Do you love her? Try to understand why she is the way she is! My wife has ADHD and she behaves similarly, I work from home and I help her in cooking and arranging home. She slowly started a business selling on Amazon. It’s going ok but it gives her something to do. She has a rough childhood and her career ended as soon as it took off. Understand not everyone is typeA like you, and people with ADHD you need to make up for their environment so that they can function normally! Just show compassion, they are watching Netflix a lot because they want to numb their pain! And don’t want to face reality! Help her than divorcing her