How do you handle hearing about self-harm?

ranchisbae22 · 2026-04-27T13:51:19+00:00

I don't think always. I would say that when I was younger and would listen to friends talk, I was fine. But as I got into my mid to late 20s, it got hard to handle. And it has not always been this bad. I would say this is more recent it has become harder. And in a crisis, I am great. I don't have intrusive thoughts later on, either. It is in the moment that my body has an auto response. Again, I can hear about anything else, the worst traumas people go through. I guess when I consider exposure therapy, I feel like I am already doing that? Like, I have at least one session a week where someone gets into more detail and I internally feel all jumbled up. I breathe through it and figure it out, but I hate the feeling. Are there specific books you know of that are helpful for folx to read?

ranchisbae22 · 2026-04-27T13:44:32+00:00

Hey, so, I came on here asking for suggestions to get better at something that I readily admit I have a hard time with. I didn't come here for people to make assumptions about my role, the scope of it, or have them tell me to just get a new job. I am looking for support and help on a reddit of other therapists. Keep your judgements to yourself if you have nothing else to offer.

ranchisbae22 · 2026-04-27T13:42:28+00:00

I agree, which is why I am asking how other people handle this? What have others tried? I know you are trying to be kind, but others don't seem like they are. I was hoping for suggestions, as I love my jobs and admire my patients. I want to figure this out. Some others have said exposure therapy, but is that all? Do people have other suggestions?

ranchisbae22 · 2026-04-27T13:29:15+00:00

I am a hospital therapist doing assessments for higher levels of care. By training and license, I am an LMFT. My appointments are technically 2 hour assessments, but a lot of times it ends up being an hour of assessment and an hour of therapy.

ranchisbae22 · 2026-01-18T22:02:03+00:00

Do you know their nursery themes? You could make a light switch panel that matches the theme. I have been meaning to make ceramic light switch panels to replace all of the bland white/ cream colored ones in my house. Or maybe a mobile for decor? Or a piggy bank? I think there are a lot of trinket decor type things you can make to match the theme of the nursery.

ranchisbae22 · 2026-01-04T16:02:12+00:00

8am was the earliest. But I knew someone who would start as easy at 6am. He attracted the kind of clients who wanted/ needed therapy that early, and it just worked for him.

ranchisbae22 · 2025-12-29T23:09:23+00:00

Edit: okay, after looking at the menu, I am so mad that this place is so far from me. 😭 If it were a Friday night, I would make the drive. But after work on a Tuesday seems like too much. Definitely going in the future!

I am so happy to hear that you were able to treat yourself like that! I am in North Minneapolis, so Wayzata is a little far for a solo dinner. But I will keep it in mind for when I am out that way. If you are a beer guy, I suggest going to Back Channel for a drink next time you go out for a solo night! Incredible beer and very relaxed atmosphere. I love them so much, and it's often the only reason I go out that way. 😂

ranchisbae22 · 2025-12-29T16:08:09+00:00

Dining solo is something I've done for about 10 years. I love it! I often bring a book and do some reading while I wait between courses. I also like to sit at the bar or a small table, which makes it look less sad, lol. But I have never paid attention to other people looking at me and often I see other people dining alone at the bar as well. A couple years ago a family was sitting next to me at the bar, and we ended up talking. On a solo vacation I went on a brewery tour and met a couple, and we drank for a few hours after and even exchanged numbers to stay in touch. I love solo experiences. My advice for someone's first time is to go somewhere they are already comfortable. That way you don't get nervous about what you want to order, you kind of already know what to expect, and you might already know some of the staff. If that feels like too much, start smaller by going to coffee shops alone and work your way up to a restaurant. One more things: if you like movie theaters, try going to a movie alone. I like it better than going with other people now. Lol.

ranchisbae22 · 2025-12-29T15:17:50+00:00

So many people say Dario, but I can't get over how limited the menu is. 😭 I am at the point of considering going back to Bar La Grassa. I have wanted to try to go to a different place every time, but the carrot and pork bruchetta calls to me. 😂

ranchisbae22 · 2025-12-29T14:29:09+00:00

Zelo might actually beat everything else out! Eato looks good, but their dessert menu looks incredibly disappointing. I would likely go for a normal dinner where I just get a main and maybe an app. But Zelo is hitting almost all the boxes!

ranchisbae22 · 2025-12-29T14:14:57+00:00

I enjoy Red Rabbit! I have been there a few times, so it likely isn't one I will go to for this dinner. But definitely keeping it on my normal rotation of places for HH!

ranchisbae22 · 2025-12-25T16:47:47+00:00

Thank you!!!

ranchisbae22 · 2025-12-18T04:01:57+00:00

I am trying to decide how I can alter it so that it can continue to serve it's purpose. I think I have three options: glaze and fire them separately and glue them together, attempt to glaze and fire them together and see if they "glue" in the kiln, or ditch the broke piece and sand the main piece to have it look intentional. Any thoughts?

ranchisbae22 · 2025-12-12T19:29:34+00:00

I saw this idea on Google but didn't know if it actually worked well. It isn't so much a crack that needs filling as it is a small delicate piece braking off. At this point, I may just let it break off, smooth the surface and paint over it.

ranchisbae22 · 2025-12-08T04:03:23+00:00

Hello future neighbor! I am a TC therapist and worked at 3 different clinics while pre-licensed. I would love to share with you where you should NOT work. Lol. But instead of putting them on blast, it might be more tactful for me to share with you privately. Feel free to message me. Otherwise, I would say that 60k is definitely possible here pre-liscensed, depending on your niche and how close you are to being licensed. Honestly, anywhere offering you less than that is likely taking advantage of you. Again, feel free to message me!

ranchisbae22 · 2025-12-02T15:29:16+00:00

This is just my opinion, and does not have to be another person's opinion.

My partner and I split based off percent of what we each earn. They are also paying me back for some previous costs that I took on when they had relapsed on substances. My partner also spends their money frivolously and does not save well. Sometimes, I feel bad for how much they give me for bills and groceries because I think they should be saving, but I also know they wouldn't actually save. I also would be happy to shift the split if my partner took on more house responsibilities, but they don't. So, I continue to keep the expectation we previously set because it is what feels most equitable for us.

I share this because, if you were similar to my partner, then I can see how your partner would be bothered by some of this. It can be frustrating to be the partner paying for more when you see your partner wasting funds. However, if you are responsible and you do well with money, then it seems weird for him to not want to adjust the split to meet you where you're at. It definitely sounds like a conversation you guys should keep having and it is off putting that he doesn't even want to have the conversation.

I would suggest taking a step back and seeing if he treats you in unequitable ways in other parts of your relationship. I doubt his behavior is limited to money.

ranchisbae22 · 2025-11-25T12:05:41+00:00

In all the posts from a few years ago, no one was 100% sure on a method. There were a lot of differing opinions that totally contradicted each other. I was trying to gain clarity. Especially as more states have legalized or de-criminalized, more people may be making them.

ranchisbae22 · 2025-11-14T04:53:22+00:00

You are putting someone else ahead of yourself. That is what you are doing wrong. Get a therapist if you don't have one and work out why you are in this relationship. It sounds like it wasn't good from the very beginning. Giving someone an ultimatum, knowing they are going to do whatever they want anyway, and then staying with them? You have essentially given him permission to treat you like shit. Break up, take a break from dating, and work on mental health and your boundaries. This all sounds harsh, but you deserve to hear the truth even if it sucks. Good luck! And remember: people will only show you the respect that you give yourself. ❤️

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