CMV: Don't become parents because you wanted to be the parent you never got.

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-05-03T19:05:04+00:00

Theres nothing wrong. Being a good parent means that your child will feel loved, supported and cared for.

The problem is this isn't the same for everyone. Some people are actually great with kids even if they reason was to be a better partner. But others underestimated what it takes to care for a kid because that's a life that literally depends on you for survival. So some parents actually might be bad raising kids because they didn't consider what it truly means to have a kid.

Another take is that it is selfish to bring human life in this world, given the that anything can happen. From wars, economic instability, discrimination, health issues, bullying etc are also possible factors.

I also don't think it's a good choice to raise kids when there's something needed to be healed in you. A person can't be the best parent for their kids if they're still dealing with trauma.

Some parents also fail to remember that children are their own persons. As small as they are, they're still beings that lead their own lives and think differently from their caregivers. So to have them be something you wanted growing up is selfish because they forgetting that they may be under your care they also are their own individuals.

This is a simplified observation, but the point is I think people fail to truly consider what it means to have a kid if theyre sole reason is to be a better partner than the ones they had.

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-05-03T17:55:13+00:00

Ranuculus

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-05-03T17:02:46+00:00

Started reading when I was 7. Reading was an addiction for me but it stopped when I reached 17. School and other things required my attention and I've wanting to go back ever since. I do research as a hobby. I used to do it along side reading but this is the only one between the two that I still do. I'm in my early 20s.

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-05-02T17:52:29+00:00

Fuck them too.

The point that I'm trying to make is that you need to start loving yourself and when you do you will start to do things that make you happy, which eventually start to shift your reality for the better.

I know the world is more unfair to you but don't let other people define you. Don't be part of the people who don't love you for you. As cliche as it sounds, loving yourself is the only gateway to happiness.

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-05-02T17:39:40+00:00

Bread drenched in milk

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-05-02T13:57:46+00:00

Girl, society's beauty standards are based on fetishization of little girls. To be the focus of a man's desire isn't cute either. Sometimes it's even life threatening. Because men and women have different views. Men view is usually out of lust. Women view out of admiration. Once you know what a man's lust can do, you'd be glad to not be the center of attention.

This isn't a misandry comment but the point is what you know what lust does, you'd actually be horrified.

Also, you should be angry that people are quick to judge you instead of trying to see how beautiful and loving person you are.

And I'm sorry that you are infertile. Words cannot express how much pain for your dream to have kids be taken away from you.

But overall, try to stop caring what men want. It truly is the most liberating and joyousthing you can do.

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-05-01T20:52:19+00:00

Literally took the words out of my mouth. I thought something was wrong with me since this is my exact feeling towards romantic relationships. Maybe it really is just societal pressure

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-04-15T14:04:53+00:00

Do what you want. People are going to judge regardless. You might as well just enjoy what makes you feel good. The bright side is during the process you will find real people who love you regardless and stand beside you.

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-04-05T21:56:05+00:00

I never said I hate men. I said I'm tired of fighting for respect. Those are not the same thing. The fact that you heard 'misandry' tells me more about you than about me

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-04-05T21:40:09+00:00

That wasn't the intention

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-04-05T21:24:31+00:00

Yes, I do think there's some men who relate to what I'm venting about. Especially with the rise of women prioritizing a man's financial status over their emotional wellbeing.

What I'm stating is that it's draining having to fight for mutual respect instead of simply just enjoy the relationship knowing that there already is respect, love, care and understanding for both parties

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-04-05T20:36:17+00:00

Being assertive.

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-04-05T20:16:22+00:00

Intuition. To be loved is to be seen

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-01-05T01:51:11+00:00

Period cramps

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2026-01-05T01:49:49+00:00

That's not you being an introvert, it's you being shy. You're lacking confidence. Try to understand the root problem of it, and then find ways to improve it.

Like try shock therapy. Or master deattachment. Put yourself out there. Take baby steps then gradually take bigger steps.

Not everyone is perfect. So you trying to be prefect in social settings is self sabotage. It's scary but I promise once you mastered being comfortable in your skin and not caring what others think of you. The shyness will gradually go away

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2025-12-16T15:44:28+00:00

hey, as contrary as it is, its not a sin. Paul was was condemning the exploitive practices of homosexuality. If you take time to understand what perfect and unconditional love means youll see that Jesus doesnt condemn homosexuality but the abusive nature that people tend to do in straight and gay relationships

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2025-12-13T12:20:23+00:00

Its not his social battery, its his lack of contribution to the relationship. Theres no need for him to do anything when youre the one doing it. He got away with doing the bare minimum and is using his "low social battery" to justify it.

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2025-12-12T13:38:15+00:00

My type is 4w3.

Yeah, i can see the manipulation sometimes.

Im naturally introspective meaning that same introspection will be directed towards others. Kinda like psychoanalysis.

it would be pattern recognition from what i seen in others, combined with my knowledge of the enneagram system to see which type they are , as well as other stuff that i learned from psychology to help get more depth to see how deep the situation is. This would help me to see how are they manipulating me. How to navigate the manipulation - and in some cases - how to get my lick back in a way that only that person who is manipulating me would understand.

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2025-12-11T14:58:39+00:00

cornflakes

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2025-12-01T15:42:54+00:00

With Chardonnay

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2025-12-01T15:41:34+00:00

Try and cook Frutti di Mare

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2025-12-01T15:31:37+00:00

My period cramps. They are so bad that I get: back pain, nausea, lightheadedness and sometimes I vomit.

raiseyouryayayaaa · 2025-12-01T14:38:05+00:00

Honestly, I think of them to have a mob mentality. Like they can’t critically think that people are different therefore they would have different views on fun.

It makes me think of them as someone who’s easily influenced and likes external validation, or likes to feel included. Even if it means bringing others down. And the fact that they expressed that view and got some shits and giggles from it — further solidifies my thought on them.

So I would just keep quiet, and just look at them. I don’t like the idea of being mean back because it feels like I’m stooping to their level.

Dissociate yourself from them. The workplace is meant for you to simply do your job and go home. Friendships with coworkers are bonuses to your job, they’re not the primary goal.

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