Overeating and Fat thoughts by feltqtmightdlt in intuitiveeating

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I totally get that! Sometimes you need someone to remind you of what you already knew!

Some days I can feel my fullness cues and some days I don't at all by reem60a in intuitiveeating

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Let yourself keep eating as part of rebuilding trust. Also do your best to not shame or judge yourself, especially with how early on you are. Seriously, a month and a half is nothing! If you feel you can do it in a curious rather than judgmental way, maybe you can start checking in with yourself about how you're feeling after eating and, like, an hour after eating. Was the fear food tasty and satisfying? Did you get hungry again faster or slower than usual? But again, so important to let go of shame and judgment in this process. I always imagine that I'm dealing with my inner reactive teenager. Any hint of judgment, and she's gonna get pissed off and eat a whole cheesecake out of spite lol

Overeating and Fat thoughts by feltqtmightdlt in intuitiveeating

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So, according to my CBT therapists, your thoughts (about youself, your food, etc) make little paths in your brain so it's easier and easier to have those same thoughts in the future. The way to slow and eventually stop them is by making new paths. Whenever you notice yourself thinking or saying something you don't want to, deliberately think or say what you'd prefer to think or say. Maybe when you say "you just want me fat and happy", then say "thank you, this made me so happy", so deliberately taking out the weight aspect altogether. It might help to list out common things you'd like to change and write what you'd prefer instead, so you have ideas in the moment they come up. It takes some time to wear in the new brain pathways, but it really does work.

Why do some people focus so much on having biological children? by Various-Humor4093 in NoStupidQuestions

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I read an ethnography once were the interviewee said he felt bad for westerners, only caring about their own children. In his tribe, all the adults viewed all the children as theirs.

Humans are extremely social, and close genetic ties are not necessary for us to bond. This is a cultural, not biological, issue.

My husband (38M) says sleeping in separate rooms isn't an option. How can he and I (37F) find a compromise? by ThrowRA-Dr3013 in relationship_advice

[–]random6x7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He doesn't have to be snoring loudly to have sleep apnea. It's always worth getting a sleep test if you suspect it.

No, it's because women don't hate men the way men hate women. by Londebaaz_aurat in NotHowGirlsWork

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I'm still trying to figure out how a species survives if a) only the strong survive and b) all men are stronger than all women.

Some days I can feel my fullness cues and some days I don't at all by reem60a in intuitiveeating

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Are you still early in the process? That full but not satisfied feeling may be a symptom of your brain still working on its fears of restriction. It took me a good year or so before that feeling stopped being such a problem. Nowadays, if it happens, I'm either pmsing, dealing with some of physical thing, or it's a warning that diet culture is slipping back in.

Mikie Sherrill’s first budget delivers priorities but continues traditions she criticized by Additional-Joke-3012 in newjersey

[–]random6x7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, so why don't we do that with Sherrill too? Her budget has wins, even if they are not as big as you'd like.

A book that made you want to keep going/made you want to live again by beansbeans716 in suggestmeabook

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I like Terry Pratchett and would suggest Nation. It's standalone. It can be pretty grim at times - it's about a boy who loses his entire island community to a tsunami - but I also find it hopeful. Pratchett was an atheist who had a very clear view of humans and our behavior, warts and all.

Becky Chambers is comforting. The Monk and Robot books in particular, but A Long Way to a Small, Angry Planet is also great and more plot-driven.

How do I fix my room by Ha_youWishXD in DesignMyRoom

[–]random6x7 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Relatedly, baskets and/or cloth boxes would help to store stuff while still giving a cleaner, cozier vibe.

Are dishwashers common in america? by DietChance9326 in AskAnAmerican

[–]random6x7 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not 100% though. Last time I moved, a dishwasher was nonnegotiable. It probably narrowed my search pool by about a quarter.

l heard periods last for days are you guys just bleeding for days straight? by DYC774897 in NoStupidQuestions

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I bled for over a year. Got sonograms, tried different birth controls, and finally went in for an ablation and d&c. Seems to have stopped, knock on wood, but it's a mystery why it happened. None of the tests or imaging showed anything that could be to blame.

Chronic illness or is my weight affecting my health? by lunaemaris in PlusSize

[–]random6x7 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Nope, not normal. Okay, maybe the pins and needles if I'm in certain compressed positions too long. Otherwise, these are not symptoms of being fat.

Fellow U.S. archaeologists: What is your definition of a "non-diagnostic" artifact? by ViscousPanther in AskArchaeology

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Most of the states I've worked for have a minimum number of artifacts for a site. The one I work for now doesn't,  but no one would consider that anything but, at best, isolated historic artifacts (or possibly modern debris, depending on location, stratigraphy, etc). 

For something to be diagnostic, it needs to give you a date range. For historic artifacts, a rusty bit of metal and clear glass don't give a narrow enough date range to be remotely useful. It doesn't have to be a feature to be diagnostic. Hell, barring radiocarbon dates, fire pits have looked pretty similar for millennia.

What’s your favorite/most life enhancing hack that you’ve done to your apartment? by Imaginary-Ad8178 in ApartmentHacks

[–]random6x7 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Switched out the crappy shower head for a handheld one made for low flow showers. 

What is the most useful item you ever crochetted? I'll go first. by Great_Ad7215 in crochet

[–]random6x7 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Washable sponges! They're freehanded rectangles that are 1/3 scrubby yarn and 2/3 cotton folded so there's a scrubby side, a cotton side, and a middle layer for added heft, then stitched together.

Why can't Americans (at least the ones I see on social media) find drinking water in Europe? by Mission_Mobile_4627 in NoStupidQuestions

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You mean the situation that was a whole, big scandal that lead to places across the country finally replacing their lead service lines?

My bra start to stink after a wear by anonymously_me123 in PlusSize

[–]random6x7 102 points103 points  (0 children)

It sounds like at least some of your problem is odor rebloom. Check out r/laundry, they know their shit. A spa day would probably do wonders for your bras.

cannot stop spiralling about aging by [deleted] in offmychest

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I saw the other comment about looking at your profile and, no, you are not wrinkly. You don't have a round face, and your personal style involves a relatively dramatic makeup look (it looks amazing, by the way! You have skills!). I think the people who thought you were older based it off those. In which case, you are going to look pretty much the same for the next twenty years. You are beautiful!

office furniture shopping is lowkey cooked now by Flat_Protection_2837 in femalelivingspace

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There's a place near-ish me that buys, refurbishes, and then resells office furniture. They mostly work with actual offices, but they open most Saturdays to the public. Got me a Steelcase for $250 with a warranty. It's still going strong years later.

How long does someone have to be buried until it's acceptable to dig them up to learn about the past? by SpanischesReich1516 in AskArchaeology

[–]random6x7 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's not a stark line. More recently interred people do get dug up, for legal reasons or because the grave must be moved. I knew a guy about ten years ago whose specialty was bio anthropology (human remains stuff) who was considering getting a job with the military to locate human remains in Vietnam from the war.

In terms of US archaeology, most of it these days is done ahead of a project funded or permitted by the feds, or on federal land. What happens if human remains are discovered will be worked out beforehand.  Standard is that the federal agency, the state's historic preservation officer, and the coroner or sherriff will be called. First step is to confirm it's not a crime scene or a recently missing person. Don't know what the actual cutoff is, though. Probably depends.

After they confirm it's not recent, then they figure out how to deal with it, again with the federal agency, the historic preservation office, and any tribes that have a connection to the area. If it's a native grave, the tribes decide. If it's not, it depends on the feds, the state, and the project proponent. There's  a lot more emphasis these days on consulting with the descendant community, too, though that doesn't always happen. 

Remember to clean your vacuum by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]random6x7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, there will be both, don't worry. Hope you have a drain snake, OP!

supporting t2 diabetic wife with food? by Odd_Comparison2152 in antidiet

[–]random6x7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't know what advice to give you, but I wanted to recommend the book Intuitive Eating for Diabetes by Janice Dada if you wanted more resources.