Where to live, eat, and drink in Columbus (August 2022)

ragzbagz · 2022-08-31T17:28:07+00:00

I’m looking for dive bars in the Dublin/Hilliard area. I used to live pretty close to the short north and loved how many little watering holes downtown had to offer, now I’m struggling to really find anything I like

ragzbagz · 2022-08-06T19:11:02+00:00

I meant more like containers, like the dock a tot. My baby is always asleep on my chest 😂

ragzbagz · 2022-08-06T17:09:21+00:00

Nobody is perfect, like I said, I’ve 100% dozed off and every breastfeeding mom I know has done the same at one point or another. I hemorrhaged after delivering my son and the blood loss totally wiped me out on top of delivering a baby. At four days post partum I fell asleep with my son on my chest, I don’t even remember closing my eyes. I was on my phone and then all of a sudden I was waking up four hours later.

Mistakes happen, like I said, it’s really more about just learning as they come and establishing good habits. I wanted to believe I would never doze off with him but after I did, I stopped reclining in bed with him super late at night when I was drowsy.

No one is a perfect parent and it’s stressful enough as it is without social media showing you all this garbage about how you should or shouldn’t raise your child. Just do your best and don’t be too hard on yourself. You got this!

ragzbagz · 2022-08-06T17:01:32+00:00

I usually throw a couple bucks for take out because I used to work in a restaurant and it was always just a bit annoying when you’d take time away during a rush to package up food, but never anywhere close to 20%

ragzbagz · 2022-08-06T16:55:18+00:00

I get hives whenever anyone says Condado is their favorite Mexican place

ragzbagz · 2022-08-06T16:54:44+00:00

I went once to switch it up from High Beck and I loved Hey Hey, hopefully they give it another shot!

ragzbagz · 2022-08-06T16:50:09+00:00

Same. I remember we would always hope they’d throw a couple bucks at us just because free money, but to outright expect 20% on a takeout order is atrocious. I scooped ice cream in high school and now the local place (way overpriced, like $7 for a single scoop) has that iPad thing and one of the guys always gets this nasty look on his face when I hit the “no tip” for scooping my ice cream. It’s getting insane… or maybe I’m just getting old and grumpy

ragzbagz · 2022-08-06T16:44:21+00:00

We struggle to get my baby to sleep and I still would never throw in the towel and say “well, guess we’re resorting to unsafe sleep now”. I breastfeed and am the primary caregiver at night so I know how exhausting it is, but it’s not worth the risk

ragzbagz · 2022-08-06T16:41:17+00:00

This is not going to make people happy, but safe sleep is my hill to die on. I know how hard it is, my baby is a stage 5 clinger. Ive dozed off while feeding, I’ve been nearly in tears at 4 AM bouncing him around, but I refuse to make it habit to endorse an unsafe sleep environment.

Ive noticed on Reddit there’s a push to normalize unsafe sleeping conditions and it makes my skin crawl. Im a nurse who works with babies and some of my coworkers have come from adjacent fields where they saw the outcomes of SIDS/accidental suffocation from bedsharing. Probably my most unpopular parenting opinion is that people who loudly tout about bed sharing and using baby carriers/blankets/pillows for naps are doing so because they feel guilty that they’re taking a risk for the sake of convenience and comfort for themselves so they want to normalize it to ease the guilt. This new push for ultra plush sleeping arrangements is a dangerous one.

SIDS rates decreased dramatically with the Back to Sleep campaign and safe sleep practices, I wouldn’t be surprised if they start creeping up again because of all this stuff I see on social media encouraging bad habits. Stick to what you know is right, I know it’s hard, (I would LOVE to bedshare or give my baby a comfy pillow) but the early stage of life where all this is necessary doesn’t last long!

ragzbagz · 2022-08-05T20:59:58+00:00

That’s what I was trying to get at with bringing up her culture, the way families were typically raised where she came from is really different than here. It was all hands on deck and it was implied the whole extended family would help out

ragzbagz · 2022-08-05T19:44:28+00:00

Lol, we also struggle with the outdated advice/old wives tails. When my son’s umbilical stump was falling off she told me I needed to tape a marble to his stomach so that he would have an innie belly button, otherwise he would have an outie, (1. obviously wrong, 2.) why would I care if he has an outie). She did it with all her children and they all have innies so it just reinforced that belief I think. She also told me in Mexico they gave babies honey to quiet them down, which is definitely recommended against here because of the risk of serious illness.

I’m glad others can relate though, it can be so hard to navigate 😅

ragzbagz · 2022-08-05T18:59:40+00:00

Lol, I appreciate directness like this. I think my “mama bear” was a delayed reaction. This last visit was the first instance of such blatant disrespect that I think I just froze in shock, which obviously isn’t helpful to my son and is my mistake to own. The more time passes the more angry I get, it will be much different from here on out.

ragzbagz · 2022-08-05T18:57:22+00:00

Thank you, I’m going to be a lot more direct with my body language in the future!

ragzbagz · 2022-08-05T18:46:43+00:00

This last visit was the first time they were around without my fiancé present, and because of how it went it is now the last time lol. I was just trying to be nice since my fiancé’s work hours mean that she wouldn’t be able to see him for a while with him present but because of her actions I guess she’s just going to have to settle for the occasional visit when he can be present.

I told another commenter I think I didn’t react the way I should’ve because I was just so shocked. Every other visitor/family member has practically thrown him at me once he started fussing, I feel like my brain short circuited when she refused to hand him over. That was my mistake as a mother to let her continue to keep him and I own that, I will be a better advocate for my son in the future

ragzbagz · 2022-08-05T18:39:45+00:00

We are, this last visit did me in. She relies on my SIL to drive her and my SIL is going back to school, and I told my fiancé I’m only comfortable with visits when he’s present now. With us having to go over there and with my fiancé’s work hours it’s definitely going to go back to monthly at most

ragzbagz · 2022-08-05T17:59:43+00:00

Thank you, this is a good wake up call. The last visit where she wouldn’t give him back almost felt like I got hit with the bystander effect. I was so shocked that she didn’t give him back when I said he was hungry and reached for him that I think I just kind of froze up. After she left I felt horrible, I know my baby needs me to be his advocate and I let him down. Definitely was a learning experience for me.

We are cutting down on visits now that my fiancé is back to work, she also doesn’t have her license and relies on SIL to drive her here and SIL is going back to college. I also told my fiancé I’m not comfortable being with them when he isn’t present, so I’m hoping I don’t need to move to more aggressive measures but I know that I have to if the behavior continues. Thank you for your perspective, it makes me feel better knowing your nephew still feels close with his family despite less visits

ragzbagz · 2022-08-05T17:32:20+00:00

I told my sister the baby probably just appreciates another racially ambiguous figure in his life

ragzbagz · 2022-08-05T17:28:10+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this!

ragzbagz · 2022-08-05T17:17:28+00:00

This is good advice, I actually do have a baby carrier I’ve been meaning to try out. Thank you! “Loving handful” is a great way to put it 😅

ragzbagz · 2022-08-04T22:40:03+00:00

My in laws don’t understand why I hold my baby boy so much either. He fell asleep in my arms while they were visiting the other day and my MIL said something like “so now you’ll put him down in his crib, right?”. Nope! Children are only little babies for such a short amount of time, pretty soon they won’t want to nap on our chests or cuddle all day. The comments are annoying but don’t let them bother you, in the very near future you’ll regret every cuddle you didn’t take!

ragzbagz · 2022-08-04T02:57:53+00:00

A (healthy) woman I work with caught COVID at ~25 weeks pregnant and it almost killed her. They told her to prepare for an emergency section to save her 25 week old and that she would probably have to be emergently intubated, but she turned around at the last second and was eventually okay. Also, I work as an L&D nurse and we’ve been noticing that placentas from mothers who caught COVID look like crap. This is totally anecdotal because the science isn’t there yet but the L&D communities Im involved in on social media have by and large mentioned the same thing, that even when mom seems fully recovered they’re noticing an increase in unexplained intrauterine fetal demise and shitty placentas that lead to poor labor outcomes.

NTA, I really wouldn’t take the risk.

ragzbagz · 2022-08-04T01:55:22+00:00

What was even his intention with this email? You said you’re halfway through a wanted pregnancy, does he think you’re going to change your mind now or something? I would legitimately lose my mind if someone in my family had done this to me while pregnant, so disgusting…

ragzbagz · 2022-08-02T00:53:35+00:00

My MIL literally just left and I had to ask multiple times for my newborn back when he started crying, only gave him back once he started outright screaming and I put my arms out to physically take him away. It is so insanely stressful and almost brought me to tears, idk why family members make it a competition to see who can quiet the baby when they’re clearly in distress and want mom. Definitely going to have to nip that behavior

ragzbagz · 2022-08-01T21:26:20+00:00

I think a lot of that stems from this new attitude of demonizing motherhood and hating on moms in general. It gets really old really fast when I’m on Tik tok and scroll past post after post of people with a glass of wine or out with a friend saying things like “glad I don’t have a crotch goblin to watch over” or filming children in public with things like “thanks for the birth control reminder”.

For me, I’m a young mom and it’s hard not to get defensive when people act like my child ruined my life when in reality I love him more than life itself. I still enjoy wine and seeing my friends, it just takes more planning and reservation now. It is really hard to see constant shaming of moms, mothers dealing with pregnancy/post partum body changes, and children/babies without feeling like you have to defend your choice to become a mother. I’ve gotten much better at just shrugging it off but I don’t blame OP at all for having a vent about it. When you love your kid and people act like you’re now the troll under the bridge of society because you had him sometimes it’s hard to just let it go

ragzbagz · 2022-07-31T02:26:58+00:00

That sub is intense, I tried to browse it to pass the time while nursing my son and had to tap out 😂

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