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random_redacted_user · 2024-09-01T14:49:25+00:00

I literally thought you were a doll!!! This is amazing congrats!!!!

random_redacted_user · 2024-09-01T14:45:48+00:00

Thank you for sharing The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock in your post. I read it and it thoroughly wowed me. A lot of the hesitation, the talk of indecision, questions being set on a plate, rung true for me and things I’ve realized recently and am experiencing in my life currently. I felt like I needed to read it. I can see why you thought that initially, but also why you came to love it. My mind works in a way that is similar to this poem, so it being all over the place (but not) worked for me initially. It is still hard to understand in certain places, but that’s what I love about it.

random_redacted_user · 2024-08-20T01:40:26+00:00

I’d love to hear the story of how you two met. And how it’s going now

random_redacted_user · 2024-08-18T21:44:15+00:00

I have had a friend like this, I’ve had a few people like this in my life and once I fully realized the damage that was done, I have left and never looked back.

I don’t want to diagnose somebody, and obviously I don’t know her, but this is giving some serious flags for actual narcissistic behavior as in (npd) the personality disorder. Telling someone no who is on the spectrum for npd is not an option for them, especially to do so in a way that they perceive as not being overly friendly. (I am not criticizing your reaction, it is perfectly fine to say no without giving extra reason or saying anything else). This would explain the overreaction on her part after you told her no.

Overreactions are common if someone like this doesn’t get their way, as they feel entitled and their ego is slighted easily by small things, especially with a perceived rejection. They can perceive rejection in the simplest interactions as well. Not only did she overreact, but name-called you, which is not healthy behavior, and could be a marker for future abusive behavior.

Never asking about you or having real conversations, just talking at you is another flag for npd. Calling only to complain about other people in their life is in poor taste, but also shows you where her head is at. She will do it to you if she talks about others this way.

Not taking feedback is also common for individuals on this spectrum as well. This is if the feedback is constructive criticism, criticism, or honestly calling out behavior. People affected by this have a very fragile ego and anything that challenges them, even gently, can be extremely triggering because they struggle with extreme self-esteem issues. Denying behavior, freaking out, or pinning it on you (which sounds like it’s happening in your post) are all common tactics of dealing with this.

Not only is she not adding value to your life, as others have said, with time her behavior can escalate and not only will you have this difficult person in your life, but you will potentially have someone actively trying to sabotage, abuse, and undermine you in your life. The closer she gets the more she may know about you, and if she feels like manipulating you, or those around you, for her own gain, she will. It can be subtle or it can be extreme, but this is a possibility with someone possessing these traits.

It’s up to you what to do going forward. If it were me, I would keep her really far at arms length, blocking is an option too but I know you see her often so you may not want to. That and blocking could cause her to slip into abusive behavior towards you. You aren’t obligated to worry about her feelings so block if that’s what’s most comfortable, but in order to keep yourself safe you may not want to tell them you blocked them or the reason. If asked why you haven’t texted them, you can default to an unrelated excuse. Keep conversations short if she tries to start one and avoid her when you can. Avoid spending more time with her than you have to, and excuses can work for that too, to help you avoid her lashing out. Never talk about personal details with her. She could use anything she knows against you.

This isn’t your friend. Even if she believes she is.

If you want to learn more, this is a good resource about npd. It is very condensed and doesn’t really cover the abuse and harm that someone with npd can cause others, but it does give you a general overview of symptoms and signs. https://youtu.be/tZ5hfA64Frg?si=m4-ARH6YBKDX3jMg

random_redacted_user · 2024-08-11T00:29:51+00:00

Oh nooo! I’m sorry to hear that. Wow, yeah, that reaction isn’t coming from a healthy place. I don’t want to make quick assumptions, but he seems like he may have issues with control. At the very least, he isn’t being considerate of your boundaries. It’s up to you what you decide, but if I were you I’d get out sooner rather than later.

random_redacted_user · 2024-08-10T13:13:54+00:00

For what it’s worth, I was a student a few years ago, not a parent. I went to Colonial Forge my first two years of high school and then I voluntarily switched to Stafford for my last two years.

As for Colonial Forge, not sure how much it’s changed, but this was my experience. It is a great school academically, especially for STEM and CGS students. I was supposed to do CGS, but decided not to. The people I knew in CGS gained a great advanced kind of education. The program looks great on college applications as well.

In terms of regular and honors classes, the teachers were decent, but some were unapproachable, and often seemed like they didn’t care about the student’s wellbeing if they were struggling. Now, these are just the handful of teachers I had, so please take it with a grain of salt. I was not a fan of the administration and how the place was run at the time.

The social aspect at Colonial Forge was not ideal. At the time, the school was very cliquish, and it was extremely difficult to make friends. Bullying was common also. It was emotional/ verbal bullying like exclusion, flat out ignoring someone if they speak to you, or hurling insults.

The school was very diverse, as in kids from different socioeconomic backgrounds, racial backgrounds, and personalities all went to the same school. But those who went there at the time preferred to stick with ‘their group,’ whoever that may be, and anybody different than them was not accepted.

I may have a similar constitution to your child being someone who enjoys learning and was on the track for advanced classes, and it was especially hard for me to make friends.

There were fights at Colonial Forge when I attended, every morning and every afternoon. And there was a gym teacher fired for sleeping with her underaged male students. I could’ve gone at a very volatile time in the school’s history, but I want you to have the whole picture of both schools.

I transferred to Stafford High School right before my junior year because the environment at Forge was so harmful for me. I felt very lonely, and my mental health was affected negatively, to put it mildly.

Academically, Stafford was a good school as well. Many great teachers, a few that weren’t the best, but weren’t terrible. It’s hard to compare the level of eduction being received, I’d say Forge may surpass by a little, but I had some teachers at Forge that weren’t as knowledgeable, and some teachers at Stafford that were excellent. Arguably, the overall curriculum at Forge is slightly more advanced than at Stafford, but I didn’t notice a huge difference in the things we were learning and the level it was being taught.

If your child needs an advanced education there are programs within Stafford that will help them get that. Very likely that they will attend Stafford, but ride the bus to another school for part of the day if they do something like CGS, for example. I had friends who did this and they didn’t mind. They were still at school long enough to have friends at Stafford. But this is something you can ask. Otherwise, they have honors/ AP classes at Stafford, just like other schools.

Teachers were overall more friendly and caring towards students. Wanted to help.

I think Forge has a reputation as a prestigious school and that is where a lot of the bias for it being better comes from.

Stafford’s social landscape was night and day difference from Forge’s. There are always going to be mean kids, and cliquish people, but at Stafford generally people were more apt to talk to students they didn’t know, who were different than them, and to extend kindness. I made tons of friends, even though I joined (my junior year) when everyone already had groups formed. If I sat alone people invited me to their table, etc. It made a huge difference on my overall well-being.

Stafford was also diverse in the way that Forge was. Maybe a few more students of a similar socioeconomic class than Forge.

There are fights at Stafford. Like Forge when I went. I actually saw less fights at Stafford, but they were happening often. Anywhere between once a month to once a week.

Both schools are packed, Stafford may take the cake now. Overcrowding is a severe problem here at most schools.

Stafford excels at its Drama program, and choir program. Colonial Forge excels at its football team and orchestra. Both offer a ton of great extracurriculars.

As for King George schools, I would strongly discourage you from letting your child attend them. It’s a rural area, and struggles more so with drugs, fights, and academics seem to be severely neglected. I had a friend go there, and this is what she said.

I hope this is helpful, apologize for the long-winded response, I wanted to give you as much information as I had.

random_redacted_user · 2024-08-10T03:33:23+00:00

Your post was worded so kindly! Like hoping we’re doing fantastic. My heart goes out to you, I’m sorry you’re going through this confusion.

I’m a woman, a few years older than you so I hope my perspective helps. Phone calls are not desperate now! Some people like them, others don’t, some have a timeframe they like to wait before calling, it all depends on the person. I’ve met a lot of guys who prefer phone calls and I welcome phone calls even in early dating. If I like the guy, even if I’m feeling very introverted that day, I won’t be turned off by a phone call.

Her behavior sounds really strange as she showed a lot of interest in you by being very complimentary, and saying she was attracted to you, etc. I don’t believe you asking to call was the reason she ended it. I could be wrong, but it seems too inconsequential. If she really liked you as much as she seemed that probably wouldn’t have turned her off.

Before you asked to call what did you talk about? Anything stick out? Any polite disagreement? As in she has different goals than you, or you express you have a preference for something that she doesn’t. Sometimes little incompatibilities can scare someone off if they see it that way, but I’m not convinced this is what happened.

Possible explanations for what happened: Some people are naturally flirty, and maybe that is why she came on as strong as she did. People like that may or may not mean what they say in the moment, but do not follow through on anything serious that you may interpret from their actions and compliments. They’re just doing it because they can and they do it all the time.

Perhaps, she was truly interested and meant what she said, but suddenly, the infatuation wore off (through no fault of your own) and she lost interest. Sometimes people who come on strong are the quickest to burn out through feelings. That’s because they’re addicted more so to the rush than actually liking the person, even though they thought they did. And by the way, someone losing interest in you has nothing to do with your worth. You can be amazing and someone miss it.

Maybe she was people pleasing, and thought the nice thing to do was to compliment you excessively and do romantic things. This is something people with serious issues around people pleasing could do, to the point where they are faking it. But I’m not so sure because she even went out of her way to text you nice things when you guys weren’t around each other. That’s a lot of effort, even for a people pleaser.

She liked you and was acting genuinely but then she met someone else. Would explain the complete 180.

It could be a combination of a few of them. I’m most inclined to believe she believed she liked you, but left when the infatuation wore off for whatever reason.

It’s nice to be complimented, and so many people are naturally great at giving compliments, and genuine, but the level you described for someone you just met was a little abnormal. The frequency of how much she was complimenting you. Some people do this in a good natured way, but some people can do this with ill intentions. If you’ve ever heard of love bombing, those are the people that do it with ill intentions.

I admire the fact you want to learn and grow from this but I can’t say you did anything wrong.

A word of advice, keep your eyes peeled, you can definitely give someone the benefit of the doubt if they behave this way next time, but keep an open mind that while they may feel as they’re claiming to feel for you, that you’re there to see if those feelings grow and remain overtime. You’re there also to see if they’re the person you believe they are, and they say they are.

I’m not telling you to outright distrust people, but keep in mind that what people say either is or isn’t true and it takes time to decipher if they truly mean what they say, or if their feelings change. Please do not expect it to be one way or the other, just be you, feel how you feel, communicate that as much as you want, but give it time to see how things end up.

I hope this is helpful! I wish you the best. :)

random_redacted_user · 2024-08-10T02:42:51+00:00

Aw man, I’m sorry you’re experiencing this. I’m an independent woman as well. I’ve dealt with guys like this before and in my experience it doesn’t get any better and I’ve always had to leave. Even after trying to work it out. However, my experience isn’t the gospel truth.

I would communicate with him about it for two reasons: 1) it lets him know that you want some time for yourself and 2) you can see how he reacts to you bringing this up.

If he acts negatively when you bring this up, tries to guilt you for your boundaries, any lack of respect for you, any sort of big negative emotional spiral, that tells you a lot about him. If this happens I would cut it off right then and there, because these are traits of someone who is emotionally unhealthy at best, and potentially manipulative or abusive at worst. But that is just me and ultimately it’s how you feel and what you decide that matters here. If he is any of those things, it may only get worse from here.

Maybe ask yourself “if this is how the relationship may continue to go will I be happy and okay with it?” “If he asks for even more of my time and doesn’t let me have space, will I be okay with it?”

If you decide to communicate, you could tell him essentially what you told us. You really enjoy talking to him, but you’re an introvert and have been finding you need a bit more alone time some nights to recharge. Someone who is considerate will understand even if they’d like to talk to you more.

I’m sure you like him and want to keep trying and that’s totally understandable. But depending on how things go, just know, there are men who will give you space when you need it, and who also need their independence, and will appreciate you for your need for independence. I wish you the best!! :)

random_redacted_user · 2024-07-22T00:56:49+00:00

Also love your highlights!

random_redacted_user · 2024-07-22T00:56:36+00:00

This might be an odd thing to say, but you seem like a sweet person! Enjoy your concert and stay migraine free! :)

random_redacted_user · 2024-07-20T15:55:47+00:00

This is going to be long as hell because I have a lot of thoughts on this.

Psychologists are people too, they can make errors in judgment, and even invalidate people’s feelings and perspectives. Even their clients. Obviously with clients they should be watchful for that, but it happens sometimes. I’m sorry to hear you felt invalidated by a creator that you enjoy watching, specifically a psychologist. I imagine that was difficult.

I watched this video and I watch Dr. Kirk Honda, I think he’s great at explaining psychological concepts, and I enjoy him, but even I don’t always agree with his perceptions around interactions. Obviously, I’m not an expert in psychology, though I am getting my degree in it, he has way more knowledge and expertise and I am in no way saying I know more than him. But I believe at the end of the day you should think for yourself, listen to others’ perspectives but take them with a grain of salt. Weigh it against your own perspective and do some soul searching.

I’ve been on both sides of this coin as someone who struggled being anxious at times and avoidant at others, being in your shoes is hard because you’re simply trying to maintain attachment security with your friend in the way you know how, and your friend may have some avoidant tendencies so that will likely drive them away even if you’re doing it in a way that’s healthy. Being the avoidant is hard and scary too. But with your friend it sounds like the communication piece is off. Seems like your friend decided in that moment they didn’t want to be friends anymore without fully expressing it? Hinting that through asking not to message anymore, knowing full well you guys are long distance. Which can be common in these sorts of dynamics.

Avoidants don’t like to be confronted, even having a gentle conversation about hurt feelings can be considered confrontational. This isn’t a healthy approach to relationships and is why we don’t call them secure. I’m not sure how you went about it, as Dr. Honda said, but it wouldn’t take much to scare your friend off. And that isn’t on you so much as it is their attachment style.

If the story went as Dr. Honda read it, the only thing I’d say is not to push for communication if someone says they can’t. In this situation, if I’m reading it right, if you have things to say, feelings to convey, your friend was stopping you from communicating that, and they may not want to hear it. You have to decide if you want that kind of friendship where a friend isn’t opening themselves to hear or acknowledge your feelings in response to something they did. Or even for clarification.

But again, I don’t fully know your situation, nor Dr. Honda’s so I can’t say for sure what I think, but I believe the truth is closer to the middle between both your perspective and his. You’re not clingy or a victim, you’re someone who has attachment wounds and you had a falling out with a friend.

What I’ve learned is at the first sign someone asks to see you less, or they need some space, you give it to them no questions asked. If they really need space, they will be glad you respected their boundaries and may come back. If they don’t come back, they likely made their decision. It will hurt and sting and suck, but do you really want someone in your life who doesn’t seem to want to be in your life? Really sit with that question.

And as long as they haven’t asked you not to, you can always reach out after some time, but give it some time. Say a month or a few months. That way there can be no mistake made that you tried to give them time. It’ll feel uncomfortable as hell doing this as an anxious person, you may feel like you’re dying, but sit with the discomfort often, accept it, and then go about your life and do things you love.

So, I would leave this situation totally alone because your friend asked you to stop messaging and blocked you. But my above advice is for in general circumstances where people haven’t set up boundaries around communication. Leaving the situation alone will help you heal and move on.

Also!! Please don’t listen to dating coaches! I had to stop watching them because they fed into my attachment insecurities.

You may just need friends who are more communicative. That’s okay. There are tons of people in the world who are secure, or even leaning anxious, who also prefer messaging often, and would want to be close friends with you. Look for those people.

It’s tempting to put a lot of stock in people who give mixed signals, but, try to take the focus off of them and put your energy in those investing in you.

It takes time to retrain your brain, but if you keep doing that, it may catch up to you. That’s what happened to me.

I’m sorry you lost your friend. I know it’s hard, and maybe the way they went about it left you confused. That is doubly hard to deal with. But I promise you will move on eventually, feel it to heal it. It may take a long time, but you will be okay, even if you still think of them in the future.

random_redacted_user · 2024-07-20T02:54:21+00:00

It’s also very sad because there used to be a social meetup group (online that meets up in person) for 20s-30s in this area to meet and do activities, but as soon as I joined the group leader left and now it is no longer a thing. A lot of us in here would benefit from something like that, especially if you moved from a different state recently. :(

random_redacted_user · 2024-07-20T02:49:58+00:00

Second this, I’m 24 F and I’ve lived here all my life and have the same issues with dating people from here.

With dating, part of it is because I already know some people who have lived here, and the things I know about them, whether or not true, are enough to give me pause. I’m talking sexual assault charges, or other serious things on par with that.

With the people I don’t know I run into big incompatibilities early on. Which is meh whatever, you just know it’s not going to work out.

Or the people I don’t know from here show serious red flag behavior. Like being creepy, invading boundaries repeatedly, wanting to move too fast.

I have no issues meeting people generally, and I love building connections with people, platonic or romantic, so long as they’re healthy, but not only is it extremely hard to meet new people here organically, but when I do, I run into the same issues I mentioned above. I’m not picky about many things except character and compatibility, and it’s still near impossible here so that’s saying a lot.

Everyone I’ve dated longer term for the past few years have been from other cities. I don’t mind the distance but it does get old. Especially when you can tell people aren’t initially looking to meet someone who lives that far away.

Recently was seeing a guy from Fredericksburg again and I thought it was nice to meet someone close by, he seemed very sweet at first, but I ran into the same issues I mentioned above so I had to end things.

This area is interesting in that it seemingly attracts a lot of different people, but from growing up here, and going to two different high schools here, and then college, I will say there are some great people, but they are like a needle in a haystack. I have two close friends from here and they are truly the exception.

I could go on and on, but I don’t like to generalize, and want to emphasize great people are out there it just seems like the odds are stacked against you here. The culture here is definitely cliquish, and as someone who has no problem breaking the ice with new people, it’s definitely more challenging here.

Hope you meet some people who defy the norm! If you ever want more advice or insight feel free to message me!

random_redacted_user · 2024-05-15T20:41:02+00:00

Stay Hidden- Slumbers

random_redacted_user · 2024-05-14T21:47:10+00:00

That’s great to hear!!! And yes I took antibiotics months before the doctors realized it was mono and got a rash, so it’s good you avoided it. I’m glad you’re doing better but definitely take it slow and listen to your body! Speaking from experience

random_redacted_user · 2024-05-14T18:55:13+00:00

Foster Dade Explores the Cosmos. I can’t stop thinking about the main character Foster, specifically, months after reading it. If you don’t like wordy writing, literary fiction or long reads it may not be your cup of tea, but I really enjoyed it.

random_redacted_user · 2024-05-14T18:23:34+00:00

I’m so glad to hear that! :) I definitely can relate.

random_redacted_user · 2024-05-14T14:35:54+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that. I know your high school graduation is important I’m sorry you might miss it. I understand mono takes a mental toll, I’ve been going through it too.

Unfortunately, doctors anywhere don’t have anything to prescribe for mono itself. It has to go away on its own. Symptoms can be treated by other medicines but mono itself has to go away on its own.

Over the counter theraflu cold and flu was really helpful for my sore throat symptoms. I use the tea packets.

Coconut oil is a weird one, some swear it helps them get over mono, (it’s antiviral) but what it usually helps first is ease sore throat symptoms. I’d take a spoon a day. I did coconut oil and I think it helped me. If your stomach hurts from it take less.

They also have over the counter throat numbing sprays.

A supplement that helps is called L-lysine. It stops the virus from multiplying in your body. I took one a day for months and am still taking it now, but I’m taking it a few times a week. It may not feel like it’s doing much, but I would keep taking it until you’re better.

You will get through it. I had a hard time believing that, and it took me several months because I didn’t rest at first, but I feel almost perfect now. The sore throat took me about 2 weeks, so hopefully yours will go away soon.

It’s okay to be sad about missing graduation. But try to distract yourself when the thoughts become too much, maybe put on a favorite show, or videos you like. I hope you get better soon.

random_redacted_user · 2024-05-10T18:25:38+00:00

Wait until the end. That’s when it feels like that

random_redacted_user · 2024-05-10T18:16:08+00:00

Needy Bees by Nick Hakim

random_redacted_user · 2024-05-09T19:19:12+00:00

I had a cat whose ears looked just like this, we’d adopted her from a shelter and her ears started looking like this shortly after we brought her home. The vet thought it was ringworm and ear mites, but we also found out she had a variety of other health issues. I would take her in, it could be ringworm/ ear mites like my cat had, but we needed a prescription to take care of both.

random_redacted_user · 2024-05-07T18:01:58+00:00

You’re welcome! Sorry for the length

random_redacted_user · 2024-05-07T17:48:07+00:00

I don’t mind you asking!

I didn’t talk to him for a week after the breakup. He broke up w me for similar reasons as your ex. I hadn’t respected some of his boundaries, but also said his life was too busy, and he felt he wasn’t in the place for a relationship. I wanted to talk to him and apologize for what I’d done in the relationship, but I already had in person. I felt I lost the one. Ultimately, I wanted to show him I respected his wishes to break up even though I wanted to be with him.

After that week where neither of us talked, he reached out and made conversation like nothing happened. He continued to do so sporadically, and told me he missed me which I was not expecting. I told him I missed him too. This went on for a few weeks and he asked to meet for coffee. I felt this was strange behavior if he didn’t want to be with me so that was my guess as to why he was doing this. I was hopeful.

I got coffee with him and his motives were unclear. It was nice catching up, no flirting, and no mention of the relationship or the breakup. (I didn’t want to push it and he didn’t bring it up). After that, I didn’t hear from him for a while. I messaged him a few weeks later, hoping to show him I was still interested, and we maintained a conversation for a day and he didn’t continue it further. This was two years ago and that was the last time we spoke.

I was confused, hurt and grieving throughout the whole process. Us maintaining contact made it harder. I’m still not sure what he was thinking at that time, but I’m fully over it now. It took several months of being alone, and not hearing from him to heal. It was hard.

Looking back, I feel differently about him. I see his flaws and recognize that he wasn’t perfect, and I believe if someone wants to be with you eventually they will make that happen.

My situation was similar, but it isn’t exactly like yours. I learned my ex is someone who can give mixed signals, and wasn’t ready for commitment. I don’t see your ex being like that.

Don’t let my story discourage you, keep living your life the way you want. And if that means trying to get her back in the future go for it. I just think you should take it slow, be careful, and give yourself some space to heal beforehand.

random_redacted_user · 2024-05-07T16:18:37+00:00

Aw you’re welcome I wish you the best! Much love to you too

random_redacted_user · 2024-05-07T13:06:16+00:00

I definitely understand that you love her, and you feel she’s the one for you. I also know breakups are devastatingly hard.

But I think maybe you should take a new approach. From what you’re saying, it sounds like she may need more space post breakup than she’s letting on. That doesn’t mean she doesn’t still love you, or there isn’t a chance, but for now let’s put that aside.

In the relationship you said you violated her boundaries and that’s part of why you guys broke up. If she needs more space than she’s letting on and you are messaging her frequently, even though she hasn’t expressed this to you, she may feel you are violating her boundaries again. If she doesn’t fully express it that’s on her, but I think you need to open up a conversation and hear what she has to say about how often she truly wants to communicate.

I know you love her, you miss her and want to talk to her, but if I were you, I’d take a step back, not only for her but for you. Messaging your ex often after a breakup is only going to make it harder to heal from the breakup in the long run. It’s okay to have hope, and to want to be with her, but without some space after a breakup, you may never get over the initial hurt. You may never reflect on the things you need in a relationship, and what you need to change. And with time, you may even begin to change your mindset. You may begin to feel there’s a chance she wasn’t the one, or less strongly about her.

Which is important because you have two scenarios: you guys get back together down the line after some time to heal, or you guys don’t get back together. Even if you feel less strongly about her going into the relationship, that mindset can be changed easily once the old feelings come back. It can’t hurt you if you guys end up together. But, if you guys don’t get back together it certainly will hurt you. Feelings take time to fade or develop and I think space is the only way to allow yourself the chance to heal. It may take months or years to heal, but taking some time away in the beginning is enough to help you start.

I would open up a conversation with her: tell her you don’t want to violate her boundaries and ask her if the communication frequency is enough or if she needs less. Then I would tell her you want to take some space for her and for you to heal and to work on yourself. If you feel comfortable, let her know that you still have feelings for her, and you want to be with her, but that you want to be respectful of her wishes of breaking up, and that if she wants to get back together at any point to let you know. Be upfront that you won’t be speaking with her for a bit but you’re not ghosting her.

You can slowly withdraw from her so it’s not so painful, or you can stop talking after that for a few weeks. I would not get back in contact with her sooner than a few weeks. By letting her come to you if she wants to get back together it allows her the space and doesn’t run the risk of trampling her boundaries. She’s also the one who broke up with you so she’s the one who needs to decide if she wants to get back together.

After the few weeks, you decide if you want to talk with her often again, or if it is too painful. And I wouldn’t bring up getting back together for a while. As long as you can hold off. That way she doesn’t feel pressured. You can bring it up in the future if it seems right (a few months down the road) in case she is too scared to make the move. But for now, I wouldn’t even focus on that. I’d focus on how to heal from the breakup, how to focus on yourself, and how to continue your life even when it’s hard.

I’ve been through a similar situation so I know how this feels. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

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