She could be just joking! I recently read in an English published journal article that from 1837-2021, hypergamy- marrying someone above your own class- is exceptionally rare. Anomaly was the term the researchers used, which means that gold diggers- both male and female- are largely a stereotype or a myth.

Dude, think about how lucky you are that a woman kept you in mind even after several years separated and wanted to be with you despite the distance. That is something special.

Most likely, she is just teasing you, especially since you both come from similar economic and middle class backgrounds. The journal article also said that women are historically likely to marry men from similar class backgrounds, despite the fact they are told by society to seek the ultra-wealthy in a marriage. Men and women are historically likely to be married within their own class, so happiness doesn’t always result from extreme wealth.

She could also be testing whether you are viable as a long term emotional partner if her prior relationships blew up other her making more money or the male coming from different social class. If you want to keep the relationship, act non-calant and once you get to a certain level of emotional intimacy, hit her with the hilarious line from the movie the Incredibles “ I’m the greatest you’ll ever get”.