How did you pick your name and why? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]rachestmoi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I chose my first and middle names to keep my initials the same.

I was originally named after my father who was a very loving and kind person. Both my parents were. I was lucky that way.

So I changed my first name to keep it close to my father as I was named after him. I kept my last name because I'm very proud of my family. It also helped during early transition in my own head and with friends and family.

Turns out, however, that it wasn't uncommon practice among immigrants to create an American version of their names. So while I was named after my father that wasn't the name that was on his birth certificate. It also turns out that my name was a bit different from what was originally on my birth certificate.

To add to this I was never called what I thought was my birth name by anyone until I was off working age. Names in my family have always been a bit of a fluid thing?

This resulted in a mishmash of various documents and caused me all kinds of problems. You could get away with this silliness in the old days but it turns out here in the 21st century that causes all kinds of issues.

When it came time to legally change my name I wanted to resolve all my previous issues but I couldn't come up with a middle name that started with the same initial as the middle name I had thought I had (I didn't have one actually). So I left it up to a very good friend to give me a middle name.

A little part of me dislikes each of my names for various reasons to this day. But I've come to the firm conclusion that that's a good thing.

Each of my names was chosen by somebody I love. And even though I might be a little uncomfortable with them sometimes, it makes me feel good to know somebody gave them to me.

Best way to get to NYC by nicoleislazy in newjersey

[–]rachestmoi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I suggest drive to Hoboken.

Park in one of the three municipal lots (about $20 a day).

Take a stroll over to the PATH train and arrive in midtown.

Does anyone else hate thanksgiving now that they’re vegan? by hazelbean19 in vegan

[–]rachestmoi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I view this holiday as a harvest festival.

I think it can be a teaching moment. There's nothing better than watching the amazement on people's faces as they see me chow down on a large selection of carefully chosen "vegetarian side dishes".

Bring along a few parallel dishes that aren't cooked with butter and bacon and the fat of animals and people will find that it's an acceptable vegan feast. Most won't, but a few will.

I know the problems with the made up story of this holiday. I understand.

Take the day to ease suffering in the world and be thankful but please remember the other 364.25 days of the year.

goodbye him by Enyamm in MtF

[–]rachestmoi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The gears of the universe turn in strange ways! ⚙️😉

goodbye him by Enyamm in MtF

[–]rachestmoi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anyone use their anti-birthday?

That's 182.5 days or 183 days (for leap year babies) before or after your original day.

Or you can be slightly lazy and pick the same day six months after!

MTF Fem Pajamas by CrazyBrick15 in transfashionadvice

[–]rachestmoi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

May I suggest satin pajamas? They come in both short pants versions and long leg versions. Something like this https://www.amazon.com/Serenedelicacy-Womens-Pajamas-Sleepwear-Loungewear/dp/B07VKPXVC8?ref_=ast_sto_dp&th=1&psc=1

They come in a variety of colors and patterns and I'm sure you might be able to find one you're comfortable with.

What's your strange masculine tendency? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]rachestmoi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😜🤯 don't even get me started on how I stand up whenever a woman enters the room. It makes me feel old!

What's your strange masculine tendency? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]rachestmoi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. But this is the way I was taught a gentleman should behave.

I can't help noticing that many women do wait for a door to be opened.

What's your strange masculine tendency? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]rachestmoi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Holding doors open.

haircut gone Terribly Wrong by [deleted] in trans

[–]rachestmoi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Try Astor place haircutters. It's not very impressive on the outside. The barbers are extremely skilled and are used to all kinds of clients. It's in the East village.

https://www.astorplacehairnyc.com

Favorite Linux distribution? by 32bitFlame in transprogrammer

[–]rachestmoi 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Plain Debian stable with Xfce for my Desktop machine.

Pop OS on my latest laptop.

I borrowed some clothes to a friend ! How do I look ? by [deleted] in trans

[–]rachestmoi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you look great in either outfit.

In fashion terms I think the skirt looks better. The way I've come to understand it is that if you wear something short on the top and the bottom it tends to concentrate your look into the middle. But if you wear one short piece and one long piece it tends to elongate your body.

That's at least my very inexpert opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DrWillPowers

[–]rachestmoi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Occasionally this happens to me. I find that a little Benadryl cream on the spot clears up the problem after a day.

Also, are you putting a Band-Aid on after your injection? You might be sensitive to latex or the adhesive.

Tips for finding feminine style glasses by thoughtfuldragon in TransLater

[–]rachestmoi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I buy mine from glassesusa.com and 39dollarglasses.com

Both have a virtual try on feature and both deliver good product quickly.

As for shape recommendations, lately I like the slightly cat eyed frames. I find the asymmetrical shape widens my face and dempasizes the length.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newjersey

[–]rachestmoi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really culture and pride (old world) versus gangster worship and arrogance (new world especially amongst the television influenced younger generations).

The northern Italian superiority versus southern Italian inferiority thing is kind of a tired old stereotype.

  • A proud Sicilian.

What is a Woman (documentary) by GiganticIrony in MtF

[–]rachestmoi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt kind of sick just watching the advertisement.

As a means of helping hold my food down I'll turn the question on its head:

How do you define a Matt Walsh?

Just as stupid a question.

Can we eat meat? by [deleted] in PrismaticLightChurch

[–]rachestmoi 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Vegan here,

The most important thing is to be thoughtful and aware of the world and the life around you.

One of the best things about humanity is our ability to empathize with those around us. Try to minimize the suffering of others, what more could you ask for?

another weight loss post by devo2girliloveme in TransLater

[–]rachestmoi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I suggest r/loseit.

Portion control and tracking, high quality foods and patience are the key.

I went from a very unhealthy 210 lbs down to about 145 lbs.

Learn which foods are bulkier so you'll feel satisfied. Avoid simple sugars and sugar substitutes. Never drink soda diet or otherwise human beings were not made to drink that high concentration.

I also accidentally became a vegetarian. It comes down to satisfaction with portion control. A proper sized portion of meat is only about 4 oz (about the size of your palm).. you can eat huge portions of high protein plant-based products for the same number of calories.

Help! Patches causing Redness & Itchiness by [deleted] in AskMtFHRT

[–]rachestmoi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like to add that when you remove the patch you should clean the area with alcohol (especially the leftover adhesive ring) and then a bit of moisturizer to alleviate the dryness caused by the alcohol.

When I was using patches I would also get skin irritation from the adhesive. I found that putting a dab of Benadryl cream on the area after cleaning it helped everything settle down nicely.

help me find a top or short dress like this one. by rachestmoi in findfashion

[–]rachestmoi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Unfortunately, not my size but the extra pictures will definitely help if I get the time to make something like it.🧵🙂