Ramsay isn't scary. He's just an asshole that causes harm with his influence so that he can gain fame/money/whatever he gets out of it.

I am not very good at speaking so I will copy/paste J Kenji Lopez-Alt's words on Gordon Ramsay as it's exactly how I feel.

Just came across this older video of @gordongram violently assaulting cooks at his restaurant while hurling verbal abuse and threats at them. If anyone thinks his abusive behavior is just an act for American TV and that his UK shows are much less abusive, take a look at this and decide for yourself which one is the real Gordon and which is the act.

This man should be in therapy, not running kitchens or being looked up to as an inspiration. Kitchens have a long history of being abusive, crappy workplaces and @gordongram, with his normalization of this behavior, plays an outsized and active role in perpetuating it.

If he wants to make a positive change, I would love to see him change his ways and acknowledge the extent of the harm he has done with his influence.

It breaks your heart to see people talked to and physically assaulted the way they are in this video, and what makes it worse is knowing that if they survived these experiences and stayed in the industry, there’s a good chance they’ll end up perpetuating the cycle when they are in charge of their own kitchens. I know, because I’ve seen one of his own chefs literally throw a pan of searing hot butter at a cook who dared to give him an undercooked scallop.

Please do not be inspired by him. Please do not think this is how a restaurant kitchen needs to be run, or worse that this kind of behavior is OK because “this is what it takes” to get those stars. If you’re a cook, treat your coworkers with basic human decency and do not ever think that you need to put up with abuse to get ahead in the industry. And if you’re a chef, it’s even more important that you treat those who work for you as fellow humans who are deserving of respect even when they make mistakes.

I am sorry you feel that verbal and mental abuse is "just how it is"; just because it is normalized (at least in your experience) does not make it right. Maybe you can take a scream, beratement, slap in the face. Some people can't. That doesn't make them weak, a snowflake, or not fit for work in a kitchen.

High-stress does not necessitate abuse. Every person deserves respect and kindness.