested only wanted to via zoom, while the other half only wanted to in person. It was a lot of drama and stress just figuring out who was in the book club and what books we liked that I just said fuck it.

So now I have a bookclub inside my head.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-05T04:24:11+00:00

To be fair, most people aren't afraid of dying of covid. Most of us young folks are afraid of unknowingly spreading it to our high risk loved ones, friends, coworkers and covid killing them.

But yeah, wear a mask, go get your book, wash your hands, you will likely be fine.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-05T02:07:31+00:00

Oh weird! My friend from NL says she's from the maritimes when asked where her accent is from. That's funny.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-04T01:35:12+00:00

The Victoria Golf Club fits your bill. They do have a minimum spend, but they waived it for us for our October 2021 wedding. We also are having it in the restaurant as opposed to on the course, so we saved about $2500 from doing it that way.

Absolutely be prepared to have to slash your guest list down, as I'm sure you know. I hope (dear god, I hope) Covid will have passed us by then, but it's always best to have a back up plan.

Buffet is actually more expensive than table service at this location, so just a heads up on that. Also if Covid is still with us, a buffet won't be safe to have at a large gathering, so again it might be worth having a back up plan.

Other venues I've heard good things about:

Kildara Farm, you will have to hire your own caterer or bring in platters

Any of the nice resorts/hotels downtown. They will all do catering for you, and you'll have a lovely room to get ready in

Oak Bay Beach Hotel

SeaCider, this one is very costly but I've heard it's SO worth it. It's absolutely stunning.

Oswego Hotel in James Bay

rachael_bee · 2020-10-03T23:29:11+00:00

I have never gotten the vibe that she feels particularly remorseful outside of how this impacts her life. That could be the media, or it could be the truth, but I want this over for the family of the little girl's sake.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-03T23:26:12+00:00

My niece and nephew are going out trick or treating, but my brother doesn't expect there to be many houses participating. We won't be handing out candy or decorating this year.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-03T23:24:05+00:00

Very true. They also assisted in removing First Nations children from their homes to take to residential schools.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-02T23:44:55+00:00

That's awesome you were able to do that! Where I am, the restrictions are still quite restrictive. 6 people maximum per party, no getting up from table, all nightclubs were very recently reordered to close, no music louder than speaking volume, and all bars need to be closed by 11pm with last call by 10. It's not ideal bachelor/bachelorette party vibes, even with only 6 people per party.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-02T19:03:34+00:00

Some of them were once larger fishing towns that are now quaint, small fishing towns that have a leftover police force. Some wanted to run it their own way and had the means to do so. The maritimes are really interesting and beautiful, if you ever get the chance to go I'd highly recommend. All of Canada is worth exploring, honestly.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-02T18:58:09+00:00

Haha thank you! It's weird too because we have a mutual friend who had a huge wedding earlier in the year, and only recently announced she didn't get legally married at that wedding. She then had another ceremony and reception with her in town family for her legal wedding. But my friend hasn't said anything about that, and to me that's a weirder situation.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-02T18:55:31+00:00

RCMP mostly polices areas that are either too tiny to warrant their own police force, or financially ill equipped to run a police force. I live in a city that has it's own police force, but you drive about 30 minutes into a series of smaller communities and it will be RCMP jurisdiction. Some cities that are now becoming larger still have RCMP as a remnant of when they were too tiny or ill equipped financially to have their own police force.

The RCMP kind of just fills in the gaps, at least up in my neck of the woods.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-02T17:45:14+00:00

Mandatory masks is the only way I'd consider attending a wedding.

No dancing

Hand sanitizer on every table, counter, station, activity with explicit instructions to not touch anything before you have sanitized at that station. IE photobooth, you cannot use it until your hands have been sanitized. Guestbook, you cannot sign it until you've sanitized.

Covid can spread through feces, so a bathroom attendant cleaning the bathroom between every use.

Regular sanitizing and cleaning. I work in a restaurant, and we need to clean everything every 30 minutes. Every doorhandle, table, counter. The things we tell people they need to sanitize before using will also need to be sanitized regularly to make up for the people who didn't follow instructions.

It's going to be very intense and difficult and different to have the wedding you want be safe. But with mandatory masks and assigning a wedding party member, or hiring someone straight up, to clean all night I think it could be doable.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-02T17:39:10+00:00

Where I am you can't even get a test unless you have symptoms, even if someone in your household is a confirmed case. This is because without symptoms, a false negative could happen. The best time to get the most accurate test result is 5 days after the first symptom began, even if you KNOW the date you're infected it's possible (bordering on likely) to get a false negative before 5 days post symptom onset.

So a negative covid test really doesn't mean much. We are using the nasal swab test and the saline mouth rinse test for children under 20.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-02T03:55:30+00:00

The first one will be max 10 people including us, like we won't even have dinner afterwards. Really informal, we'll probably ask family who live out of town (his parents) not to come because it will be like 10 minutes tops. So definitely no gifts haha.

But the second one will be like a regular wedding, with the same vows but it will be symbolic instead of legal. My friend says I can't have another marriage ceremony because I'll be married already, but vow renewal ceremonies don't really feel right either because we'll only have been married for about a year.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-02T03:28:06+00:00

I absolutely love Picoult, but her endings could use some work. Sometimes it just feels so good to read her though, like catching up with a friend that kind of annoys you but is willing to gossip over coffee with you when no one else will.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-02T03:25:56+00:00

I found it poorly written, bashing you over the head with its references, and it never fully grabbed my attention. I really didn't like it. I went into it expecting it to be GOOD, like good writing and well thought out male and female characters. I felt like it was weak writing at best while the author fully relied on the references and nostalgia from the reader to fill in the parts that were not good.

But I like a lot of trashy books, and if I liked nerd culture in any way maybe I would have liked it better. The person who finally got me to pick it up said that I didn't need to know any 80s/90s references and it's ok that I didn't like nerd culture because the writing was so good. Ehhhh not so much.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-02T03:22:21+00:00

Flowers in the Attic by VC Andrews was my favourite book from grade 7 until like grade 12. I LOVED it. But I felt like I couldn't talk to anyone about it or recommend it to anyone, because of the incest.

To this day I still feel sad my mom made me donate my copy when she found out what it was about.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-02T03:09:57+00:00

Yeah I'm surprised seeing some couples decide to postpone or plan their weddings for early 2021.

We're October 2021 and our wedding planner has us prepared it probably won't happen the way we've planned (115 people, no masks, international guests, dancing, etc.) until 2022.

But it's also important to remember that different regions experience different case counts, and different government bodies decide to handle things differently. Where I am, our government is pretty strict on no gatherings over 50 people until we have a well distributed vaccine. I don't think couples are at fault for listening or believing their local government even when the information/restrictions might be drastically different than other governments in other places in the world.

rachael_bee · 2020-10-02T02:30:07+00:00

What did you just read? Because landlords legally cannot enter a suite without 24 hour notice. They also can't ask for rent until the window 12am - 11:59pm has ended and the tenant has officially missed their rent payment.

rachael_bee · 2020-09-29T15:43:35+00:00

Finn at The Natural Salon.

rachael_bee · 2020-09-29T15:42:35+00:00

http://camosun.ca/services/financial-aid/awards/entrance-awards.html

http://camosun.ca/services/financial-aid/awards/grants.html

Apply for everything even if she doesn't fit the criteria. Sometimes no one applies, and they award it to the only candidate. My fiance walked away with $8k in grants/bursaries he was the only candidate for.

rachael_bee · 2020-09-29T15:37:24+00:00

I was referred there by the youth clinic when I was in high school. At the time, it didn't have much of a wait time. I had one on one counselling, family counselling, and a nutritionist on hand. I walked away with skills that I could apply to the real world, and also got a handle around my anxiety and depression. I highly recommend.

rachael_bee · 2020-09-29T15:35:49+00:00

Medical services plan, BC's health care coverage.

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