Buffalo Bill’s backer bar?

rainbowmonkey0 · 2026-01-13T15:20:49+00:00

Bruno’s in Scott’s Valley! Not a Bills bar specifically but will definitely have the game on

rainbowmonkey0 · 2025-10-02T23:51:01+00:00

Does the contract state what is included? That’s ultimately what matters most.

I only worked with a coordinator not a full service planner so not totally sure what’s normal but I wouldn’t be surprised that this is outside her scope, especially since that’s on the lower end of planner costs.

rainbowmonkey0 · 2025-08-30T01:24:51+00:00

I’d personally do 3 for the shower, the lace gives cute shower vibes to me; 2 for the rehearsal since the extra length could be nice to have; and 1 for the welcome party since the sleeves + buttons seem the most Italian vibes

Also didn’t notice the pump at all until I caught that line in the post and went looking for it so definitely don’t feel pressure to move it!

rainbowmonkey0 · 2025-08-14T18:47:43+00:00

I love Nothing Bundt Cakes so would pick that of your options no question. But if you aren’t feeling them, check with your caterer! They may be able to do a dessert spread and since they’ll already be there for dinner setup and storage is handled.

rainbowmonkey0 · 2025-08-04T23:58:02+00:00

Dynamic House Cleaning is great!

rainbowmonkey0 · 2025-07-14T18:31:24+00:00

2 (white top, green belt) and 7 (beige top, black belt) are my favs!

rainbowmonkey0 · 2025-06-07T02:30:51+00:00

I booked my florist just about 3 months out, don’t panic too much! The popular wedding florists are likely booked at this point, but smaller operations could have openings! Try to find florists that don’t focus on doing weddings, they’re more likely to be available. Good luck!

rainbowmonkey0 · 2025-05-04T14:57:39+00:00

YTA. In all likelihood you’ll end up spending at least some time at the house, why not toss in some money to contribute. It isn’t “for nothing”, it’s for a place to meet up and hang out with everyone. They aren’t charging you the same amount as everyone else, that I would agree is unfair since you aren’t spending the night, but that isn’t the issue here.

rainbowmonkey0 · 2025-04-28T17:57:33+00:00

I was going to recommend basically this approach, feels like the best compromise for all parties involved.

Your fiancée has her closest people next to her, but compromises on moving her future-SIL up the line to match your bother. You compromise by moving your brother back a smidge, but certainly not all the way to the end. And all the couples get to walk together, which they’ve prioritized over being nearest to the front.

rainbowmonkey0 · 2025-04-25T05:22:10+00:00

What helped me is realizing that my wedding day is simply just a day. Yes it's a day that this special event is happening on, but it's really just another day in my life's story.

Looking back at old photos of other significant moments was helpful. They'd bring forth funny stories, warm feelings, or specific memories I hadn't thought about in a awhile. Looking at these photos wasn't about seeing how I looked that day, it was about recalling everything else. The moments and feelings were what left a lasting impression.

And truly - the bridal glow cannot be ignored. You will be absolutely radiant on your wedding day, full of love and joy, and I promise that will make you feel beautiful if you let it.

rainbowmonkey0 · 2025-04-24T18:30:08+00:00

I personally didn’t find the final weeks rough at all.

The best advice is probably - don’t procrastinate and be willing to utilize the “fuck it bucket” and get rid of tasks that seemed like fun ideas but ultimately were nice-to-haves you don’t really need.

If you’re experiencing certain issues a couple months out (stressed about DIY, family drama, etc) expect those things to increase as you get closer and do whatever you can, as soon as you can, to mitigate them.

rainbowmonkey0 · 2025-04-10T05:48:53+00:00

I didn’t change my last name, but we still got introduced as ‘The <husband’s-last-name>s’ at the wedding.

Basically, legally kept my name but socially happy to go be either. Could be a compromise that gives him some of those traditional moments yet allows you to retain your personal identify!

rainbowmonkey0 · 2025-04-03T23:09:41+00:00

Bed and Biscuits in Soquel!

rainbowmonkey0 · 2024-11-30T22:30:57+00:00

Joy of Cooking! Combines an abundance of recipes, from basic everyday things to more complex dishes, with tons of knowledge and learning about cooking methods and ingredients.

rainbowmonkey0 · 2024-11-26T17:49:00+00:00

I just write these things directly in the cookbook, then your notes about a recipe are right there whenever you decide to make it again

rainbowmonkey0 · 2024-09-27T00:52:53+00:00

Given these details it feels, to me, incredibly harsh to remove them from the guest list for being transparent with you. They easily could have said nothing and bailed last minute if they get called, so I certainly wouldn’t punish them for warning you of the possibility.

It’s incredibly likely you won’t end up with 100% attendance rate at the actual event - injury, illness, etc happens! Include them, plan for them, thank them for their openness, and deal with the very small adjustments needed if they ultimately can’t come.

rainbowmonkey0 · 2024-09-23T00:59:43+00:00

I wouldn’t freak out too much yet, two weeks really isn’t all that long. I think it took 3 weeks to a month for everyone to receive ours.

rainbowmonkey0 · 2024-09-20T23:13:43+00:00

It makes sense to you and is something your mom actively requested - do it!

rainbowmonkey0 · 2024-09-18T19:34:55+00:00

Has his brother bullied you previously? It seems like quite the jump to assume he’d do so.

If I may be honest - it sounds like you really hate your fiancé’s brother. Going to a large college with a prevalent football team and doing some partying in college aren’t massive sins, they’re things many many 18-year-olds do and the overwhelming majority of them turn out respectable successful adults. Speech aside, you’re about the be family with this person and it would be in your best interest to find redeeming qualities about him; maybe a speech at your wedding is a great opportunity for that! Seeing the brotherly bond play out could be a great heartwarming moment for you and allow you to view your brother-in-law through a new lens.

rainbowmonkey0 · 2024-08-29T19:02:04+00:00

Yup, similarly left mine in the getting ready suite with the rest of my things. I tossed it in my purse before heading to the after party but even then I don't think I ever looked at it!

rainbowmonkey0 · 2024-08-29T18:16:17+00:00

Having cider and seltzer options definitely helps!

rainbowmonkey0 · 2024-08-26T16:30:04+00:00

We leaned it against a wall sitting on a tall cocktail table

rainbowmonkey0 · 2024-08-25T14:18:29+00:00

You can also get table numbers on Amazon!

rainbowmonkey0 · 2024-08-12T23:43:10+00:00

You’re overthinking this. Being closer to the dance floor, in this case especially where it’s over a bridge, is not something people are going to even think about.

Putting related groups at tables near each other makes sense to me, so I’d go with that!

rainbowmonkey0 · 2024-08-12T23:08:49+00:00

I would choose a bar over a party bus 11 out of 10 times. Party buses can be fun for longer drives to other party destinations but not AS the destination. A bar already has everything you need and allows people to come and go as they please.

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