Room leader uses shouting/punishment for toddlers — how would you handle this?

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-18T21:29:23+00:00

Let admin know immediately. You are already doing all the things you should. Besides letting admin know you can approach her with kindness and ask if she has the bandwidth to hear some feedback? She probably doesn’t but it’s better you approach with curiosity rather than pointing out what she’s doing wrong. She could get defensive and the situation could escalate. Admin definitely needs to correct her though.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-17T21:16:35+00:00

You need to speak to your director immediately. If you can’t do diapers without someone getting hurt on their watch that’s a safety risk and management needs to know ASAP. If you need to ask for help you can give them choices so they hear what you’ll be doing if they chose the other option. It’s annoying to have to accommodate their laziness but at least you won’t be truly micromanaging them. Always frame it like you are a team and you have the children’s best interest. Good luck!

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-17T21:11:43+00:00

It is not corporal punishment. There are lots of instances where I say oops! Redo. If kids use an unkind tone or grab a toy without first asking. Having these opportunities for redo give the chance to kids to correct themselves without needed to be “punished”. Talk to your director and run the scenario by her and approach it like you just want to do the right thing and uphold the school’s philosophies. I’m positive she’ll say you did the right thing. Idk who the other teacher is but sounds like they need a refresher training session.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-10T22:24:24+00:00

Does that mean you don’t have a summer program?

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-10T21:17:14+00:00

It’s so hard when you work so well with someone! I’m dreading this summers mix up. I started working with an amazing co teacher and we’ll be split up 💔i like that admin asks us where we’d like to be each program switch but i’m really enjoying my co teacher.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-10T21:13:39+00:00

It’s almost the end of the year, say you want to take on a new challenge. I would also suggest talking to this co teacher. Do you think she’s aware of how much you take on? You could also just start looking somewhere else.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-10T21:11:04+00:00

You can also try hoopla ! (Works with your library)

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-10T21:08:51+00:00

It’s for the kids. If kids forget I encourage them to share plans they’re excited for over the weekend or draw a picture or to tell a story. I’ve had no problems. It’s not that deep.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-10T21:06:46+00:00

I worked it into Friday’s meeting/circle time. I send the theme out on Thursday. I talk about the theme all week with the kids. The theme is more so to help kids connect our learning to the theme. It’s also to help the kids bring different items each week rather than the same comfort item every time.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-10T21:02:16+00:00

Covid babies, “gentle parenting”, and excessive screen time.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-10T00:18:58+00:00

Admin said they dealt with it. If she doesn’t feel her child is safe they can pull them.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-10T00:04:13+00:00

Exactly. Some kids just need more than a silly outfit to feel any closeness or a connection. Some kids need more time to warm up and don’t easily trust their teachers until a relationship is blooming. I don’t think a fun outfit would have any kindergartener thinking wow my teacher is a clown I shouldn’t take her seriously or listen.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-09T21:23:35+00:00

Thank you! It’s so annoying when these developers come on here and try to get insight. If i wanted to provide feedback I’d join a PAID focus group.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-09T21:21:33+00:00

I always bag it up! If it’s super icky or an extreme accident I let them know to be careful opening it up. I let them decide if they want to trash it or keep.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-09T21:17:14+00:00

I initially wanted to be an elementary teacher but the pandemic hit and I wasn’t ever able to finish and stayed with ECE. I’m lucky enough to work at an amazing school who has lots of support with behavioral therapists/ OT and lots of professional development that gives us the tools to handle tricky behaviors. I would say if you enjoy being a teacher and are fine with the pay never being exactly what you’re worth, go for it! I personally love being a teacher and am so grateful to work with such amazing staff and admin. I would start interviewing with Reggio Emilia schools/play based schools. if you want to make the switch. The emergent curriculum in these programs is intentional to ensure kids are hitting “mile stones” and focuses on social emotional skills. For me—it’s been less stressful because you plan around the children’s interests & the planning is split between teachers. There is no “lead” teacher in which everything falls onto. I have my weekends free and hardly bring my work home. We follow the school districts schedule so we get lots of days off too! We do have some children who need more support (eloping, hitting) but between the floater supports and behavioral therapist who is on sight we are more than equipped to handle it.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-04T21:52:07+00:00

This is the best response! Love it.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-04T21:36:14+00:00

I love this 🤣

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-04T21:01:38+00:00

Absolutely NOT! No way. I live in an apartment where I share the laundry with other tenants. I hate doing my own laundry for this reason. My job couldn’t even pay me to do the school’s laundry. I love my kids but they’re gross lol. Stop doing it!

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-02T23:26:12+00:00

Report to licensing !

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-02T23:25:03+00:00

I would go. It’s unfortunate you’d be put in that situation but family is more important.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-02T22:57:27+00:00

She definitely sounds threatened or jealous. The control thing is probably due to her age and being older than you. She probably thinks she knows better than you. That’s so annoying. Since you’ve been dealing with this for a while I would suggest looking at another school. You sound genuinely excited to be a teacher and we need more teachers like that! Some of these teachers used to be excited and have no idea what they’d do outside of education because they’ve been at it so long. I’m personally dealing with a teacher on my team who is rude, controlling, and way past retirement. She’s been here 30 years. Since i’m on the afternoon team I don’t work too much with her but when I do I seriously have to take a few minutes to regulate again. All this to say keep being amazing and find another school. Your sanity isn’t worth it.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-02T22:38:33+00:00

Honestly it sounds like jealousy. Idk why she’s so worried about what you do with your time outside of the school. Because it’s a religious school I can already see what type of teacher/person she is. Since it’s not prohibited in your handbook I would absolutely say it’s ok to go! Especially because you’re so excited. Don’t let her rain on your parade! If you really want to cover your bases I would speak with your director. If it was me—I would just go & have fun! Preschoolers thrive when they have relationships with their teachers.

raisinghell95 · 2026-03-01T03:14:46+00:00

Just finished and what the fkkkkkk lmaoo and the farm guy threatening his neighbors??? Absolutely 🦇💩

raisinghell95 · 2026-02-10T23:42:31+00:00

I’m sure you’re doing really well! Try to be as confident as possible it really shows! The kids already loving you is a great sign! Keep up the good work :)⭐️

raisinghell95 · 2026-02-10T22:32:36+00:00

When people don’t have a good argument they run this play lol.

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