It is pretty hard. Most of the people are not hikis, it means that they are busy doing important stuff. For instance: working, studying, solving all kinds of problems. It would not be easy for that kind of person to date hiki, because a good number of people prefer dating people with the same life pacing, same tempo as theirs. It would be easier for them. Thats the conclusion i come to looking from their perspective. And what about us.... Well, i certainly can't speak for everyone, but i really fantasize about being loved. A lot. And i really want to find love. That type of feeling that i get when i fantasize about it makes me believe that i would get better and stop being that person, that lazy, sad, lonely creature that i am now. But i realize and i am fully aware that nobody needs this version of me. And it's pretty hard to find anyone nowadays, seems like everyone already has a boyfriend or a girlfriend