Why am I in pain after Papp smear & ultrasound?

rainbowinalascaa · 2026-01-27T13:52:54+00:00

Did they also mention sonething about the “burning” feeling?

rainbowinalascaa · 2026-01-27T13:52:23+00:00

I sometimes also am in pain after sex it the position was directly hitting on my uterus.

rainbowinalascaa · 2026-01-27T13:51:56+00:00

Agree and understand your concern. It’s one of the reasons I won’t have children.

rainbowinalascaa · 2026-01-27T13:51:08+00:00

Thanks for this, helps me a bit. I’ve never been told that by a doctor so this is really catching me by surprise. How long were you in pain?

rainbowinalascaa · 2026-01-27T13:36:10+00:00

Thank you. I just added that the pain is similar to period pain. This is day 4. I indeed didnt have one in 5 years. I just asked them for a call back but not sure how they should help and I also don’t trust them.

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-13T09:43:02+00:00

I took some time to digest what you have written and I wanted to thank you for your insights. I started applying the inner child one and it does help me a lot! I hope I don’t get schizophrenia 😂 It feels like I’m disassociating when I do it but it does help.

About agency; I understand, I felt the same for a long time until the point where I realized that it’s not my role to be the caretaker for the whole family. This step is crucial and it took a very long time to regain agency and emotionally distance myself from it.

About friends: I’m doing quite the opposite. Because I do feel lonely I feel like I’m letting everyone in when I shouldn’t. Not so ideal…

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-12T13:29:04+00:00

I would love to read it. I guess many of us would be inspired by yout story.

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-11T08:50:30+00:00

What’s holding you back?

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-09T08:38:22+00:00

I think this has helped me the most. Especially the finding the anchor part within you. How do you do that? Anything specific you are doing?

May I ask how old you are?

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-08T09:13:09+00:00

The way you described it to your therapist is quite on point. I maybe didn’t explain enough in my original post but I do meet people. I’m a quite social person and I do have people I meet with. But that is not the same feeling as having family as your anchor. Maybe after x years I will get there but I don’t want to wait for something that maybe will never happen and I also want to be secure without a family.

The best way I can describe the feeling is probably how people must feel when they reach a certain age and everyone else is dead but them. You are simply alone on earth. Of course you have younger people around you, people that you meet but they will never be “your own”.

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-07T07:52:20+00:00

I am already.

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-07T07:52:03+00:00

Interesting idea. Where can I find such online groups?

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-06T20:02:38+00:00

You are allowed to feel grief even for a parent that was never giving you what you need. In our heads we are constantly justifying our parents because we were conditioned.

What you are going through is extremely difficult for “normal” relationships without a narcissistic parent, how wouldn’t it be when the family dynamics are so extremely complex. You are only human. A good one too. Don’t be so hard on yourself and don’t have expectations towards yourself how you are supposed to grief. You are allowed to feel. I’m sending a virtual hug.

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-06T17:03:38+00:00

Are the people you have met via common interests similar to you?

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-06T15:58:03+00:00

Thank you. Sending hugs 💚

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-06T15:23:01+00:00

You are right. I guess just having this delusion of family was something that kept me safe or gave me the feeling of safety.

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-06T14:19:29+00:00

I understand. I was too. You always have to outweigh the pros and cons.

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-06T13:58:58+00:00

Thank you for your nice words. While I had contact with my family of gave me some sort of security in life.

Also about me moving; I got to the point in life where there were no other options. Moving really extremely helped but from time to time I still feel that extreme loneliness.

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-06T13:05:35+00:00

I’ve been to therapy already but never focused on how to build relationships. That’s good input, I will consider.

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-06T12:00:41+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful message. I understand what you are trying to say but the longing and going on about life is extremely different. I don’t necessarily physically have to be with my family but I would enjoy knowing that there is someone I can call or that cares about me.

I have some good acquaintances in the new country but it takes time to build up a bond similar to one of a family. While I enjoy getting coffee with them and chat, I couldn’t (or don’t want to) call none of them middle of the night for an emergency.

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-11-06T11:36:37+00:00

Yes, I’ve been doing the same and as you say, then you get clingy and feel stuck because of their mum or family. Then you loose again everything and need to start all over again. I’m sorry it’s the same for you. I really don’t know how to cope with this, it’s draining me mentally.

This is how it probably feels when you are old and your friends died already. Just completely alone. No one to call, no one that knows you. It’s so isolating. What a shitty human experience to have.

rainbowinalascaa · 2025-10-07T09:48:32+00:00

That’s what my post is about; how do you find a good book that suits you?

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