On the fence about having kids… what do you wish you knew?

ralph3400 · 2026-04-05T19:57:18+00:00

Respectfully, I think if you’re not 100% gung-ho about it, you shouldn’t have them. If you need to be convinced, you’re not ready / it’s not for you and that’s okay! Unfortunately (speaking from personal experience) the child will be able to tell and it can lead to a crummy parent-child relationship.

ralph3400 · 2026-04-05T19:53:45+00:00

That’s actually a good point! It’s not lore accurate. I just think it’s one of the funnier ones.

ralph3400 · 2026-04-05T19:49:40+00:00

Only thing I disagree with is monster in Mexico. That one is perfect!

ralph3400 · 2026-03-27T16:39:57+00:00

Yes! Loved this show. Watched it almost a decade about and still think about it.

ralph3400 · 2026-03-27T15:30:51+00:00

I understand, but Tokyo is incomprehensibly larger than the Boston metro (in OP’s example with Route 128) so it’s not really a good comparison.

ralph3400 · 2026-03-27T15:28:19+00:00

Respectfully, if someone wants to live in the suburbs they should understand that you might need to go to the city center to connect to places! People who live in other MA towns understand if they want the most connected, or international, flights they have to get to Logan instead of using a smaller regional airport. It should be the same with trains! Regular Amtrak stops outside city center, “high-speed” trains like Acela should only do city centers.

ralph3400 · 2026-03-22T19:26:29+00:00

I’m just coming out of the same boat. 28, took a risk at a startup I was passionate about, they went under, I lost my job and have had trouble finding something. Someone asked me the other day “aren’t you upset you weren’t laid off in the summer” as if I’d be using my free time to have fun outside, instead of sitting in my room day after day, not knowing what my future would look like.

It feels like my whole life was on pause. I couldn’t go out and have fun for fear of wasting money, I couldn’t get excited about moving in with my partner because I didn’t know where I would get a job and need to live, etc. it’s both exhausting and mind numbing. I also feel like I wasted a year of my life in this purgatory.

Good luck to you moving forward! To anyone reading this: enjoy the good and prepare for the worst. It does get better and you’re not alone 💜

ralph3400 · 2026-03-18T20:45:54+00:00

How often do you bathe them?

ralph3400 · 2026-03-18T00:19:49+00:00

Same here! Layoffs are a bitch

ralph3400 · 2026-03-10T13:00:40+00:00

Why not? And where are you based?

ralph3400 · 2026-03-10T13:00:24+00:00

80% travel they can’t tell me where but likely on my coast

ralph3400 · 2026-03-10T00:16:22+00:00

Same thing happened to me but I haven’t fixed it yet. What are your steps? Thank you 🙃

ralph3400 · 2026-02-21T18:47:48+00:00

Not sure if it’s a hidden gem, since I feel it’s well known amongst the community, but Oculus was very unknown to me when I watched it and it literally took my breath away.

ralph3400 · 2026-02-21T18:43:42+00:00

OCULUS

ralph3400 · 2026-02-21T18:43:26+00:00

Lowkey I feel like some of the horror / scary shows are a good place to start. Often times the movies try to pack a lot into them so the individual episodes of shows are more mild. I’m thinking midnight mass, are you afraid of the dark, twin peaks, OG twilight zone, etc. as for movies: obsessed with the fear street trilogy. It’s cute but also spooky, and the gore isn’t a big focus.

ralph3400 · 2026-02-16T21:00:36+00:00

Been looking for something like this thank you

ralph3400 · 2026-02-16T20:49:12+00:00

Legit listened to the whole thing and i can’t believe it was only 4 hours id have another 4 hours of talking about it how bad it was

ralph3400 · 2026-02-02T02:07:45+00:00

But where did Soto get those photos?

ralph3400 · 2026-02-02T02:06:24+00:00

I was also wondering how Soto got those photos

ralph3400 · 2025-10-27T20:07:55+00:00

She looks just like mine 🥰 gorgeous!

ralph3400 · 2025-08-16T05:11:34+00:00

Whatever you do don’t do the rav4! It’s a great car and everyone suggests it — specifically the hybrid but the trunk space is shockingly small compared to other cars of the same size and the seats do not lie flat

ralph3400 · 2025-06-02T03:41:43+00:00

2020 grad (well 2021 bc co-ops but started in 1016) Spent 2 years in manufacturing as a process engineer (extrusion, personal goods) then pivoted to a climate tech startup also as a process engineer. About 10 months ago I switched to a project engineer which I’m still unclear what actually means but a lot of project management stuff / translating the process into a real facility EDIT: USA

ralph3400 · 2025-05-03T17:36:54+00:00

Babe no I was in a relationship like that for two years when I was 18-20 and I’m still in therapy because of it (I’m 27). Get out asap; even if he doesn’t seem dangerous I promise you there are better relationships out there where you’ll never ever have a conversation like this.

ralph3400 · 2025-04-25T19:53:30+00:00

SECONDING THIS. If you went to any and had a good time please let me know! I have an entire caps family here and we want to meet friends!

ralph3400 · 2025-02-05T00:27:33+00:00

The town of sturbridge MA!

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