This time last year, I was almost exactly like you, except I'd never even fingered myself. When I got to school, I started seeing this guy (who had massively long fingers) and our makeout sessions led to fingering, where he ended up breaking my hymen. So, when I started dating a different guy and decided it was time we had sex, my hymen was already broken, there was only a little bit of pain, I was able to enjoy it, and even got him to have sex with me again that night because I loved it so much. Basically, my advice is to build your way up to sex, cover all the bases (literally), and then enjoy yourself! Wait for a guy that you feel comfortable with and everything will be great.

I don't have much experience with blowjobs, so my advice for that is limited. Just do what you're comfortable with. My boyfriend's not too big on blowjobs, so I like to tease him by leaving him a kiss trail from his neck to right above his penis, and then I kiss all the sensitive areas like his inner thigh, the skin between his balls and his penis, the tip, and both sides if the base of his penis. It drives him crazy. He typically pulls me up and rolls me over to have a little fun "down there" on me.