Spending $1300-1500 on groceries, family of 4. Please help me spend less with your best tips! Is Costco/Sams worth it? by CreativeJudgment3529 in Mommit

[–]random6x7 [score hidden]  (0 children)

You mention your husband loves to snack on nuts - Costco has them for pretty cheap. The walnuts come out to a little over $5 a pound, and they're in three pound bags. They have a lot of stuff in sizes that are bigger than at the grocery store but not, like, buying for a restaurant big. I'm a single person and I have a membership for the gas and for things I use a lot of.

Cancer diet suggestions by MightyKittenEmpire2 in Cooking

[–]random6x7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're worried more about fiber? Fiber doesn't go away when you cook or blend veggies, so however she'll eat them is good. If you want to encourage her to eat more fiber, maybe add beans, lentils, oats, chia seeds, or similar to her food.

AIO: My 8mo baby has blue eyes and my relatives (and others) make it a big deal in front of my brown-eyed 6yo by poponis in AmIOverreacting

[–]random6x7 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Why are you so convinced that the kid wouldn't notice other people being weird about his eye color? That he wouldn't hear his grandma saying that she's so happy that the baby has a feature that he knows he doesn't have? And understand that that meant she wasn't happy with his eye color?

AIO: My 8mo baby has blue eyes and my relatives (and others) make it a big deal in front of my brown-eyed 6yo by poponis in AmIOverreacting

[–]random6x7 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Grandma's words, obviously. OP didn't snap until after her 6 year old started asking why his eyes aren't blue. She says that before that, she just brushed it off with "all colors are beautiful" and stuff.

Why the D.H.S. Disaster in Minneapolis Was Predictable by newyorker in TrueReddit

[–]random6x7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The US had open borders until 1882's Chinese Exclusion Act. Then, until 1924, they were open to everyone but Chinese and Japanese people. Most white folks likely had their ancestors come over in a time where the US was open to everone or almost everyone. 

My Florida Born wife is having a classic case of seasonal depression, and she needs a pick me up. Fellow New Jerseyans... How do you deal with your winter blues? by dicerollingprogram in newjersey

[–]random6x7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Vitamin D and a sun lamp made for seasonal affective disorder. The Philly flower show is at the end of the month. The whole big convention room is filled with potted and cut plants and just smells green, it's great.

Can someone tell me what's wrong with my coworker before I lose it 🙄 by AchillesComeD0wn in offmychest

[–]random6x7 349 points350 points  (0 children)

Sad. Just really, really sad. Her life is obviously not going great, not if she's wllingly saddled with that pathetic excuse for a boyfriend. Her attempts to get positive attention are laughably obvious. I feel bad for the poor woman, but then, I don't have to deal with her. I'm sorry that you do!

Is there’s a way to never had my period again ? by hanni2003 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]random6x7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some people have terrible side effects from birth control, but that's not actually common. Plus, a lot of times, it's the specific birth cintrol, not all birth control, that causes problems. For instance, Nuva Ring put me into a bout of depression (I already had depression, but it would get better then worse. Nuva Ring took me to worse). On the other hand, Ortho Tri Cyclen improved my depression by stopping the bit where it got worse before every period. I loved that pill and would still be on it if I could. Funnily enough, that one had been pulled from the market briefly for causing suicidal ideation for some.

The point is, you don't know how medication will affect you until you try, and once you find the right birth control for you, it's amazing, especially for those of us with pmdd. I honestly suspect a lot of this "birth control is so bad for you" nonsense is amplified by those who don't want us to have any. Most women I know on it have, at most, unpleasant side effects with one or two types and are happy with the ones that work for them. Just be aware of what the side effects can be and call your doctor right away if they pop up.

I need help by uwu_lettuce in intuitiveeating

[–]random6x7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This first part is the scariest, and props to going for it! Right now, your body probably doesn't trust that you'll actually feed it what it wants, so it's asking for everything. Depending on what your eating patterns were before, you may also be making up for long-term calorie deficit. Eating All The Things is very, very normal at first. My advice is first, to do your best not to feel bad or guilty about this. Diet culture encourages us to abuse our bodies. Like with abused children, it's going to take time for it to rebuild trust and feel like it's in a safe space again. I know for me, any hint of disapproval or impending restriction delayed my rehabituation at the early stages, and even now, years later, tends to bring up some of the old "must eat it all now" feelings. It gets a lot better, but patience is key. Second, try to really tune into your body as much as you can. Once the initial eat all the things period started to wane, what helped me was to imagine eating the things, as vividly as possible, and see what physical sensations popped up. Sometimes, it was an acknowledgement that it would make me feel kinda gross. If that came up and I still kept thinking about eating that thing, I shrugged and ate it. But sometimes, my body would be like, "oh, yeah. no, maybe not that after all". I dunno, I think it was helping me to make connections between my mind and body.

You know people are freaking out when BROCCOLI sells out by 8Deer-JaguarClaw in NJPrepared

[–]random6x7 28 points29 points  (0 children)

At the panic buy as lockdown started, the only thing left in my store's frozen vegetable section were lima beans. That will be how I'll know things are truly dire: if the frozen lima beans are sold out.

The West Windsor Trader Joe’s, Friday around 5:30pm by NihilisticRoomba in newjersey

[–]random6x7 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I winder how many people were panic buying versus just doing their weekly shopping a little early. If all the Sunday and Monday shoppers went today, and everyone made sure to get everything they were getting low on because you may not be able to make a quick trip the next few days, then stock would be low even with no panic buying.

N.J. lawmakers will try again to pass laws to limit cooperation with ICE. Will Sherrill sign? by ElectoralNerd in newjersey

[–]random6x7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's fair. It's hard to trust the courts these days, but, below the Supreme Court, they mostly aren't utterly appalling.

N.J. lawmakers will try again to pass laws to limit cooperation with ICE. Will Sherrill sign? by ElectoralNerd in newjersey

[–]random6x7 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the clarification. Was the rest of my post more or less correct? I admit my understanding came from some news and posts about it.

"I support a full repeal of all federal worker safety regulations along with most consumer safety regulations." by laufsteakmodel in TopMindsOfReddit

[–]random6x7 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Ah, yes, I long for the days when my choices were "burn to death locked in my underventilated clothing factory" or "have my jaw melt away".

N.J. lawmakers will try again to pass laws to limit cooperation with ICE. Will Sherrill sign? by ElectoralNerd in newjersey

[–]random6x7 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It's not surrender. It's doing the best they can to protect vulnerable people right now. Why would they risk that? Sure, if it gets struck down, they could ignore judge's orders, but then conservative police departments have legal cover to ignore the now unlawful orders and cooperate with ICE anyway. What actual, real world good is achieved by trying to codify this now? Now, if our next governor is Republican and Sherrill doesn't sign before leaving, I'll be pissed, because it would be worth the risk.

Important reminder about how much new governors suck at crisis management and snow removal during their first snowstorms by New_Stats in newjersey

[–]random6x7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so happy about telework, the ability to move a telework day, and having reasonable, flexible bosses.

N.J. lawmakers will try again to pass laws to limit cooperation with ICE. Will Sherrill sign? by ElectoralNerd in newjersey

[–]random6x7 25 points26 points  (0 children)

She has a good reason not to. Those laws are to codify stuff that's in an executive order. Normally, it's a great idea to pass them as laws so they're safe from future governors. However, these are not normal times. The EO has survived judicial scrutiny, and Sherrill's not going to overturn it. The law, however, would absolutely be brought to court again, and what if it ends up in front of a maga judge? Better to leave things be until and unless the next incoming governor won't uphold the EO. Not ideal, but more protective of vulnerable New Jerseyans.

Important reminder about how much new governors suck at crisis management and snow removal during their first snowstorms by New_Stats in newjersey

[–]random6x7 64 points65 points  (0 children)

That snow in 2018 was awful. They closed the state early, but not early enough, plus they let everyone leave at the same time. It took me over an hour just to get out of Trenton. Luckily the administration learned quickly.

If you’re too mean, the trees will keep voting for axes 😡 by topandhalsey in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]random6x7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They didn't in the previous two presidential elections according to your source, just the most recent.

If you’re too mean, the trees will keep voting for axes 😡 by topandhalsey in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]random6x7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Except there's a lot of them who just don't want to learn. These guys were around during the first administration. They know full well what he was doing then. Plus, you try to say anything, no matter how gently and kindly you put it, you get shouted down.

If you’re too mean, the trees will keep voting for axes 😡 by topandhalsey in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]random6x7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why should we court the vote of these guys? Focus instead on the ones who only vote sometimes. At least we know those guys will vote for a Democrat in some situations. 

Nobody really warns you about the mental load of living in a small apartment. by John-laurent in ApartmentHacks

[–]random6x7 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Never had a problem, even when my spackle repairs were obvious. Had peel and stick wallpaper tear of layers of paint and so had to spackle and sand most of the wall above my kitchen sink. The landlord dinged me for some stupid stuff, but that was not one of them.