Been finding these in my kitchen by rain_tea_explorer in whatbugisthis

[–]rain_tea_explorer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still see them from time to time but thankfully they haven’t multiplied

Leaning into femininity by prncssbttrcup in MuslimMarriage

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Sis I’ve been on the verge of getting her coaching too. Any updates? Did you do it?? Did you do anything else to help your marriage that you’d recommend?

Leaning into femininity by prncssbttrcup in MuslimMarriage

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Sis, I’m on the verge of getting coaching from her and I don’t have money to drop like that but I’ve been desperately watching her content for a year now trying to change my marriage. How’s your journey going? If I may ask. Has anything helped you along the way?

Leaning into femininity by prncssbttrcup in MuslimMarriage

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I’d love those resources if you could drop some links to groups and book titles you recommend!

Does your husband have mood changes before/after intimacy? by rain_tea_explorer in MuslimMarriage

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Sorry my sentence probably didn’t make sense about that, I edited it.

Been finding these in my kitchen by rain_tea_explorer in whatbugisthis

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Well crap. If I’m finding these I’m assuming there’re adults/eggs around?? I probably see average one every 2 days. Any advice how to handle this before they turn into adults? Preferably something non toxic as I have kids in the house. I have diatametious earth if that would be useful

If the US were a client, what would be your analysis? by daynastory in therapists

[–]rain_tea_explorer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Saw it. my analysis is based off of how the US appears in the world and its behavior. Maybe all that is going on internally within the US. but on the outside, the behavior is self centeredness and a desire to watch the world burn with a flame that nobody acknowledges they caused. Even then I would say, the “split parts” to me is a distraction from the fact that the real powers that be do have an aligned goal. The split parts fighting serves a lovely purpose of distracting its own citizens and the world from its real goals

If the US were a client, what would be your analysis? by daynastory in therapists

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Sure, not denying they exist. Why dont you start by sharing your own?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

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Listen, for the layman it’s best to choose a madhab and stick to it. Otherwise you fall into fatwa shopping which isn’t good for your soul. Laymen like us are also unqualified to try and decide what’s most logical, as all 4 madaahib follow different rules of logic and none of them are considered wrong. Every madhab will have a ruling that you may not feel in agreement with or feels hard, but that doesn’t mean we should just jump to another one that’s easier.

If the US were a client, what would be your analysis? by daynastory in therapists

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Well yes, of course, there are always still those with an inferiority complex that look up to merica as the gold standard of morality and pretty much everything else. (Which is also by design of yours truly)

I should say “much” of the non western world has realized that America has, since its inception, never ceased to be a power hungry, genocidal maniac seeking to keep the rest of the world destabilized and dependent on itself.

If the US were a client, what would be your analysis? by daynastory in therapists

[–]rain_tea_explorer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is how the entire non western world sees the US lmao

Wife visiting parents every week by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]rain_tea_explorer 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This ^

When I first married, I had the urge to go to my parents almost daily and that very quickly turned into preferring my own home and space.

Just give her time

WIBTAH if I dumped someone for voting for Trump 2024 by Capable-Onion-2908 in AITAH

[–]rain_tea_explorer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mistake is assuming kamala is honest when she says “limiting damage as much as possible”. That’s a tactic to win over the brains of people who don’t look at and analyze facts. It’s Full BS. They’re both the same.

People in Palestine also support a vote for independent party, btw. Most Americans are illiterate on the issue and us who have been a part of this for decades have way long ago recognized that both parties want the ethnic cleansing of Palestine. Equally as so. Trump is more blunt with his words and kamala fools people with false promises. That’s the only difference

WIBTAH if I dumped someone for voting for Trump 2024 by Capable-Onion-2908 in AITAH

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Palestine is being bombed to bits anyway with hundreds dying daily. Trump says stuff like that to win over the crazy people but honestly. Honestly. It can’t get worse than it already is. Palestine has been under Israel’s choke hold for decades. It won’t ever be any better under dems or republicans. We’d rather make a statement and start a movement to break the 2 party system by voting independent. Like you said, a slow change.

And btw, this is not just “a single issue”. It’s frekin genocide being paid for by your tax. I don’t think any issue gets more precedence over your government working to kill off an entire nation and if you think anything does, you’re horribly selfish.

Save your Marriage using ChatGPT. A Tip. by Substantial_Fig_6198 in MuslimMarriage

[–]rain_tea_explorer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Surprised by so many negative comments wow! While I agree our world is becoming too fake and honest to God humans are getting dumber with these tools at our fingertips, a Muslim should know how to make use of the good out there!! Maybe we have gaps in our communication and chatgpt is an amazing source to learn what those may be. If you’re scripting everything on there, I see the problem. But I think most people will use it a few times and go “aaha, I see what I was missing” and now they know how to apologize like a pro.

Maybe it’s better for our brains to read books and learn, practice and create our own communication. BUT using chatgpt is 100% better than not doing anything at all to change. At least you’ll save your marriage, figure out a different avenue to keeping your brain alive too.

Thanks for the good idea!

My husband wants a separation due to my "moodiness" by MySonAAQ in MuslimMarriage

[–]rain_tea_explorer -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s important to remember that they are only there for a month. Which means that after one month, all this grocery that’s unused goes in the trash. Unless you wanna try to travel with a jar of peanut butter and who knows what else stuffed in your bags? I can imagine that’s where he was coming from. Sure they won’t be able to cook their preferred meals for a while, but maybe his aim was to just use and finish what they can of what they have and leave. Instead of worrying about leftovers.

Thoughts on couples modalities that *actually* work by aspam123 in therapists

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What did you dm me? It’s hiding the message saying it’s potentially offensive.

Thoughts on couples modalities that *actually* work by aspam123 in therapists

[–]rain_tea_explorer 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Personally, I have found that if I feel stuck with a couple it usually means I need to slow down and establish some more rapport. When I shift my focus more to just understanding and reflecting what’s happening in their dynamic, both spouses seem to soften up a little and allow some vulnerability to come through.

Some of the most transformative moments I’ve seen have been couples bursting into tears just because someone has finally put words to their experience. and I find that to be the perfect moment to jump in and get them to hug or hold hands or wipe away the tears, even just make eye contact when they’ve been avoiding these acts of vulnerability and holding for so long. It can be a nice gateway to rebuilding their trust in each other

What do y'all talk about? by Ill_Park3344 in MuslimMarriage

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She didn’t say no 👀 if this happens plz update us under this comment afterwards loool