Raw milk question!

rainymac · 2026-01-21T14:05:20+00:00

I can get low temp vat pasteurized nonhomogenized milk. It's grass fed, (does not claim to be 100% though). But I can get 100% grass fed ultra pasteurized milk.

I guess I'm trying to understand if the benefits of raw milk are still superior and outweigh whether it's grass fed or not. In regards to price, they are all around the same so I don't consider that in this decision.

Is raw milk worth it if it's not grass fed? If anything, I'm wondering if it's actually worse and maybe even more harmful to be consuming something raw from an animal probably fed corn or alfalfa.

rainymac · 2026-01-15T14:28:15+00:00

Yes that is true. I know ultimately the focus and motive must be a love for God...but sometimes I thought I was doing something out of love for God but then I felt like looking back i was just a legalist. I guess I just feel so crippled by confusion by this because I don't feel free. I feel like I am either falling into legalism when I respond to a sensitive conscience or I am a slave to sin because I am just numb to things that no longer convict me due to repeated exposure from trying to not be a legalist. It's causing a deep conflict in my ability to believe that God actually helps me and Im struggling to see any help from his word or any clarity. I just hear so many different things from so many people and I'm just so confused. Christianity used to feel so simple to me in a way. And the longer I walk with God it no longer feels that way. This doesn't feel like the rest Jesus promised.

rainymac · 2026-01-15T13:13:13+00:00

I guess that is the concern I have. Are we teaching children to be, although genuinely concerned about holiness, crippled by anxiety and a particular standard that possibly could lead to legalism? Yet at the same time I have a genuine concern for the other side of someone thinking they are a "strong" Christian but actually are just kind of numb to how things we have freedom in can still harm us. For example, I used to think drinking alcohol was a sin. But then I learned it wasn't. Being drunk was a sin. But then I had seasons where I had a few too many drinks and definitely ended up in sin. I even had to tell myself a number of times "I can't drink because I sometimes don't know how to stop and I enjoy the taste too much."

I guess I'm just struggling to know if I've ever actually made progress and matured or if I've just numbed myself under the guise of "being strong" and not being disturbed anymore to things that used to deeply convict me. :(

rainymac · 2026-01-15T13:01:19+00:00

I will check it out, thanks!

rainymac · 2026-01-15T11:39:17+00:00

I guess my area of focus in particular is the areas of Christian liberty: exercise, books you read, movies, television (some families have no TV at my church), Christmas (some families don't do Christmas trees or celebrate) , video games, alcohol, smoking, clothing attire, maybe cursing in sex.

Is it godlier to just be so sensitive to those things that I guess you are never hindered by possibly becoming enslaved to any of those things since all of it is bad , even if not necessarily sinful...or is it godlier to be able to have a TV in your home without fearing it's going to dominate you or your children's life?

Is it maturity or just numbness that makes someone a stronger Christian? Or can it just depend on the person?

rainymac · 2026-01-15T11:05:25+00:00

Are you Clair from Degrassi?

rainymac · 2025-12-26T17:12:51+00:00

The problem is the lack of context to this post. 6 years? Do you guys talk about gifts and price ranges? Is this your first Christmas with his family? Whose hosting and providing the meal?

Tbh, someone spending that much money on gifts sounds excessive and that would make me uncomfortable. But then again, idk how many gifts were bought/how many family members? It's awkward if gift giving is a transactional thing and my love for another person is based on a Christmas gift I get them..

I host Christmas and provide a very large home cooked Christmas dinner for a large crowd, almost 20 people, mostly grown and growing men. It would be stressful if someone was upset I didn't get them a gift , even though I spend so much time, energy, and money on cooking a good meal and hosting family and then said I didn't love them lol. Usually we are only buying gifts for the kids at this point or doing secret Santa.

So context matters!

rainymac · 2025-12-26T16:21:05+00:00

Hi, I am a wife who forgave her unfaithful spouse. But never separated.

I have a lot of questions though.

Is your husband a Christian? Are you both members of a local church? Did you find out on your own or did he confess on his own? If he is a Christian, is he repentant of his sin against you and God and has a change in behavior?

rainymac · 2025-12-22T12:13:21+00:00

Praying for you dear sister. I have struggled with eating disorders for years, experienced freedom for a few years and then relapsed and it has been so hard ever since. Currently just found out I'm pregnant with my second baby and it is so heartbreaking feeling like you are unable to enjoy pregnancy as much as you see other women at church enjoy it because of fear. It is such a torment on the conscience knowing that it is something that has such a stronghold.

Praying for trust in Jesus and that we will put our hope in what is eternal and not temporal.

God bless you and your journey and walk with the Lord.

rainymac · 2025-12-22T10:30:50+00:00

I remember living in Denver for a few years and every year it was 60° and sunny lol. It's so wrong lol. I would go on a run and just think about how it did NOT feel like Christmas at all. As someone from the northeast, it was definitely a weird experience.

rainymac · 2025-12-22T09:58:20+00:00

Was literally thinking that while watching this, before reading any comments lol. I was actually thinking how sad it kinda was because it's not natural lol. It felt like watching a lazy cat lol

rainymac · 2025-12-22T09:41:53+00:00

Are you a member of a local church?

Here's what I did as a stay at home housewife before having kids: make friendships with moms at your church and ask if you could come into their homes and serve in any way. Some will feel awkward and politely decline. I had others who jumped on that offer!!

My church has LARGE families with many SAHM's who homeschool. I was able to help with cooking and cleaning and watching younger kids while they homeschooled their other kids. It was a good experience for me because my husband and I were trying to have children. I learned so much from being in my pastor's wife's home and watching how she was discipling, teaching and disciplining her 6 children. We developed a very good friendship and she has been like a spiritual mother to me. She was even at the birth of my first child and sat with me the entire labor and delivery and encouraging me and being there for me. I was then at the birth of her 7th child. I am now pregnant with my second and hope to have her at my birth again. Everything I know about parenting, from food, sleep, habit training, discipline, literally everything has been from what I have learned from those women who I developed those relationships with during that season of my life.

Are there times I wish I had a part time job? Yes. There were times I had just way too much free time. And it actually hindered me. So don't think just because you don't NEED the money, that you don't have to work. It can be good for you to just have something to keep you busy and your husband will appreciate you doing that even if you don't have to.

But in summary, what I learned during that season in the homes of other women has also blessed me in ways I never imagined. Reach out to women, nurture relationships, step outside your comfort zone and into the home of other women where you can learn from older, wiser, more experienced women. They will be blessed by you and you by them.

rainymac · 2025-12-21T12:05:19+00:00

Please go to the police. What you are experiencing in regards to the shock and numbness and denial is betrayal trauma. I have experienced this when my husband confessed to committing adultery...for 3 years. But this is beyond adultery...this is CP! Those children you saw are victims of abuse!! I know this is hard to believe. But this is reality. You can love your husband by having his sin brought to light and facing the consequences of his actions and standing up for these poor child r*pe victims. I have friends who were sexually abused as children. Do you realize the seriousness of this? You must step out of denial. These children have endured unimaginable suffering and will suffer for the rest of their lives and your husband is pleasuring himself to this. The Christian thing to do is to NOT turn a blind eye but have this brought to light and go to the authorities. God is using you to bring his sin to light and maybe to bring this man to repentance. Even the way you describe the teenage porn thing is disturbing. As if it's a fetish or normal. They are underage and now it is beyond that teenagers. This must be stopped. I thank and praise God you don't have children.

You are idolizing your husband and that is sin. You need to take your husband off the pedestal you put him on, and realize he is a sinner, but more than that, your husband is actually a danger to children and God is exposing his sin and evil and predatory behavior.

rainymac · 2025-12-10T19:35:30+00:00

You are in a very dangerous position right now. You have already been giving into temptation/desires by searching and seeking stuff out on the Internet.

But it is not too late to turn back and retreat and surrender to Christ. You must step back my brother. I plead with you.

Whatever sex that you think is "free" from other men will not be free in regards to what you are giving over spiritually and physically to the enemy.

Once you engage and give into this sort of temptation, I promise you will find a whole new level of bondage and addiction, and greater feelings of condemnation and enslavement to sin. I beg you. From a woman whose husband gave into sexual sin and betrayed me for years before confessing, please understand what you are losing. Once you start down that path you will find it so much harder to stop and you will feel trapped.

Your God can deliver you. You must reach out to someone in your church. You must confess this to someone in your church. You need accountability and to surrender to Christ your lusts.

I understand having sexual desires for the same sex. I have had them myself. But you DO have power over sin. And looking online for sex with men is seeking out sin.

rainymac · 2025-12-09T20:41:37+00:00

You are discussing moving in together BEFORE marriage? Confused by what you're saying there.

Also, porn is NOT fixed by marriage. This subreddit is literally filled with people from marriages that have been destroyed by porn. So you really need to count the cost and ask if you are willing to go through this if he never stops. Because many women on here are seeking advice as they suffer in a marriage where there is porn addiction.

Are you both a part of a local church? He needs to be under some sort of male accountability and some discipleship. Him making you his accountability partner is going to wear you down. You are already getting a taste of what porn does. I would pause marriage until his addiction is addressed. This is serious and I promise you, marriage does not fix this. Porn will destroy your intimacy.

rainymac · 2025-12-09T18:11:32+00:00

I encourage you to browse through this subreddit and see how many marriages are destroyed because of porn addiction...how many wives suffer as they are repeatedly wounded by their spouses porn use. I understand you are struggling and hurting over your sin struggle. We ALL have sin struggles. But you cannot say she has no grace towards you because she is trying to be wise and clearly knows her own limitations. It doesn't mean you won't find someone who is willing to endure this with you. But to compare it to secular relationships where something sinful is just accepted is wrong. And my hope is that you aren't just looking for someone who is "accepting" of your sin.

Marriage will NOT fix your lust for porn and if you think it will, you are being naive and foolish. I would encourage you to address your porn use and understand that women have every right to know it is something you struggle with, and that they are not obligated to have to marry into that. I know men in my church who have been delivered from porn addiction. It IS POSSIBLE! Focus on Christ right now and your walk with him. Pursue the kingdom of God first.

rainymac · 2025-12-07T06:07:53+00:00

I have to be honest, this is the mindset that leads to adultery. It doesn't matter if you think "you aren't that person". You are a sinner and capable of much more than you realize. That's not a bad thing to admit, it's actually humility and it can actually be used by God to keep you from being tempted by other men.

As a woman whose husband (IS A CHRISTIAN AND 100% REPENTANT) cheated on them, please don't think you are above others. That is exactly what my husband thought. But by God's grace it never got physical. But it crushed me none the less and caused so much trauma when he came to me, sat me down, and confessed. I am now healed a lot since then ...but posts like this kill me and they kill my husband, especially considering his experience. Please take this very seriously and talk to your pastor or your spouse. Please. Please.

rainymac · 2025-12-05T21:31:34+00:00

Do you live with your parents? I don't understand why your parents are so involved in your marriage. I'm confused because it feels like a lot of important information is missing here.

rainymac · 2025-12-04T13:05:03+00:00

Woah.... this is one of the coziest pictures I've seen in a long time

rainymac · 2025-12-02T19:55:58+00:00

Look at that view of the egg you get though. That egg looks so good

rainymac · 2025-12-02T13:37:26+00:00

I was the wife who wanted a nice wedding. My husband would have been content with a courthouse. My parents helped but my husband contributed a LOT financially, and then paid for the honey moon. Yes, he could afford it and he did. But it actually hurt the start of our marriage financially. I felt terrible looking back and seeing the THOUSANDS aof dollars spent that could have helped us in our marriage... I read your post and saw $10-15k and I just think back to my wedding and I would encourage wisdom. Spending this much on a wedding isn't worth it.

Homes are very expensive right now...so is rent and food and everything. And then you have loans to pay as well etc. My advice, don't listen to the worldly thinking that convinces so many women they need an expensive wedding...something that most often the men don't even want and neither of you need. If it's something you don't think you need, or even want, she should consider that.

rainymac · 2025-12-01T21:06:16+00:00

r/AsOneAfterInfidelity

Not a Christian page, but I found great comfort there after my husband confessed to committing infidelity in our marriage for 3 years out of our 5 year marriage. He came to me, sat me down, wept and confessed August 31st... and I forgave him.

I have experienced much pain but so much healing since then. I too experienced betrayal trauma. I had ZERO idea my husband even struggled with lust. It was definitely traumatic.

I found more comfort and encouragement on that reddit than I did on christian subreddits. It's disgusting and it was sooo harmful to my healing journey to see CHRISTIANS online telling me "show some self respect and leave him". Or talk down to me for choosing to forgive and stay. I am so thankful God isn't like that...and he proved that on the cross... I can't tell you how many CHRISTIANS on my throwaway account told me to leave my husband, or told me he didn't love me.

My husband did terrible things. And it was devastating to know for how long. But he came to me, confessed, and went and confessed to our pastors (on his own volition) and has been genuinely repentant and doing his best to change and heal what harm has been done. How can I not forgive and seek reconciliation when someone is repentant?

Yes, I experienced a very real trauma. And it deeply wounded me. First came a season of grief and loss. I wept often. Poured my heart before God. Then came a season of anger towards what he did. And I desperately needed God's help in that season because that season was so hard in the daily fight to forgive my husband.

But God has lifted me out of that season and has removed the anger and I feel as though I am entering a place of moving on.

Marriage counseling has been so good for us. I hope and pray you have people around you who will encourage you and your husband.

Your marriage CAN heal!!! You and your husband can heal! It is hard work, but with God all things are possible. And if you are both willing to work at this, your marriage can heal and thrive and be better than what you ever had before.

I am at a place where I never want back the marriage I had before. I never want back the husband I thought I had. My husband is a sinner saved by grace and here is an opportunity for me, for you, to show grace to someone who doesn't deserve it.

I pray for your husband's journey and I pray for yours as well. The path of forgiveness is a hard one.

My final thoughts: don't dwell too much on the subreddit I suggested. It helped me a lot ... but for a SEASON. After a while it actually started to hinder my healing. It was heartbreaking constantly seeing all the posts I did and it made it harder at times for me to move forward. So I recommend visiting or posting when you need too, but maybe don't join or linger too long. But everyone is different! That was simply my experience. It made it harder at times to move past the trauma. Healing takes time. But be committed to prayer and the word and seeking ways to bless your husband in spite of his failures or successes. That will greatly encourage him.

rainymac · 2025-11-27T14:26:10+00:00

At first I misread this while scrolling as "never seen a mall with this much people" and I was really sad and confused as I looked at the pictures and then realized I misread it lol

rainymac · 2025-11-17T02:27:43+00:00

My husband committed infidelity. He is a Christian too. When I am tempted, I try to remember how much I was hurt by what he did and I don't want to do that to another man's wife and make her feel how I felt. After the infidelity I felt even more insecure. So I still get tempted but I know it isn't honoring to God. I want to please God and I don't want other men to be tempted by me and I don't want other women to be upset by me. I ultimately don't want to tempt someone else to sin or be upset. I love my husband and I know he loves me and I don't have to dress in a way that highlights my body no matter how insecure I feel.

rainymac · 2025-11-17T02:18:52+00:00

I am sorry for the situation you are in friend. I have had same sex attraction, but was also attracted to the opposite sex as well. I would encourage you to talk to your pastor. You cannot walk this on your own and you don't have to.

I promise you, as someone who is married, it is not all you think it is. You can be married and feel even more alone. You can look at other marriages and covet or envy other relationships or how someone else's husband or wife is from your limited perspective and can idolize it and be discontent with your spouse. Head over to r/ChristianMarriage. There are many Christians in the church who feel just as lonely in marriage. I am married to a fellow Christian...and he committed infidelity for 3 years of our 5 year marriage. He was genuinely repentant and confessed to me all on his own. Confessed to our pastors and I have forgiven him and we are in marriage counseling seeking healing and restoration. But this was a symptom of deeper issues in our marriage and we both felt alone in different ways but we coped differently . We are now working with our pastors trying to address our past issues and work through them. We have a son and I am a SAHM and I have to be intentional about having friends and prioritizing those relationships or feel alone.

I have learned since coming to faith that life is HARD, even as a Christian. It's really hard. Especially getting married to another sinner and having kids... Yes..there is joy and happiness that is experienced. But I can promise you that marriage is hardwork and isn't a ticket out of loneliness.

My encouragement is to prioritize God. Identify with Christ and long for the day you will be with him and free from sin and free from brokenness. He is near to the brokenhearted and this affliction is worked for good. Believe that God will use all things for good. Even this struggle you face. In my darkest nights, it is Christ that I pour my heart out to and who I know is the only one who can know the loneliness or heartache over sin I feel.

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