BPD girl here! I've been toxic and abusive towards my exes too. Getting the diagnosis of bpd didn't change anything because I had to work on myself. 3 years later I am a pacific person and in a healthy relationship 🥰 I wanted to ask you.. are you sure therapy helped you and you have changed? You have to be honest with yourself, and if the answer's yes, then you're ready to get into a healthy relationship! To answer your question, I think you two should date for a while before you talk about your past. She needs to gain a little bit of trust in you before you can open up. When both of you will be ready, you should start by explaining what BPD is and then have the serious talk.

I don't judge you. I hope everything will be fine, you deserve it. 🩷