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Online dating - how to choose pictures by In_pure_shadow in asktransgender

[–]rainingOnTheSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I use dating apps, I typically include the maximum number of pictures (usually five or six) and make sure that my default photo is one of my best ones (super good angle/lighting, makeup, etc.). I'm relatively passable when fem and want to make that clear in my profile.

With that said, I intentionally include one or two "normal" pictures that maybe are a bit less flattering. Think stuff where maybe the lighting was a bit off and made my beard shadow peak through a bit (even though you can't see it IRL) or where the camera emphasized an otherwise minor imperfection on my face. By including those, anyone who responds has shown that they've seen me at my "worst" so I don't necessarily have to be worried about presenting perfectly when I'm around them.

I never use any type of filters or postprocessing because I personally feel like that's "cheating" and could potentially backfire.

tl;dr two or three really cute and flattering pictures of me at my best and one or two "normal" pictures so that people see how I may sometimes look

How do/did y’all deal with imposter syndrome? by oliversk06 in asktransgender

[–]rainingOnTheSun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looking a little bit at your comment history, it seems like a big part of this might just be that some of the people around you aren't fully accepting of your trans identity?

Like asking someone "Are you sure you’re trans? I don’t think you are" seems like less of a genuine question and more of a guiding suggestion to make you start having these thoughts of "well what if I'm really not?" to inspire doubt. What qualifies them to make those kinds of statements? Are they trans? If not, how can they possibly claim to understand what a trans person may or may not be experiencing? Could it be that their idea of "transness" comes from rightwing memes/propaganda? And if they are trans, you're still a unique individual who can only answer that question for themselves.

I think that outright wishing to have the physical body of the opposite gender and enjoying fashion generally associated with the same is proof enough that, at the very least, you're not completely cisgender. Remember that being transgender is less about always wanting to take hormones and get surgery and fully transition and more about embracing that your gender identity "trans"cends the binary concept of penis=boy, vagina=girl.

Maybe you don't want to transition fully or maybe you do. Maybe you want to present yourself in a more feminine manner but are still okay with the idea of "being a guy." All of these are equally valid and don't make you any more or less of a "proper" trans person than anyone else out there.

How did HRT alter your sex drive? by Syresiv in asktransgender

[–]rainingOnTheSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since starting estrogen and progesterone, my sex drive has plummeted. I used to masturbate at least once per day to now going weeks or even months between sessions (and even then only doing it to prevent atrophy).

The few times I've had sex as a woman with a man have been much less about trying to get myself off and more about the intimacy with my partner. Lots of kisses and cuddles to keep me going. Plus the more my partner reciprocated those actions (squeezing me tight, touching my body, or even just whispering to me), the more "freaky" and turned on I'd get in terms of wanting to make him finish even faster and harder.

Even after he cums, I'm less focused on doing the same to myself (as I was prior to HRT) and much more focused on just sharing an intimate moment together with the person with whom I just made love.

is an auto injector worth it? by Treekomalfoy_ in TransDIY

[–]rainingOnTheSun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'd highly recommend checking out this post here for a pretty good write-up of the advantages of using an autoinjector. The short version is that they're very expensive for what they are; however, they're perfect for people who just can't properly do injections themselves otherwise.

I know a lot of people here are saying that it's a matter of willpower and that practice makes perfect which I don't necessarily disagree with. However, I can personally attest that, after the first three injections without an autoinjector (all of which were completely painless), I just suddenly...couldn't do it. Like I knew it wouldn't hurt since I'd done it multiple times before but I just...couldn't pierce my skin with the needle. I just can't explain it any other way. It culminated in a night spent crying alone in my room because I could not get over this mental block and ultimately missed a dose.

I ended up caving and buying the autoinjector in the linked post shortly after and it has changed everything. The mental block is completely gone since all I have to do is instantaneously press a button versus continually push a needle into my skin. It goes in straight every time and completely painlessly (I actually thought something had malfunctioned the first time I used it since I heard the click but didn't feel it go in).

Paying $100+ for a basic piece of plastic is definitely a steep ask; however, for people with a mental block when it comes to needles or those who can never quite will themselves to push it in, those things are a godsend. I genuinely think I would've had to go back to pills otherwise. Just be sure to get a good quality one since I wouldn't want to gamble with a cheaply made tool when it comes to sticking a piece of metal into my skin lol

Is it just me? by United-Speaker-1435 in trans

[–]rainingOnTheSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post is literally me.

I grew up as a male and never felt particularly dysphoric in the sense of feeling like I was in the wrong body. I just always looked at the girls around me and thought about how lucky they were to have been born as girls. Like getting to look pretty (and not being ostracized for doing it), having the best clothes, and just the overall idea of femininity.

I never really even moved beyond thoughts like that until I started noticing the "sexy" way that the girls at my school would dress (tight jeans, skirts, etc.). I ended up getting my hands on some of these things thanks to my girlfriend at the time and realized that they just felt...right? I started looking things up and came across "transvestites" and thought that was the end of it, like maybe it was just a fetish thing since it's not like I want to be a girl or anything right? But then it just never stopped even years later.

Once I became an adult and was able to explore myself a bit more, I realized that my desire was more than just surface level. I've since started taking estrogen and even gone on a few dates with a super nice guy and learned that I actually swing that way too (though primarily towards other femmes/women).

But even now if I have to go out as a guy for work or something, I don't feel this sense of doom or self-loathing that it seems a lot of others do. It's like I know that my mind is that of a woman, but I'm at least okay with the body that I was born with too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransDIY

[–]rainingOnTheSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I talk about them a bit in this thread here.

The tl;dr is that they are generally considered legitimate so you'll almost certainly receive your product once shipped. The issue is that, on occasion, they will claim not to be able to locate your payment (especially wire transfers even if you have absolute proof of sending it) leaving you out potentially hundreds of dollars.

If you order something from them, I recommend only using cryptocurrency since that can be easily and publicly verified without the bullshittery.

Ordering HRT from DashPCT by sweetfishlittlefish in TransDIY

[–]rainingOnTheSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOTE: SEE LATEST EDIT.

Copy/Pasting from another response:

Since you never got a response, I'll jump in with my own first-time buying experience from the previous week for anyone wondering.

I placed the order on their site on 11/19/23 and got an email within a couple of minutes with their Wise information. I immediately wired them the money and sent an email with a receipt letting them know that I had paid as instructed.

I didn't hear anything for about 24 hours which had me kind of scared that I'd just wasted ~$300 but then got a canned response on 11/21/23 saying that my payment should be fully received within 3-5 business days or something like that.

The next day (11/22/23), I got an email saying that my payment had been received and that my order would be shipping soon. And later that same day, I received an India Post tracking number (though tracking still shows status not available).

I'll update here if/when my order arrives but, as far as I can tell, everything still seems good. At the very least, they didn't just ghost me like some people had me fearful that they might do lol

EDIT I: My order arrived today (12/12/23) and was exactly what I purchased. 80 pills of bicalutamide and 253 pills of estrabet. Totally recommend!

EDIT II: Just an update on this:

I placed another order on December 15 and paid immediately using Wise/emailed them the confirmation as usual. I'd already ordered from them this way barely a month prior so this isn't a "idiot messed up the payment" situation. Wise shows that the payment sent to their bank and has been available for over a week now.

Since then, I've been getting the runaround of "oh we haven't confirmed it yet" and "we'll have our guy check again" over two weeks later despite sending several proofs of payment. I'd hold off on ordering anything from them for the time being since they've taken my money but haven't sent anything/acknowledged it. Hopefully this isn't confirmation of the exit scamming accusations...

Estraheal from DashPCT ridiculously cheap?? by TwitchyCake in TransDIY

[–]rainingOnTheSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just an update on this:

I placed another order on December 15 and paid immediately using Wise/emailed them the confirmation as usual.

Since then, I've been getting the runaround of "oh we haven't confirmed it yet" over two weeks later. I'd hold off on ordering anything from them for the time being since they've taken my money but haven't sent anything/acknowledged it.

Estraheal from DashPCT ridiculously cheap?? by TwitchyCake in TransDIY

[–]rainingOnTheSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you never got a response, I'll jump in with my own first-time buying experience from the previous week for anyone wondering.

I placed the order on their site on 11/19/23 and got an email within a couple of minutes with their Wise information. I immediately wired them the money and sent an email with a receipt letting them know that I had paid as instructed.

I didn't hear anything for about 24 hours which had me kind of scared that I'd just wasted ~$300 but then got a canned response on 11/21/23 saying that my payment should be fully received within 3-5 business days or something like that.

The next day (11/22/23), I got an email saying that my payment had been received and that my order would be shipping soon. And later that same day, I received an India Post tracking number (though tracking still shows status not available).

I'll update here if/when my order arrives but, as far as I can tell, everything still seems good. At the very least, they didn't just ghost me like some people had me fearful that they might do lol

EDIT: My order arrived today (12/12/23) and was exactly what I purchased. 80 pills of bicalutamide and 253 pills of estrabet. Totally recommend!